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[WiseOne]

A Year ago i came to loveshack due to a relationship breakup of me and my ex, we dated 1 year and 8 Months.

 

It was a terrible breakup, that didnt go so good, with people saying stuff that they didnt mean, and lies been told. She broke up with me, becuz she felt that she needed to see what else what out there, so we've been broke up for a year and a month.

 

Many times after the relationship i called and called and begged and begged. But she wouldnt take me back. So she became a pimp and dated atlest 30 or 40 guys. We came close to getting back together 3 times, but she always didnt really have her heart in it.

 

4 Months ago i told her never to call me again becuz i felt she was playing games, and wasnt serious about me and her getting back together, i told her only to call me if she wnated to get back together, she said yea and that was that. She would still call all my friends becuz me and her shared many of the same friends she called them and always asked how was i doing, bassically my friends were breaking my NC.

 

She called me today asking me questions like am i seeing anyone, and she said that her and her current bf wasnt doing good and that they had broke up, and she said she wanted to make sure that it was a sure thing and if so we could get back together. WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT THIS SISTUATION??????????

 

 

PS. She says im her first love, and she is mines, and she says she still loves me.

[silentalways]

buy a home together

have babies

be happy

[Krying]

Your in a position many of us have only wished would happen to us... an ex coming back to you, or wanting to come back. If you still love her and want to be with her then go for it. However take it slow. 30-40 guys? Wow that's just plain, well nasty. That is not the actions of a person who loves you. But what do I know. Take my comments with a grain of salt. It comes down to your feelings for her and whether or not you can trust her again with your heart.

[BannaBee57]

I just don't know about this one.

 

It sounds like she has exhausted all her other options and is coming back to you because she knows you'll take her back. Do you feel good about this? I guess I would wonder if she would still be coming back had I not chased her so much. What changed her mind now?

[WiseOne]

Im not sure, all i know is she said that she doesnt want him, and that tommorrow if its a sure thing that they are thru, then we will get backtogether.

 

I've waited for this day for 1 YEAR AND 2 MONTHS, 1 YEAR AND 2 MONTHS I'VE WAITED FOR THIS DAY. But thats only if its a sure thing, and if it is were back together. She was a pimp for along time, she would date guys and just throw them out everymonth and sometimes the same day

 

They were together for 5 months, and we were together for 1 year and 8 months. I seware it was a great relationship, the last 2 months it just started going down hill.

 

I Still love her but what if it isnt over for good between them, im not going back to waiting mode, im gonna kick her out of my life again and tell her i never want to talk to her again, and that was her last chance, and she can no longer come back to me. I Tried to move on and do NC but she always breaks it. This time if we dont get backtogether it will be Sudden Death Nc, i will change my number or block her number and everything.

 

Becuz she has burned the bridge for the last time.

[2001Acura]

OK.......I don't post here often, but I'm in a similiar situation myself! My girlfriend and I broke up a/b 5 or 6 weeks ago, because she decided she wanted to persue a relationship w/ someone else. I have enough self-respect to NEVER contact her again. NEVER - as in "Not-EVER".

 

So, here's what she says to you "her and her current bf wasnt doing good and that they had broke up, and she said she wanted to make sure that it was a sure thing and if so we could get back together."

 

As in, she wants to keep you on the backburner....JUST IN CASE "it's a sure thing", she can come back to you!

 

Now you ask, "WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT THIS SITUATION?" If you respect yourself, you will walk-on-by!

 

Remember, 2nd place is the first LOSER!

 

Is that what you want?

[WiseOne]

I Agree i think she is trynna put me on teh backburner again, someone she can run too whenever she has problems with her new relationship, i will get to the bottom of this tommorrow around 4:30pm.

 

Im gonna make quick work of this, if we dun get back tommorrow, me and her are done once again, im going back to full NC, and im talking no talking or emailing, or anythign what so ever. She says that isnt what she is trynna do, to me she still is givin him the time to come back, if she didnt want him thats that and its over.

 

I've seen many success stories on this site and in life that has ended up with the coupel getting backtogether. It wont hurt to try.

 

So i'll see tommorrow.

[2001Acura]

I'm not trying to sound too harsh or cold about the situation and I'm sure you'll get to the bottom of it quickly.

 

But if you want my opinion...........you've already gotten to the bottom of it. She's made her choice - if her current boyfriend "decides" he doesn't want it to be over, where does it leave you?

 

If you think she hasn't made her decision, "then help her make it by walkin' away"! She'll **** in her pants, because she knows shes got you waitin' in the wings........when in the end, neither really matter. Surprise her and call her bluff! Then walk away with your head held high and don't look back. I will personally guarantee "all she's gonna do is get back together with you for a bit, then decide she wants to play the field again."

 

I don't wanna hurt your feelings, I'd rather see you walkin' w/ you head-up and knock this girl down to size a bit.

 

I'll add - I know it's hard for you when your hearts involved and you care the way that you do, but in the long run, aren't you a lot further today, then you were when you broke up? Why do you wanna let her disrespect you and ruin your dignity. Man, you got more going for you than this. Trust me, it's a whole lot easier after you've moved on for a while, I wouldn't have stated my position sooo strongly 5 weeks ago and I'm still heartbroken, but I care more about ME, than I do about HER.

[WiseOne]

Man she doensst really hurt me at all, i mean she did it so much, that now it doesnt bother me.

 

I dont think it will hurt, im gonna do this it wont hurt if i try. And we've been broken up for a whole year, so to me it doesnt matter.

