fieryred Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 I don't want to get into all the reasons right now... but I have finally decided that I need to divorce my husband. It hurts like hell, but things just aren't working. Now I"ve made the decision it's going to be so hard living with him! He already knows my decision. We haven't exactly worked out the details yet, and I don't even know where to start. We don't have any children, have only been married 5 years, and neither one of us owns property. Should I seek an attorney, or move out, or talk to someone? I don't know where to start? So, I was hoping that someone who has been through a divorce could help out. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 I assume the decision has been made, counseling & such is now a non-issue, & time to move forward, then? The laws vary widely from state to state. Your first step would be to retain an attorney to walk you through the process & explain what your rights & obligations are. There are many things you need to be doing & need to not be doing right now. As for moving out, there may or may not be an immediate urgency with that. An immediate urgency would be a situation of abuse. A less immediate urgency would be the awkward situation of having an estranged spouse in your face. Some additional information would be helpful in order to provide more specific advice, but I hope this is helpful. _________________________________________ The future isn't what it used to be. - Yogi Berra Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 Will he be contesting the divorce, or are you both agreeing to part ways? What I did was buy a "How to File for Divorce in (my state)" kit and sat down with the stbx and read through it and filled out the forms. Learned a lot about the process that way, and when the time comes to file the papers a good deal of the work will already be done. Link to post Share on other sites
anna13 Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 I have not been divorced yet , but I have seen some girlfriends go through theirs, I would have to say that talking to an attorney is the best thing to do. first step . and if you dont like that attorney find one that you are comfortable talking to. that attorney will be able to expalin your options ect. If you dont have property together or children it will be alot simpler , but it is always good to get an attorneys view because there may be something you do not see that they can show you. also , joint bank accounts are something to be concerned about depending on the money . If you have no joint accounts ,no kids and no property then it seems all you need is to have a attorney draw up papers and have him sign it. I dont know your situation , but if your H is someone who may give you trouble about one thing or another it is best again to consult an attorney . Link to post Share on other sites
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