plattnnum Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 After we broke up I went cold shoulder and stopped calling her and whatnot. But my ex has been calling me more and more lately and sending me texts like "i miss you and all the little things we used to do" :rolleyes:etc etc. She recently told me she was dating this guy and that she thought of me whenever she was with him. Apparently her friend saw me a couple of weeks ago dancing "with a skanky lookin' blond" and I think it drivin her nuts... My problem is im not sure if she really does miss me or shes just playin games to see if I WOULD come back kinda a power thing?? I miss her too and would be willing to give her another chance but im not going to make the first move,(because she pushed me away after the breakup) and thats what i think shes trying to get me to do...i think ill just keep ignoring her seems to be working.... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 She recently told me she was dating this guy and that she thought of me whenever she was with him. Is that supposed to make you feel good? Link to post Share on other sites
Winfield Posted December 2, 2006 Share Posted December 2, 2006 I think you're doing the right thing! I'm 99.9% certain the only reason your ex is making a play for you again is because you were seen with someone else. A similar thing happened to me about 18 months ago - I split with a girl, started dating someone else (which, I admit, wasn't going anywhere), and when my ex heard about things not going so well with my (then) girlfriend, guess what...she made herself available! Now how conventient was that, eh? At the time, I let my head rule my heart and really considered going back...but after a bit of thought, sense prevailed...and I ended up with neither! Lesson learned: date only when the slate is clean! Link to post Share on other sites
Author plattnnum Posted December 17, 2006 Author Share Posted December 17, 2006 Some funny stuff has happened since my last post! So, Friday she calls from her parents Christmas party and tells me she misses me and and loves me. She also tells me to call tomorrow because she wants to see me. I don't call. The today, (Sunday), I get a text message from her saying "sorry about the drunk dial Friday." The she goes on and asks me if I know this kid Tyler she met at the party.(I went to high school with him but hardly knew him personally) I said yes, why, she texted me back "he wants to take me out to dinner, is he legit?" Can you say mixed messages...one day shes telling me she misses me and the next shes asking for boy advice... I took this as an obvious attempt to get a rise/put pressure on me. Link to post Share on other sites
Cub Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 You seem smart enough. You're doing everything right as far as I can see so I don't really know what you need us for:D 1 Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Some funny stuff has happened since my last post! So, Friday she calls from her parents Christmas party and tells me she misses me and and loves me. She also tells me to call tomorrow because she wants to see me. I don't call. The today, (Sunday), I get a text message from her saying "sorry about the drunk dial Friday." The she goes on and asks me if I know this kid Tyler she met at the party.(I went to high school with him but hardly knew him personally) I said yes, why, she texted me back "he wants to take me out to dinner, is he legit?" Can you say mixed messages...one day shes telling me she misses me and the next shes asking for boy advice... I took this as an obvious attempt to get a rise/put pressure on me. You've got her down! The "I miss you" ploy didn't work, so now she's trying the jealousy ploy. This is a totally obvious attempt to get you to make a move. Like the other poster said, I think you are doing all the right things! Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Is that supposed to make you feel good? That's exactly what I was thinking....the nerve. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Some funny stuff has happened since my last post! So, Friday she calls from her parents Christmas party and tells me she misses me and and loves me. She also tells me to call tomorrow because she wants to see me. I don't call. The today, (Sunday), I get a text message from her saying "sorry about the drunk dial Friday." The she goes on and asks me if I know this kid Tyler she met at the party.(I went to high school with him but hardly knew him personally) I said yes, why, she texted me back "he wants to take me out to dinner, is he legit?" Can you say mixed messages...one day shes telling me she misses me and the next shes asking for boy advice... I took this as an obvious attempt to get a rise/put pressure on me. WTF????? You have got to be kidding me. Dude, this chic is totally lame, go find someone who doesn't have major issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 she texted me back "he wants to take me out to dinner, is he legit?" Can you say mixed messages... The messages are NOT mixed.. She has moved you in to the friend zone.. There is no way out of that zone.. My advice is to blow her off for good and practice NC on her.. if she text messages or calls you anymore tell her to stop. When a woman breaks up with a man and then she uses him as her sounding board for dating advice you are doomed.. Move on... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 there is nothing wrong with what she is doing - we all do these things at some point. she is just telling u that she still has feelings for you. i just went thru something similiar and i was glad she reacted that way. it made me stop what i was doing and shift my focus back on the finding out what her and i wanted. i am in no hurry to date someone and i would rather take whatever time needed to determine if her and i will try or not. this time i will act with my heart and mind - and today that was reinforced by what i felt and did when we both, at the first day of school, would sneak a peek at each other and how that made me feel happy. i miss her and i think we could work things out but i also know we both could live without that now - that is what makes it possible. so, i'm in no rush and i am sure everything will work out. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 My problem is im not sure if she really does miss me No. Not at all. or shes just playin games to see if I WOULD come back kinda a power thing?? Yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 i my case - i do miss her - mind, body and soul. as for playing games, i don't. i dated for a brief time and i could not "function" because when u have had the best with someone, how do u settle for less. you don't go from multiples at the drop of a hat, to having it feel like u need a manual - if it is not natural, u know it. its as simple as that - and u know it right away. i refuse to settle for anything other than the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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