jerseyblue29eyes Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 I'm still here on and off. I still feel so tempted by my MM. I still wonder if he and I can just be friends without her knowing. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 I am here as well.... Link to post Share on other sites
bo123 Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 I'm here too...it's been over a month now with nc with the mm. We have a 4 month old child. He told his W. She called wanting to know my side. I answered her ?s. I was honest and brief. He does not have contact with our child. I don't want to be with him anymore. I see him for what he is. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 Not OW, MM, BS, RN, BSN, LPN, CNA, MD, PHd, IRS, FBI, DEA, ATF, IAFF, AFL-CIO, UAW, UBT but Im still here. I JUST DONT FIT IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
peacelove Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 Not OW, MM, BS, RN, BSN, LPN, CNA, MD, PHd, IRS, FBI, DEA, ATF, IAFF, AFL-CIO, UAW, UBT but Im still here. I JUST DONT FIT IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL. BH=Bonehead There now you are in!! Not to be mistaken for betrayed husband though. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 was that at one point also Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Not OW, MM, BS, RN, BSN, LPN, CNA, MD, PHd, IRS, FBI, DEA, ATF, IAFF, AFL-CIO, UAW, UBT but Im still here. I JUST DONT FIT IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hmm... bonehead... are you an exMOM/MM (ex married OM, or MM). Just trying to help Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Thats why I think all the OW should come back and lets get back to what this forum was about. While it sounds good, I'm going to be honest.. I have been here for almost 2 years now. When I first came here, there was a whole nother group of OW. Most supported each other like they should have, but we still had our fair share of bashing. One poster in particular still sticks in my craw, but I digress. You can't keep the bashers away, no mater how hard you try. This forum goes through phases like this. The bashers all come in at once, and they leave at once. Making way for a whole new group. But the question to ask yourself is - are these people really bashing, or do they really give you advice, but not sugarcoat it? Some posters can be harsh in their advice, but that's just how they are. But it is advice, nonetheless. I really haven't been here too much lately - I mainly lurk from time to time. These are just my observations from being here for a couple of years.. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Plenty of us still here! Maybe some (such as me) have finally moved on from the A although I still like to come here regularly as I hope I can be of some help to people as others have for me. Plus, I still feel I learn something from here every now and again. It makes me realise how I was sucked in! The BS has a place to go get advise and support and to vent...We dont go on there and bash the BS. Have to say I think they have more reason than us to bash. I don't mean 'us' personally, but their animosity or whatever you wish to call it towards OW in general is pretty justified IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 I still got y'alls back. Just trying not to come here as much as I was for my own selfish reasons. Got to get my head out from under, ya know? That's kind of how I was getting. I'm no longer involved with MM but I sometimes wonder if coming on this site makes me think about him too much as is a constant reminder of my past sitch. But, saying that, it's good to see how everyone else is getting on! Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 I still got y'alls back. Just trying not to come here as much as I was for my own selfish reasons. Got to get my head out from under, ya know? That's kind of how I was getting. I'm no longer involved with MM but I sometimes wonder if coming on this site makes me think about him too much as is a constant reminder of my past sitch. But, saying that, it's good to see how everyone else is getting on! That's why I kinda back off and lurk every so often. I mean, it's been a good couple o years, but sometimes coming here makes me think about him now and again. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 That's why I kinda back off and lurk every so often. I mean, it's been a good couple o years, but sometimes coming here makes me think about him now and again. And we certainly don't need any reminders, do we? I have enough with songs on the radio, the smell of his aftershave and all sorts of other things that bring the memories flooding back! I still wish I could erase his phone number from my head. Perhaps I should try self-hypnosis!!! Link to post Share on other sites
kymberann Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 I have ben around more frequently than in the past. Probably because i am going throug my own world of hurt right now. Reading posts helps me be stronger, it really does! I'm here too...it's been over a month now with nc with the mm. We have a 4 month old child. He told his W. She called wanting to know my side. I answered her ?s. I was honest and brief. He does not have contact with our child. I don't want to be with him anymore. I see him for what he is. bo123. In your sitch who initiated NC? Does he help with any financial support? Best to all! Link to post Share on other sites
