Guest Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 Hello, I've been pretty good about doing no contact with her for about 1 1/2 years. Not a single email, phone call, deleted her from my Yahoo messenger. I bumped into her once or twice and just waved, made some small talk for 10 seconds and walked away. Her birthday is on Monday. Should I send a birthday email to her? What do you think? I just want to say hi, not even catch up or anything... Mike Link to post Share on other sites
ddd Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 Hi Mike, What is it that you wish to achieve by sending her an e-mail. You obviously haven't said happy birthday to her last year, so why now? Just be honest with yourself and find out what it is you want to accomplish. You say you don't want to catch up with her - so what's the point of contacting her? Link to post Share on other sites
silentalways Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 are u kidding? and miss burpday cake too? drop the card off and have a slice of baskin robbins cake - and just chillax. gawd, its my burpday in a couple of weeks - grooooooooooan! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 9, 2006 Share Posted December 9, 2006 Hi Mike, What is it that you wish to achieve by sending her an e-mail. You obviously haven't said happy birthday to her last year, so why now? Just be honest with yourself and find out what it is you want to accomplish. You say you don't want to catch up with her - so what's the point of contacting her? That'd be out of spite. Mike Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 9, 2006 Share Posted December 9, 2006 Hello, I've been pretty good about doing no contact with her for about 1 1/2 years. Not a single email, phone call, deleted her from my Yahoo messenger. I bumped into her once or twice and just waved, made some small talk for 10 seconds and walked away. Her birthday is on Monday. Should I send a birthday email to her? What do you think? I just want to say hi, not even catch up or anything... Mike No contact for over a year and a half? What would be the point indeed? She hasn't made the effort to contact you, so apparently she is either a) happy in a new relationship/moved on b) doesn't "value" you as a "friend" or person enough to have gone out of her way to contact you all this time and most importantly from a woman's perspective...the email will scream "he still has feelings after ALL THIS TIME" "he still wants me" etc... Again from a female perspective, that is exactly how I would read it. 100% he "isn't over me" and despite the no contact still has feelings for me all this time, Because the ones that don't "still have feelings" don't entertain thoughts of sending birthday emails. I have about 10 ex b.f.s and if one of them, after a yr and a half of n.c. sent me a b-day email that it the first and only thing that would cross my mind. Honestly. Trying to let you see inside a females mind and forewarn you. Also, are you currently single? If not, this might open a can of worms...i.e. set you back in your healing, put you back in that place when you first broke up, make you feel feelings for her you haven't in some time (should she start writing back). Exes are exes for a reason. It's called broken up, because it was broken. Have you truly moved on if you are contemplating this? I would think if you have, then the thought of sending a birthday email wouldn't even cross your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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