snowdiamond Posted December 4, 2006 Share Posted December 4, 2006 Hi All, I have reached 30 days of NC as of yesterday. While I'm happy that I made it this far, I'm having a kinda rough day so far. I'm trying to keep my spirits up, but I can't help thinking about the ex. Do you think because I've made it this far that that's the reason I feel crappy right now? I hope this feeling will pass quickly. I didn't want to come this far just to feel like sh**! Link to post Share on other sites
FallenTree Posted December 4, 2006 Share Posted December 4, 2006 It's been 21 days for me! Stick in there...I've done it in the past, and it's the way to go. I too feel like sh** It sucks...so bad...but I keep thinking, if I do contact the guy, I will only be disappointed & what is the point? It will only remind me of WHY NC is a better idea! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 4, 2006 Share Posted December 4, 2006 This is day 18 nc for me. It is soo hard because she only has sent me one text message on thanksgiving wishing me a good one. I didn't respond to it, but it is frustrating that someone that says they loved and cared about you does not even try to call. In fact, we broke up on Oct 24th and she has not once tried to call me and I gave one last effort on Nov 17th...nothing since. It does keep getting harder for me as time continues on. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 5, 2006 Share Posted December 5, 2006 I'm on day 12, and most of the time I feel great. Its funny how my relationship was so bad, yet I can still idealize it and sit here and feel sad and think I miss him..but then I think back to when I was in the relationship or even just as friends and talking to him..he was a miserable person, always putting me down. I don't need a boyfriend like that, and I don't need a friend like that. I do wonder what he is doing or thinking, if he's feeling sad..but then I just feel so proud of myself for truly taking a new track in life, one without him in my life at all. It gets harder before it gets better, but stick with it, no contact is the ONLY way of truly moving on. and it will happen where one day you wake up and the pain is gone. I've gone through it with who I thought was the love of my life...Never thought I would move on, but three years later we are friends and there is no part of me that wants him back in my life in a romantic way. Friends will happen, but only when you are ready and the pain is gone. Link to post Share on other sites
Kelso Posted December 5, 2006 Share Posted December 5, 2006 I've stopped counting the days, but it's ca. 3 weeks since I last called her. The fact is, that we broke up October 20th - and she hasn't given me as much as one TXT message. You might thing that I've done something really bad to her to deserve this. It hurts me to think that the person I cared for and loved hasn't called for a second. But I guess it only describes what kind of a person lives in her body, and I probably should just be lucky to have gotten rid of her from my life before I fell even deeper in love. Link to post Share on other sites
FallenTree Posted December 6, 2006 Share Posted December 6, 2006 Some nights, it is so tempting to call my ex. But, first of all, he won't answer anyway, so what is the point? Also, where will that get me? Nowhere at all! I'll just be more disappointed by our probably lame conversation or his disinterest in everything I say. Friends will happen, but only when you are ready and the pain is gone. I definitely agree here. My ex from 6 years ago & I went thru this same thing, but we had to have some NC for a few months. After a while, he had gfs and we were great friends. I have no desire to be with that ex & am glad to hear from him every few months. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snowdiamond Posted December 6, 2006 Author Share Posted December 6, 2006 Hang on everybody! I hope this gets easier. Today, I feel pretty nice. One day at a time, right? Day 33...and moving on... Link to post Share on other sites
Krying Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 2 days shy of 2 months for me. I still love my ex unlike anyone I've ever come into contact. But she had other plans and so my life will not include her from that moment forward. It's hard and it plain sux. This girl doesn't deserve to be in my mind and heart and yet she's lodged in there solid. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 I'm at day 24 since I last contacted my ex. The last contact was a relapse, when I e-mailed him to see how he was doing. I got no response. Hang in there! D Link to post Share on other sites
Tormented Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 but it is frustrating that someone that says they loved and cared about you does not even try to call. Well, you could have an ex like mine. We've been broken up now for 3.5 months, and although he has never called me to straight-up talk, he continues to call my house (and cell) and just sits there silently when I answer. I don't know why he does it. Wierd... ~T~ Link to post Share on other sites
NC King Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 whats so hard about maintaining NC? I've been in NC for over 20 weeks now... except for the time when she contacted me and even then it was only a exchange of 2 sms... after that I'vd carried on with NC until today... I'm not over her totally yet... but thats not the point here... Its not hard to NC at all... i know i will know thing i might not wanna here if i talk to her... thats more than enuff motivation for me to not contact her... and furthermore she does not deserve for me to initiate contact... She wanna took to me... she does the hard work of contacting me... im not gonna cut her any slack... Link to post Share on other sites
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