 

But to me its a bunch of bull****, but hey im not losing anythign i will take the no, and go on about my way.

 

So im still gonna try

[D-Lish]

You'd be the craziest, crazy person to take her back after all that's happened.

It's crazy to even WANT to giver her a second chance.

Did I mention crazy yet?

 

What are you thinking?

[WiseOne]

Whoa Whoa Whoa, my ex ddint cheat on me or anything, so i dun see it as being that bad, she just was confused, just like every every every other ex.

 

My ex didnt do anything extra that any other ex did to the dumpee. Yall say they should get a second chance, Well Why cant i take my ex back?

 

She was just confused, and dint know what she wanted, but now shes ready to settle down.

 

To me cheating is something that can never beforgivin, so aslong as she didnt do anything that bad its okay.

[D-Lish]

30 to 40 guys since your break up. with someone else presently, can't decide what she wants... And you'd still take her back?

 

She hasn't done anything major?

Come on. You're looking at this person through rose coloured glasses.

Think about it... 30-40 guys. And you're okay with this.

 

You can forgive all that?

[WiseOne]

Yes it didnt hurt me at all, she dated all those guys and stayed with them for a week or so and moved on, i guess she was trying to find what she wanted.

 

It didnt hurt me at all, she dated all of those guys after we broke up, actually it made me feel good to know that she wasnt gettin serious with these guys. That way i fuguired aslong as she wasnt serious with them, that gave me a chance.

 

So she wanted to be a pimp, aslong as she didnt pimp me im ok, its the other guys that should be mad. And actually there broke up there not together, she said sometimes he goes thru this mad period and says stuff he doesnt mean, she says she wants to make sure its over becuz she would want to hurt the guy, by not givin him time to cool off.

 

Shes saying she doesnt know if there going thru one of them relationship problems were you temporarily breakup, and she's trynna make sure if its the real thing.

 

Rumors from friends, not her friends, but from his friends is that she told him when they first got together that she wasnt over her ex (Me), so she couldnt commit to the relationship.

[WiseOne]

I guess I would wonder if she would still be coming back had I not chased her so much.

[WiseOne]

I Guess i'll have to see tommorrow

[Krying]

This story sounds worse by the post WiseOne! The fact you were not bothered she dated 30-40 people! I understand you love her, but come on, that makes you her 41st choice for a mate!? Find someone who will make you their first! Who will love you unconditionally. Who will love both your good and bad qualities. You will stick with you for good and bad. Your ex is not that person. Who do you know in your life has been in 30-40 relationships in their entire life? I've never met such a person.

[WiseOne]

Well i've been with 38 girls in my whole life, i actually remember everysingle one of there names, she was young and she just needed to go and explore.

 

Tommorrow it will be time for the big show, i have to talk to a couple of my close friends about this sistuation, and about what should i do, i mean they were actually around the whole time we dated so they should know.

 

Not saying you guys woouldnt know (No Disrespect), but tommorrow we gotta see.

 

It will all be over tommorrow before 5, it will even be deal or no deal

[WiseOne]

An guys nevermind me i might be overestimating here, it could be more like 20 guys, but as long as she didnt sleep with them i dont have a problem, theres nothing wrong with dating, i've had 38 gfs, and im not a bad person.

 

I Wanna Say Thank You Too Everyone Who Responded, i'll take your thought into consideration, but i only had a ocuple of hours to make a decision.

[2001Acura]

I'm came back to see what else developed last night!

 

Everyone tried to convince you to RUN (in the opposite direction), but you've gotta make the decision on your own.

 

Listen to D-Lish and Krying. "I understand you love her, but come on, that makes you her 41st choice for a mate!?"

 

Think long and hard about your next move....and actually this would make you her 1st and her 41st mate!

 

Good Luck

[WiseOne]

Lol, chill out take dont take it seriously, look i've been hurt so much by this sistuation its hard to even get hurt anymore.

 

Im not dating anyone else during this time so why not try, all my relatiosnhips since we broke up have went thru the roof, and i said i might be overestimating, it could be more like 20 guys, and either way still i've had more dates than she has.

 

You guys should really try to lighten up. its okay, nobodys gonna get hurt over this situation, not me! not her!

Besides i been ok a whole year and 2 months without her, so im sure i can continue without her.You guys have to understand that we been broken up halfway longer than we were together. So after awhile im not gonna miss her as much and im not gonna love her as much, i'll be able to take her answer like a man, and leave it like that. Thanks for the good luck.

 

If we get back together its okay, if we dun its okay. Thanks Guys.

[WiseOne]

I dont really see most of you runnign in the opposite direction, it seems like most of your exs were badder than mines, and im not her 41st choice.

 

She did the whole thing on purpose, she would get with another guy knowing she was gonna break up with him soon. But again thanks i've came to a decision.

[WiseOne]

Guys i wanna close this post down please no one comment anmore, theres not really a reason to anymore, even we do or dont get back together, that will be the end of the story.

 

If we dont i will start back to doing Full NC, which means NC whatsoever dont matter what with the ex, and start back dating again. It has been a privilge talking with you.

[demilde]

If you do go back with her I suggest the use of a condom until the test results come back.

[WiseOne]

She's not pregnant, what are you talking about, i guess you got the wrong story

[BannaBee57]

"If you do go back with her I suggest the use of a condom until the test results come back".

 

Hahahahaha:lmao:

 

But remember DEMILDE she didn't sleep with any of these guys...she just "dated' them

 

Good luck with this WISEONE!

 

BTW DEMILDE meant the STD test, not a pregnancy test