twkvfx Posted November 26, 2006 Share Posted November 26, 2006 My motivation keeps running away from me. Every time I think about my personal aims (like school work getting the best grade, make a new friend, etc) I feel motivated that I can achieve it. But when I actually meet those aims, my motivation disappears. So what's going on? To be honest I never felt this way before. This issue has started about a couple of months back. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted November 26, 2006 Share Posted November 26, 2006 It seems you like the 'chase". I love setting things up but hate the day to day running of them. There is nothing wrong, per se, with this personality trait, just make sure you find a job that suits it. Link to post Share on other sites
InsanityImpaired Posted November 27, 2006 Share Posted November 27, 2006 The real issue seems to be the source of your motivation. You can be highly motivated to do something, because of external circumstances. Those externals can be punishments (If I fail, there is no chance I will get in college) and can be positive rewards (eg. if I do well, she will notice me). But once the external circumstance is not there anymore, you lose all the motivation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author twkvfx Posted November 27, 2006 Author Share Posted November 27, 2006 The real issue seems to be the source of your motivation. You can be highly motivated to do something, because of external circumstances. Those externals can be punishments (If I fail, there is no chance I will get in college) and can be positive rewards (eg. if I do well, she will notice me). But once the external circumstance is not there anymore, you lose all the motivation. What are you trying to say? Link to post Share on other sites
InsanityImpaired Posted November 27, 2006 Share Posted November 27, 2006 What motivates you? Is it the act of accomplishing something, or is it the reward itself, that comes with the accomplishing of this or that intention? Do you do well in school because you want to, or because of the reward it brings? These are not the same. You can do well, because you are intrinstically motivated to do well. And value academic achievement highly. There would be no real need to motivate oneself, because one is "naturally" motivated. What is natural is different for different people. Or you can do well, because of external motivations. You don't naturally care much about achieving the best you can (you may even have a slight aversion against that), but you do want to do well enough, so you can get in med school, for example. So once you have qualified, the motivation to do well is gone. And you would need to find a new source of motivation. This can go on and on. The question is however, if things are different now, than in the past? And if so, what are the differences? Link to post Share on other sites
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