What is too thin??

[dgiirl]

You gain weight through exercise then, not eating. Lifts weights and gain muscle mass - healthier and heavier.

 

I'm a lazy mofo... I'm not going to lift weights. I lift weights, gain muscle, stop lifting weights, turn to fat. No thanks

[amaysngrace]

well, I eat what I want nowadays, but i HATE the feeling of being " full" so I always stop before then. ( which is why I prob am STILL thin, but not a true ED anymore)

 

also from my anorexia days, I lost all taste for starches, cheese doodles, etc, and am still honestly most "attracted" to lean protiens, veggies and fruit. oh....and beer LOL

 

 

It sounds like you pretty much have it under control then. I'm still really whacky with it all. I pay attention to EVERYTHING I eat and am still affected a little by my weight, like if I feel fat it still makes me feel unattractive.

 

I was only anorexic for a year but was a bulimic for much longer. I still have a tendency to overeat if I'm down, or starve if I'm down.

 

It's still a bit of a struggle, regardless of how healthy I feel otherwise. It kinda sucks.

[IpAncA]

I probably border it myself to be honest. I did almost drop below 100 and then I did start to see my bones even more than now and that did scare me so that caused me to go back up in weight but yeah that didn't work because I went back down again but not enough to scare me so I just stay where I am at.

 

I'm actually a size 2 in jeans and sometimes I do wonder how I would look in a size 1 or 0.

[amaysngrace]

I probably border it myself to be honest. I did almost drop below 100 and then I did start to see my bones even more than now and that did scare me so that caused me to go back up in weight but yeah that didn't work because I went back down again but not enough to scare me so I just stay where I am at.

 

I'm actually a size 2 in jeans and sometimes I do wonder how I would look in a size 1 or 0.

 

 

That's me too. I wear size 3 or 5 depending on the maker. But mostly they're 3s. What really worked for me is getting rid of my scale. I haven't weighed myself in years. Now I just go by how I look. But I still think maybe I have a warped perception of my body size.

[melodymatters]

Absolutley ! I havn't had a scale in years and have no idea what I weigh ! Which I think is good because it used to be such a numbers game for me in the bad ol days. Now i go by my clothes, they either fit well or don't .

 

I still think my thighs are a bit "meaty" lol, but i look at pictures where I make Nicole richie look fat, and remeber, I used to think my thighs were big THEN. Gives me perspective.

 

I think it's almost a "power" thing for woman, just like men and the size of their dick or wallet. No matter what, you can always think " well, at least I'm THINNER than her"

 

I no longer consider myself activley ED, but i do think its a bit like alcoholism, in which we always have it to one extent or another.

 

Just reading and writing on this thread is making me realize a lot of stuff I havn't thought about in a while Here's to us all having healtheir body images !!!!!

[IpAncA]

I haven't weighed myself in about 3 months. I got rid of mine too. Now if I could only get rid of my tape measure. I haven't used it in a month but I can't seem to throw it away.

[BareGoddess]

Absolutley ! I havn't had a scale in years and have no idea what I weigh ! Which I think is good because it used to be such a numbers game for me in the bad ol days. Now i go by my clothes, they either fit well or don't .

 

I still think my thighs are a bit "meaty" lol, but i look at pictures where I make Nicole richie look fat, and remeber, I used to think my thighs were big THEN. Gives me perspective.

 

I think it's almost a "power" thing for woman, just like men and the size of their dick or wallet. No matter what, you can always think " well, at least I'm THINNER than her"

 

I no longer consider myself activley ED, but i do think its a bit like alcoholism, in which we always have it to one extent or another.

 

Just reading and writing on this thread is making me realize a lot of stuff I havn't thought about in a while Here's to us all having healtheir body images !!!!!

 

Ok, I'll drink to that...hmmm, wonder how many calories in a glass of wine?

 

I don't even know what a healthy body image IS anymore. I've never liked my body. Maybe for two minutes in 1981...other than that...ugh!

