sallas Posted December 6, 2006 Share Posted December 6, 2006 What in the world should I do. I was with this wonderful man 3 years ago. We were great together and I thought we were headed for marriage and happiness. Well, it was a long distance relationship and the distance got to me. I couldn't cope well. I ended things just over 3 years ago, after dating more than a year. Since then I met someone and got married. He is wonderful and kind and loving. Now the man from 3 years ago wants back into my life and wants to take a shot at making things work. I still have some feelings for him. Still a little stunned at the situation and unsure of what I should do. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 I guess it depends on whether or not you're willing to leave your "kind and loving" husband to give it a shot with someone you didn't love enough 3 years ago to make things work. Do you just have feelings... or are you still in love with your ex? It's a big decision with lots of consequences~ and there are no guarantees things will work out this time around. Are you willing to make such a sacrifice by ending your marriage just to test the waters with an ex? Link to post Share on other sites
gonetildecember Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 D's right.. that's a huge risk you're taking if you do leave your current relationship to try things out.. I don't think it's fair to put your current husband on hold to see how things will go with the ex, so it would have to be an either or situation. But follow your heart, if you still have feelings for him.. and that's the route you wish to take, you just have to know that you might risk losing everything.. your husband.. and the ex if things don't work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 Just something to think about. Don't marry someone unless you are sure beyond the shadow of a doubt that nothing will stand between you, sound like some poor decision making to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 u already have a loving man. put those thoughts out of your head and do not contact this ex and i would talk with your husband about this because it is a sign not everything is right in your marriage. i am not a professional marriage therapist but i play one on tv [lol] Link to post Share on other sites
fjk82 Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 Well I guess my question is how is your current marriage?? Have you always still been in love with your X all this time and just never thought he would be back around? This is tough..Is it worth losing your current marriage to try something that you have NO idea will happen. Are you willing to live with that choice and possibly regret? What is in your heart...? Link to post Share on other sites
Krying Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 That's rather selfish I must add concerning your feelings for your current husband. The fact you are even thinking of giving this guy from 3 years a chance is strange. Be honest here with your husband too and no funny business. Link to post Share on other sites
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