ash519 Posted December 7, 2006 Share Posted December 7, 2006 I am ready to change this behavior and thinking process but it is so hard. I have so much anxiety due to my bf's ex, him going out and stuff along those lines. Basically situations that lead to the possibility of me losing him to somebody else. His ex: She is going to go to one of his bands shows and i am so worried it will be when i am not there (i cater weekends) and that they will end up reminising and stuff. BUT the logical side of me is like: if they talk, they talk. I cant change that. He loves me and is with me now. But then my non logical side is like "what if theres an after party and she is there and he goes?!!" It's really hard! This is like eating away at me. I trust him, but that doesnt dismiss all worry! I want to change the way i think of these things. It will make our relationship better and I will be healthier for it. I know he loves me tons, it's not a matter of that at all. I would love just tons of advice, comments, critisism, anything you can think of on this matter. I feel I am constantly stressed and dealing with much anxiety, playing the "what if" game in my head and always ending with the worst case scenerio!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ash519 Posted December 7, 2006 Author Share Posted December 7, 2006 and on top of the above, i have this immense fear of being single again one day. I feel there is nobody else out there that I will love as much as i love my bf!!! And I fear he will move on and I wont. i will just miss him forever. We havent even broken up, or discussed it. We are both so happy together and so in love! What is wrong with me today, this anxiety is AWFUL!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Confused5433 Posted December 16, 2006 Share Posted December 16, 2006 I say continue to enjoy his company. Don't bring in distrust because you have no hard evidence to show him. If you make him feel like you don't really trust him, he will sense it and if nothing is going on he might start to think you're paranoid or worse insecure. So just hold back your feelings and create the most positive atmosphere you can when you are with him. Enjoy does moments of happiness like it was your last day with him, and if he ever dare to do something and caught him.... Then he was not the one, don't feel discouraged or have fear of the future. If he doesn't respect you enough not to cheat, then you really don't want a man like that. He will do this ALWAYS. Read my posts if you like, I gave mine 100 +1 opportunities and everytime he did the same thing, it's his tendency. I just wish I could have enjoy more those moments, even if separating was the end. We build memories everyday, remember that, so build great ones, forget the future, and let life take you were it needs to go... Best wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
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