drea2379 Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 Okay, so here the story. I have been in a relationship with this guy for just a little over a year and a half. We're both human and had our little insecurities due to past relationships, but I never seriously thought I had anything to worry about. For a couple of week my boyfriend had made comments to me like, "you would never cheat on me right" and "i'm going to get one of those screen capture things to find out what you do on the computer" at first it was no big deal to me, but after like the fifth time of saying it I started to feel suspicious. I downloaded a free trial computer monitoring program that did screen captures, and keylogging (this was last Monday). When I got home I needed to satisfy my curiosity, so I checked to see what he was doing, there was a whole lot of porn...big deal. But then I got a copy of an email he had sent to an ex-girlfriend from a long time ago. I then checked his email since I now had his password, and found several emails that date back to the begining of Oct. He says things like how she is the most beautiful woman in the world, how he would do anything just to spend time with her, he thinks about her and misses her all the time, and how he would never marry me, etc... I confronted him on it right away, and also sent her an email. He said the emails didn't mean anything, and nothing was ever going to come of them, and he didn't know why he did it, he just wanted to see the reactions he could get from her. She says all she wanted to do was hurt him by breaking us up because he hit her once while they were together (15 yrs ago). I have broke up with him, he has cried and begged for me to take him back and that nothing like this would ever happen again. Do you think I overreacted?? I'm confused and hurt, but most of all I feel like an idiot for ever believing in him. PLEASE HELP!! Link to post Share on other sites
aeren944 Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 No!!!!!! I don't think you overreacted at ALL! I'm so sorry to hear this happened. That would tear me up if that were to happen to me. I can't even imagine how you feel, but you had a right to break it off right away. One and a half years down the drain for those pathetic excuses. "He just wanted to see the reactions he could get from her." Pshh! He didn't think about the reaction he'd get from you... and that's who he should've been thinking about. You did the right thing. I know people are going to say "Well, you shouldn't have spied on him." But, in all honesty, he gave you the idea with the comments from before. The whole arguement of "you shouldn't have spied on him" is full of bologne anyway. Why, so he wouldn't have gotten caught? If you're faithful, you've got nothing to hide, I say. Again, I'm really sorry to hear this happened to you, but you're doing the right thing. Just stay strong and know that you're in the right with this. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 You did the right thing in dumping that cheater and abuser at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 i'm sure this can't be said any more, but you definately did the right thing. if my boyfriend did that to me i would be so mad at him and i, honestly, wouldn't be able to look at him in the eye. all that badtalking about ME to his EX... thats just crazy. trying to get a reaction out of her? thats some b.s. line and i think any one with half a brain could figure that out. jeez i'm getting fumed for you!!! anyway, do not go back to him. he is ridiculous Link to post Share on other sites
Author drea2379 Posted November 29, 2006 Author Share Posted November 29, 2006 Thanks guys....I needed someone else to tell me that the emails were a big deal. I've begged him to give me a reason why, but he just says he doesn't have a reason, he was just remembering the past and how he use to feel back when he was 17yrs old. I'm just completely heartbroken, and I am sad without him but I know I could never trust him again. He says he is willing to go to counciling, and do whatever it takes to win me back. Part of me really wants to believe that he will never do this again, but then I get to see that bitches face on myspace and I hate him all over again. Thanks again for your help...I know I made the right choice. Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 yeah basically what hes doing now is regretting he did any of that, which is good, because i don't think his ex will get back together with him, and he knows he lost you now and now hes alone. theres no counseling that could make you forget what he did, its almost as bad as cheating. his loss. Link to post Share on other sites
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