 

One of my goals in 2007 is to change that sad fact.

[thinisin]

 

After about a year, I started to gain back the weight. Those new jeans didn't fit anymore and that made me slightly disappointed. I also felt the weight gain back and the first time in my entire life, I felt "fat". Fat? I was only gaining back 5-10lbs to my normal weight i've been my entire life. But I could feel the padding coming back. I realized then how dangerous and easily one can become aneroxic. The mind plays some ****ed up games.

 

This is exactly how I feel. I lost 15 pounds due to a lot of very stressful things going on in my life. Everyone kept asking me if I eat, cause I was becoming sooo skinny.

 

I was determined to gain back at least 10 pounds, but I gained back about 8.....and I looked "fat". Clothes just didn't look as cute on me. I regretted it big time. I recently got a very bad case of stomach flu and lost another 10 pounds. This time I just don't want to put the weight back on.....

 

It looks cute to be "petite", fashion was made for petite people (sad...but true). If you check out most people "before" and "after", losing weight they always look way cuter after!

 

Perhaps I should just started telling people to stop commenting on how thin I am, I mean you wouldn't comment on how fat a person is....it would be rude right? I know more of you must feel this way. I mean all the beautiful celebs all lost weight recently and everyone thinks they look better too.

[dgiirl]

This is exactly how I feel. I lost 15 pounds due to a lot of very stressful things going on in my life. Everyone kept asking me if I eat, cause I was becoming sooo skinny.

 

I was determined to gain back at least 10 pounds, but I gained back about 8.....and I looked "fat". Clothes just didn't look as cute on me. I regretted it big time. I recently got a very bad case of stomach flu and lost another 10 pounds. This time I just don't want to put the weight back on.....

 

It looks cute to be "petite", fashion was made for petite people (sad...but true). If you check out most people "before" and "after", losing weight they always look way cuter after!

 

Perhaps I should just started telling people to stop commenting on how thin I am, I mean you wouldn't comment on how fat a person is....it would be rude right? I know more of you must feel this way. I mean all the beautiful celebs all lost weight recently and everyone thinks they look better too.

 

What was your average weight before you lost it all? I think that is your best indicator of where you should be right now. Remember, you have to be careful. Your mind plays some messed up games when it's malnuturished. Logically, I hope you know that 97lbs is way TOO small, and that even just another 5 lbs you would not be considered fat!

 

If loved ones are commenting on how skinny you look, it certainly is not "cute". When I went down to 92-96, I looked like my dead grandmother. She was extremely petite, but she was 92 years old! I dont want to look like an old lady with all my bones sticking out. I'm young and vibrant and want to look it.

 

Dont try to keep the weight off! Eat what you would normally eat, and let nature take it's course. Stop obsessing over your weight or you will develop an eating disorder. How "cute" are eating disorders? Not very in my book.

[HeadlessZebra]

Believe what you're being told. YOU can't see how awful you look - you may have 'body dysmorphic disorder' meaning that what you 'see' in the mirror is not what everybody else sees. Given the recent New Scientist articles about senses and perception and vision (including true stories about blind people who can paint pictures and otherwise 'see') it makes sense that you might think you are seeing correctly but can be very wrong about that. In short, you look at the mirror and see 'beautiful' where everybody else sees 'eeeewww - bones'.

 

I take exception to this!!!

 

So when a skinny girl looks in the mirror and sees beauty, she has body dysmorphia...

 

But when a fat girl (no matter how large) looks in the mirror and sees beauty, she is brave, self-confident and empowered?!?!?!

 

What a load of steaming horse manure!

 

God, it just disgusts me so much, the "reverse discrimination" that us skinnies have to endure every minute of every day. You'd never tell a larger girl "Hey, watch out, you might fall and cause an earthquake!" But it's perfectly fine to tell a thin girl "Hey, careful, if a gust of wind comes, it might blow you away!"

