phoenix21 Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 Been broken up for 3 months now. Went complete NC a month ago. After a couple of weeks, she showed up at church my 2 weeks in a row. Kept it really short both times when I saw her. Just said hi briefly and left. No more than 3 minutes for both times. She hasn't shown up the last 2 weeks and it makes me wonder if she wanted me to say something when she showed up at church and I kinda brushed her off. Acted like I was busy. Did she have to be there or did she want to check up on me? Then tonight, I signed on to MSN Messenger and she was online. She's usually not online at that time, but she was tonight. I think it was just a coincidence and I probably shouldn't have signed on. Well, after a few minutes, she messaged me. Either I panicked or I just wanted to make her jealous, but I pretended to be a girl. Here is the conversation: Her: did you try to share a file with me? (I didn't do anything, it's a poor excuse) Me: sorry, but **** isn't here Her: oh ok, sorry Me: do you want me to leave a message? Her: oh no it's ok, probably a mistake Her: thanks! Me: he's at the store Her: oh ok Me: I can leave a message when he gets back, he went to drop off his brother and pick up some groceries Me: May I ask who this is? Her: This is *****....who's this? Me: This is his friend Jan, I'm just using his computer Her: ooh ok Me: I'll tell him you said hi Me: but if i did something by accident, i'm sorry (referring to the first message) Her: oh dont worry abouty it Her: hahaha Her: do you work together? Me: it just popped up when i turned the computer on (the instant messaging program) Me: yeah (her last question) Her: oh ok Her: well don't worry about it Me: ok, well he should be back soon. he just went to pick up something for the dish he's cooking Her: ok Her: well just tell him I said hi Her: ok byeee Me: ok I will Me: bye Now I know that I probably shouldn't have done this. I guess I couldn't help myself. The girl I pretended to be does work with me and we're actually going out this Friday night. Was this a big mistake? Any opinion about this or about the conversation would help. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Eric102 Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 nah u did fine. don't look into ur actions so much and don't look for meanings so much Link to post Share on other sites
Eric102 Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 dude i have broken up with my gf for 3 months to. Its tough but i have turned the tables around, now she chases me and i want her to realize it slowly. Patience is kinda tough. The church thing don't worry about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Spinderella Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 The trouble with playing all these games, is that, you may want to undo them at a later date. Say, if she now leaves you alone, thinking that you have moved on and are with somebody else, then you will want to assure her that you are not with somebody else. Today you may be thinking that you should assure her anyway that this girl (you pretended to be) is just a friend. It all depends really, on what you are trying to achieve. If you want to not get back together but get a little revenge on the way out, then what you did was fine. If it is a winning her back tactic, then it brings a few little problems, only because it kind of backs you into a corner, so you have no choice but to contact her again (if she doesnt try and contact you again, that is). Just leave it now, that will be the best thing. The next time you bump into her, or she contacts you, then you can say "Oh, you were trying to contact me werent you?" or something. If that brings her to ask questions about Jan, then you can tell her that you and Jan are just friends. THEN leave it alone. Just dont try to undo what you have said now, in a panic. Just leave it. Be cool. Link to post Share on other sites
Author phoenix21 Posted November 30, 2006 Author Share Posted November 30, 2006 Your right spinderella about how this could come back and bite me in the a**. I do love her and I do want her back. I have to be cool about it and just leave it alone for now. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 That was very deceptive. You should be ashamed of yourself. How would you feel if someone did that to you? You really need to step back and reassess your attitudes towards society. Link to post Share on other sites
Spinderella Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 That was very deceptive. You should be ashamed of yourself. How would you feel if someone did that to you? You really need to step back and reassess your attitudes towards society. This is a huge overreaction in my opinion. Don't worry too much Phoenix, but remember next time, it is always better to be honest and respectful at the same time. Definetly leave things for a while now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author phoenix21 Posted December 1, 2006 Author Share Posted December 1, 2006 Thanks Spinderella. Maybe you can give me some advice on my situation. Just read my old thread when you get the chance. I know I was wrong to do what I did. Before you judge someone Guest, you need to know that person's situation. You have to understand what the circumstances are. And how do you know about my attitudes towards society? You know nothing about me. Anyways, I'm just gonna leave it alone for a while. I've made my decision on what I'm going to do about my situation. When I'm ready, I'm gonna try to get her back. I want to thank everyone here for their advise. Link to post Share on other sites
Sup Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 That was very deceptive. You should be ashamed of yourself. How would you feel if someone did that to you? You really need to step back and reassess your attitudes towards society. Could be the ex-girlfriend? Link to post Share on other sites
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