Marielle Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 I m here too, alway..lately lurking but not posting. I m still OW, after 1 yr and 8mo. i still love hi mlike crazy, we see each other every day. But still struggling... LOL, BTDT, I guess we where both "busy" at the dating forum, I ll change my aatar tomorrow:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 Hmm... bonehead... are you an exMOM/MM (ex married OM, or MM). Just trying to help Both. I was also married when it started, but had already set a date with my ex that we were going to seperate. I think its posted here somewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 Both. I was also married when it started, but had already set a date with my ex that we were going to seperate. I think its posted here somewhere. Ah yes, after I'd posted that I saw you reply on another thread Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 And we certainly don't need any reminders, do we? I have enough with songs on the radio, the smell of his aftershave and all sorts of other things that bring the memories flooding back! I still wish I could erase his phone number from my head. Perhaps I should try self-hypnosis!!! Ha. Certainly don't. Egads, I still know his phone nunber & his W's phone numbers. I still have a shirt he gave me, that makes me think about him all the time. Ugh. It sucks sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 ..... however, as people have taken the purpose of this forum out of its context, there is no point in posting much just to talk about ones sitch because, I won't say get you get bashed by people but I will say that you now tend to get some vindictive, nasty, spiteful, unhelpful, sarcastic and irrelevant comments instead of either something that is helpful OR constructive critisicm. You're exactly right. There are certain people (we all know who they are) who come here only to slam someone, take their anger out on humanity behind the protection of their keyboard, or post something that they think is oh-so-clever and funny, not realizing how stupid they really look. Fortunately, I recently discovered the useful and beautiful ignore feature this board has. It helps make things more enjoyable. Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 That when people are in great pain they may say things that are painful to and about others. I try to tell myself its the "pain" talking and perhaps they aren't like that all the time. Part of healing is feeling the anger! Maybe its best they do so here rather than stir up things (people) in their lives. Some just don't have appropriate social or good coping skills, especially if they have been in a sitation where they have been beaten down, so it may be best to serve as an example as opposed to striking back. (How's that for a "run on" sentence?!) However, if a poster is needlessly rude or mean-- I feel it OK to say how you feel about it if it can be done w/out flaming the thread. Link to post Share on other sites
NearlyThere Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 Ha. Certainly don't. Egads, I still know his phone nunber & his W's phone numbers. I still have a shirt he gave me, that makes me think about him all the time. Ugh. It sucks sometimes. And we certainly don't need any reminders, do we? I have enough with songs on the radio, the smell of his aftershave and all sorts of other things that bring the memories flooding back! I still wish I could erase his phone number from my head. Perhaps I should try self-hypnosis!!! I think at this present moment in time I would consider a lobotomy. I didnt know it was possible to cry so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted December 3, 2006 Author Share Posted December 3, 2006 I think at this present moment in time I would consider a lobotomy. I didnt know it was possible to cry so much. I cry sometimes so much I think Im going to dehyrdate....I hope one day the tears stop Link to post Share on other sites
Freedom Now Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 I cry sometimes so much I think Im going to dehyrdate....I hope one day the tears stop The tears will stop. I promise you, they will. Link to post Share on other sites
NearlyThere Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 The tears will stop. I promise you, they will. I'm only 3 days into NC and I don't think I've ever felt so down in my life, he doesn't even know yet i've done it, i've got this irrational urge to text and tell him. Does it count if them dont know? I just get by one hour at a time, saying dont do it. I know it will get easier from what you all prev OW have said but its so hard. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 Just keep it up. Remember that you are doing this for the most important person in the world. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted December 3, 2006 Author Share Posted December 3, 2006 When we broke up in August that was the single most worst pain i ever felt in my life. Since we got back together I have never forgot that pain and haunts me everyday. I really hope I never feel like that again. I hope I can help someone by knowing we will all be okay one day, one way or another. Link to post Share on other sites
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