 

Makes me sick to my stomach.

[Sand&Water]

RE:

 

I don't believe you fall into this category, Original Poster. But, Body Dysmorphic Disorder is not a hoax. It is happening.

 

There are several articles, and shows on this issue [Oprah made an episode].

 

Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) is a mental disorder, which involves a disturbed body image. It is generally diagnosed of those who are extremely critical of their physique or self image, despite the fact there may be no noticeable disfigurement or defect.

 

Most people wish they could change or improve some aspect of their physical appearance, but people suffering from BDD, generally considered of normal appearance, believe that they are so unspeakably hideous that they are unable to interact with others or function normally for fear of ridicule and humiliation at their appearance. They tend to be very secretive and reluctant to seek help because they are afraid others will think them vain or narcissistic.

 

Ironically BDD is often misunderstood as a vanity driven obsession, whereas it is quite the opposite, people with BDD believe themselves to be profoundly ugly or defective.

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder

 

Sand&Water

[dropdeadlegs]

Please don't hate me for saying this, but where can I BUY an eating disorder? (I don't mean to sound flippant, I know ED's are not funny.)

 

I'm 5'5" and really thought I looked my best when I weighed about 120. Unfortunately I was completely miserable at that time! I would say my "average" weight over my 42 years was around 145 and while I may have been happy, my WEIGHT made me miserable. Today I weigh close to 140 and I feel FAT! The only way I lose weight is through stress to such an extreme that it can't possibly be healthy. Like through divorce, which sucks. I have pretty big bones and when I was what I thought looked good, people who love me thought I was too thin. My BMI is 23, which is considered "okay", but I hate the way I look. I tell myself that if I gave up just beer, I would probably be okay, but beer is my anti-loneliness friend. I have a wonderful BF that told me today that I am "sexy", but all I feel is FAT! And living alone, even with a great BF IS lonely in a certain way. And he fell in love with a much thinner woman (she was "tanner" too. Tanning hides stretch marks.)

 

A BMI of 16 at the height and weight of the OP sounds REALLY skinny to me. I do like healthy foods of lean proteins and lots of veggies, but feel some sort of obligation to feed my kids stuff they like, such as pastas and hot dogs. Thus, I eat that stuff too. 2007 has to be my year to do right to myself. My BF can pretty much eat what he wants and while he has gained a bit of a gut (not bad, but I like to rub it and make a wish!) he is still pretty thin. I am fortunate that any weight is equally distributed and most would guess that I weigh 10 pounds less, but the scale doesn't lie. And I weigh myself constantly, but give equal credit to how my clothes fit (and they don't.)

[dgiirl]

ddl, have you tried dr. phil's diet/lifestyle change? My mom actually lost a lot of weight on that. She's a short lady who's always been heavy her entire life, except for one period in her youth and was hospitlized for it. Stupid fad diets almost killed my mom.

 

She's become a lot more active and now watches her calorie intake. I also got her a program called fitday which she loves.

[blind_otter]

Please don't hate me for saying this, but where can I BUY an eating disorder? (I don't mean to sound flippant, I know ED's are not funny.)

 

Well....you look fabulous in your profile picture.

 

I'm just saying.

[dropdeadlegs]

Well....you look fabulous in your profile picture.

 

I'm just saying.

 

You know I love you, right? That pic is 20 pounds ago when I felt good about myself. This no smoking thing has added 5 pounds quickly, on top of the "happy" 15 pounds. I'm looking very apple-like, thick in the middle and I just hate it.

 

Your profile pic is golden, too! What a pretty girl! I need to look up that Dr. Phil thing....Is chips and dip on that diet? Nope...damn!

[dgiirl]

It's not a diet tho. You dont deny yourself things you want. You simply dont eat it as in much quantities as you want. And you actually look at the reasons why you eat. You work on your self esteem. You work on your lifestyle and you work on the things you eat. And if my mom can do it, anyone can do it!