sadbuttrue Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I am so completely torn up by everything and mind is all over the place. I have never have let anyone talk me into so many things that I do not want to do. So I guess my biggest obstacle which he says is what his w will think if I don't talk to him . I know it should not be any of my concern. He says she thinks I am nuts because one minute I am talking and the next I am not. She obviously does not know those are a reflection of all my attempted but failed NC's. IS THIS HIS PLOY TO JUST KEEP ME HOOKED? What do i say to him to combat his way of thinking. He said i am being childish about this whole thing and just because I cannot be with you right now does not mean I don't want to. He said it is the difference between want and can. He can't because he will lose everything, but he does not want to lose me as a friend. Is he crazy because he makes it out that I am the crazy for not going along with this. Please anyone some insight. ff, sorry you are being so torn by this MM. it sounds like he very much wants to keep you where he can continue his control over you. i would not worry anymore about neighbors/wife. she will think whatever she wants. he surely is bright enough to come up with some excuse for youre silence if he has to. he say he CANT because he will lose everything? he is not very worried about losing you though it seems. he is protecting everything/everyone else but you. and yes maybe he is crazy
whichwayisup Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I think for atleast a week, if you can handle it - STOP obsessing about him. Stop thinking about what he is thinking, feeling and stop trying to figure him out. Give yourself a break. There is MORE in your life than the MM. Be with your family, GET OUT of the neighbourhood on weekends and visit inlaws, friends and stuff. Keep busy. The busier you are the less you'll think about him.
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