Guest Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Hey, so I've posted on here before about dating my coworker. We're going on our first date Saturday. This might sound ridiculous, but I am EXTREMELY horny. EXTREMELY. And I am completely attracted to him. Would it be crazy to sleep with him on our first date?? I know that normally it's against all of the dating rules, but we see each other everyday and we talk a lot. So I don't know if I'm just trying to convince myself that it's ok, but it's not like we know nothing about each other. It doesn't feel like a true first date, as I feel that we have already formed a connection. What do you guys think? Quote
Parmalat Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 1) Would it be crazy to sleep with him on our first date?? 2) So I don't know if I'm just trying to convince myself that it's ok 1) YES!!! Don't do it! 2) You might be, the question you need to ask yourself is, if you do sleep with him on the first date, will he think this is something you usually do and loose respect for you? Quote
Quinch Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I don't think there should be any hard and fast (excuse the pun) rules for when you sleep with someone. If you both care about each other, respect each other and the time is right for both of you then go for it Quote
IWalkAlone Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Believe it or not, there are happily married couples who had sex on the fort date. If you sleep with him on the first date, you may not hear from him again. If you wait for the 3rd, 6th or 10th date, you may not hear from him again Or if you do sleep with him at any point, you may live happlily every after. Keep in mind that HE may wish to wait a few dates before going all the way. There are no guarantees or hard & fast rules. Do what feels right for both of you. Quote
norajane Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I wouldn't sleep with him on the first date. That's usually too much too soon, even if you do know each other really well. If you're THAT horny, masturbate!!! Quote
blind_otter Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 If you have such an issue with it that you need advice from others, I would probably wait. I'm a first date sleep with guys kinda gal, and I never usually put that much thought into it. If the chemistry was right and things were going cool, I would "just do it" as they say. If not, I usually never did sleep with the guy. Hmmm. Food for thought. Anyways. I wouldn't recommend it if you have to put this much thought into it. Plus that whole "office romance" thing can make things quite awkward if the sex is bad. Quote
Buttaflyy Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Don't do it! Especially because you guys work together. How'd you feel if he became a jerk Monday morning? Self control is best! He'll respect you alot more for it and once it does happen, think of all the pent up passion you'll have to let out! I'd wait. Quote
CaliGuy Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Hey, so I've posted on here before about dating my coworker. We're going on our first date Saturday. This might sound ridiculous, but I am EXTREMELY horny. EXTREMELY. And I am completely attracted to him. Would it be crazy to sleep with him on our first date?? I know that normally it's against all of the dating rules, but we see each other everyday and we talk a lot. So I don't know if I'm just trying to convince myself that it's ok, but it's not like we know nothing about each other. It doesn't feel like a true first date, as I feel that we have already formed a connection. What do you guys think? Keep this in mind before you decide to sleep with him. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" If he really likes and respects you, he will wait. If you love and respect yourself, you will wait. If you have sex with him on the first date... He won't respect you. Respect precedes love. Without respect there can be no foundation for a relationship. So, if you don't want anything long term with this guy and you don't care if he respects you, by all means, sleep with him on the first date. You're also breaking ANOTHER cardinal rule. Never, EVER date a co-worker. Ever. If it doesn't work out you both are going to be miserable at work and it COULD lead to one or both of you getting fired. Food for though. Quote
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 And I am completely attracted to him. Would it be crazy to sleep with him on our first date?? YES!! It would be crazy! Do not sleep with him right away, even though you really want to, don't!! Never rush a good thing, especially if you're extremely horny. Leave him (and you) wanting more. Quote
Pyro Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I would only have sex with him on the first date if that is all you want from him, but if you are considering getting to know him better and possibly starting a relationship, then don't do it just yet. Quote
My Fair Katie Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Believe it or not, there are happily married couples who had sex on the fort date. It worked for me and the hubs. However, there's less harm in waiting than there is in rushing. And yes, that is pretty much "do as I say not as I do" advice. Sorry! Quote
moman Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 YES!! It would be crazy! Do not sleep with him right away, even though you really want to, don't!! Never rush a good thing, especially if you're extremely horny. Leave him (and you) wanting more. EXACTLY!!! Look up my name for my story from last weekend about my first date with a girl. She was willing to sleep with me but I passed and am thankful. I would have lost all respect, and as such, now I am excited to see her again sometime because there is this pent-up energy now. I might actually become interested in her. If we had slept together I would have lost all interest, guaranteed. Quote
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