The relationship talk did not go well. I am in despair.

[missydismay]

So! I've been seeing this guy Ty for about two months now. At first, it was all casual fun. He just got out of a relationship in August or so, in which his girlfriend dumped him. Mine and Ty's mutual friend, Pauline, told each of us separately on different occasions that neither of us was looking for anything serious. I never said that directly to her. Apparently, he did.

 

But, that was two months ago. Things got kind of serious. We see each other every day pretty much. I started to like him, and he started to like me. Last week I got drunk and told him I wanted to be his girlfriend. He said, "I thought you were already my girlfriend." So, all is solved, correct?

 

But! Last night, me and him and some friends went out to eat at a 24 hour diner after getting pretty wasted. My best friend Kaila was there. I got up to go to the bathroom, and when I came back, Kaila gave me a "look". So I proceeded to go to the bathroom again, this time with her.

 

Kaila told me that when the subject of him and I came up, he told everyone that it "wasn't anything serious". (Which is odd, seeing as last week he called me his girlfriend.) So, of course, when I got back to the table, I turned on the Ice Machine and became a total beeeaaatch. He got scared, turned on the charm, paid for my dinner, bought me cigarettes, and kept asking me what Kaila told me when we got back in the car. He kept saying, "You hate me now. What's wrong? Why do you hate me?"

 

We got back to his house where I proceeded to give him my drunken rant. He told me he didn't mean to get attached to me, but he did, and I told him I just wanted something real for once. He gave me the ex-girlfriend shpiel about how she "broke his heart" and he didn't want to get hurt again, I told him I wasn't going to hurt him, I liked him too much...he said that's what they all say. I asked him, "Do you want to be with me? Yes or No!" And he said, "Why yes or no? Why does it have to be like that? Why do we have to rush into things? I want everything to be perfect."

 

And then I said, "Do you feel anything for me at all? Does this mean anything to you at all?" And he said of course it does. And I told him I didn't want to get attached to him, but I was, and I was trying not to be a total "chick" about it but I was crying my freaking eyes out.

 

So of course, I fell asleep in his room, woke up at seven a.m, no longer drunk, and he told me how beautiful I was and gave me his sweater because I was cold, then asked me what I was doing later and if I wanted to hang out with him at the bar. He kissed me about 10 times before I left.

 

So. Dump him? Or show up at the bar later with some random hot man? Or just go about things like usual?

 

Kaila thinks I should just go about things like usual, our time will come. I want to know what you all think. Thank you my loves.