peacelove Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 That's right! Hickey or no hickey! Is this poster saying that if a MM let's his wife give him a hickey that it proves he's being faithful? That's a load of you know what! I would like to think that we are all a little smarter than that. That's what it sounded like. If he let's his wife give him a hickey then it proves he's not worried about the ow seeing it therefore the wife will believe that the affair is over. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 That's what it sounded like. If he let's his wife give him a hickey then it proves he's not worried about the ow seeing it therefore the wife will believe that the affair is over. Rub some poison ivy on his weenis and see how that works out instead. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 That's what it sounded like. If he let's his wife give him a hickey then it proves he's not worried about the ow seeing it therefore the wife will believe that the affair is over. Sounds like the perfect plan. MM and OW plot to allow the W to give MM a hickey and then she will never suspect. Why wouldn't the OW want the W to give the MM the hickey? It would make it so much easier for them to keep the affair going. The problem is, we know that having sex with our husband's doesn't prove their fidelity. As unfortunate as it is, MM who have affairs lie to everyone about anything it takes to get what they want Link to post Share on other sites
peacelove Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 Rub some poison ivy on his weenis and see how that works out instead. Oooouuuuch! Don't think the ow, w or h would like that very much. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 Rub some poison ivy on his weenis and see how that works out instead. So much I could say here, I don't even know where to start. First off, who is doing the rubbing? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 That's right! Hickey or no hickey! Is this poster saying that if a MM let's his wife give him a hickey that it proves he's being faithful? That's a load of you know what! I would like to think that we are all a little smarter than that. I thought the OP meant it in the converse: If a MM won't let his wife give him a hickey, it might be a sign that he's being unfaithful and still seeing the OW. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 I thought the OP meant it in the converse: If a MM won't let his wife give him a hickey, it might be a sign that he's being unfaithful and still seeing the OW. OK, I see your point. I still don't think it proves anything. Link to post Share on other sites
peacelove Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 I thought it meant that the H was still having an affair if he didn't let his wife give him a passion mark. I guess he wouldn't let the ow give him one either??? Will this ever end? Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 You know what in my case it would require his wife to touch him....But since she doesnt ...I guess the only marks will be from ME... Link to post Share on other sites
peacelove Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 You know what in my case it would require his wife to touch him....But since she doesnt ...I guess the only marks will be from ME... And that damn squirrel. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 And that damn squirrel. Is the squirrel the one with the poison ivy or did I miss something? I'm so dazed and confused in so many ways. Bottom line, at this point I don't need hickeys to tell if my H is in an affair. I know the signs and they will never be ignored or tolerated should they show up again. Denial got me where I was almost 9 months ago and knowledge will keep me from ever going back there again. Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 Sleeping squirrel Link to post Share on other sites
peacelove Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 Sleeping squirrel Wasn't it a dead squirell? Or maybe the chicken that exploded? Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 Wasn't it a dead squirell? Or maybe the chicken that exploded? I wanna know about the squirell! Please tell me about the squirrel :confused: (stomps feet) Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 Wasn't it a dead squirell? Or maybe the chicken that exploded? thought it was sleeping..... and it is dead, chicken killed the micro wave.... Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 I wanna know about the squirell! Please tell me about the squirrel :confused: (stomps feet) I dont even know how to start about the squirrel...very funny Do you have PM yet? Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 I dont even know how to start about the squirrel...very funny Do you have PM yet? No, I tried again today and it still says that I don't have access. Maybe to many new members, I don't know. I got in trouble for asking noforgiveness how she was so maybe they are with-holding my PM because of that. I'll just believe that it's funny and laugh along with you. Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 No, I tried again today and it still says that I don't have access. Maybe to many new members, I don't know. I got in trouble for asking noforgiveness how she was so maybe they are with-holding my PM because of that. I'll just believe that it's funny and laugh along with you. You got in trouble for that? Did they explain? It is really funny...I should post it , but in fear someone will know WHO i am really.. When you get PM , I will tell you....Is that a deal? Promise you will laugh Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 29, 2006 Share Posted November 29, 2006 You got in trouble for that? Did they explain? It is really funny...I should post it , but in fear someone will know WHO i am really.. When you get PM , I will tell you....Is that a deal? Promise you will laugh Yes, it's a deal. I understand why I got in trouble. I started a thread to an individual and not the whole community. I didn't know how else to do it since I don't have PM, but I know better now. Link to post Share on other sites
Freedom Now Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 I don't think it would really matter. "Most" OW have low self esteem and would probably keep screwing him even if he had said he wasn't sleeping with his wife. They're gluttons for punishment. BIIIG difference between the mindset of a wife and an OW. Just like "most" betrayed spouses are shrews? Sweeping generalization and as a former OW, I am insulted. (And no, I don't believe that any BS's are shrews....just trying to make a point.) When I found out he was sleeping with his wife and MARRIED, I left. Not all of us "OW" are gluttons for punishment. I left HIM. My mind is exactly where it should be, thank you very much. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 Just like "most" betrayed spouses are shrews? Sweeping generalization and as a former OW, I am insulted. (And no, I don't believe that any BS's are shrews....just trying to make a point.) When I found out he was sleeping with his wife and MARRIED, I left. Not all of us "OW" are gluttons for punishment. I left HIM. My mind is exactly where it should be, thank you very much. then you are NOT an OW. As soon as you found out you left. You were lied to and did not know. That does not put you in the same category as the ow who continue their relationships in deceit. YOU had enough self respect to walk away and not play second fiddle. Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 then you are NOT an OW. As soon as you found out you left. You were lied to and did not know. That does not put you in the same category as the ow who continue their relationships in deceit. YOU had enough self respect to walk away and not play second fiddle. This is enough....I have self respect for myself and im not second fiddle. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 This is enough....I have self respect for myself and im not second fiddle. his wife and children don't come before your needs? You can call him whenever you need him and he will come running? you can call him any HOUR like his wife and kids can? Link to post Share on other sites
Freedom Now Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 then you are NOT an OW. As soon as you found out you left. You were lied to and did not know. That does not put you in the same category as the ow who continue their relationships in deceit. YOU had enough self respect to walk away and not play second fiddle. From the moment I found out he was married, it was a struggle to remove myself from the affair. It wasn't easy and I am sad to say that it didn't happen in a day. He was quite seductive and charismatic. In fact, it was the hardest thing I had ever done but my head was telling me that this was suicide to my life and heart. Incredibly, the thought of him sharing himself with his wife AND me is what prompted me to leave him forever. I just couldn't share. And that is what he wanted, I think. His life and me. A true cakeman. Not my style. And, as I exited this short affair, he knew exactly how I felt. I left no stone unturned. He is a colossal prick who hurt two women and many, many children in the process. And had he been honest in the beginning, I would not be here today. He wouldn't have stood a chance with me had he told me he was married. A master deceiver who thought only of what HE wanted. To hell with his family and mine. Not the type of man that I would ever want to be with. Integrity is a biggie for me and he lacked it completely. And I saw that. So my head won, blessedly. And fortunately, I have recovered, for the most part. But, for a brief time, I was the OW. Not a title I am proud of, but a title I held, nevertheless. Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 his wife and children don't come before your needs? You can call him whenever you need him and he will come running? you can call him any HOUR like his wife and kids can? I would never ask him to come before his kids..Im not selfish...As for his wife. Yes i call him when i need him, No i dont call him at any HOUR because i am an independent person. He is here for me. He has soon that. And he has coming running to me.....ITS HIS KIDS....EVEN WHEN THIS IS ALL SAID AND DONE...I WILL NEVER ASK TO BE BUT BEFORE THEM , when they NEED their father. Link to post Share on other sites
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