ninga317 Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 this site has given me so much strength, even though i've only posted twice, once to give advice, and once to ask for some but now i really need some help. my bf and i just broke up 2 weeks ago for the second time in a 1 1/2yr. i truly believe that he's a cp. his wife died of cancer at a young age, after they had they're two daughers. i knew him before that, through mutual friends, but we were just friends then. we got together,( mind you this was 12 years after his wife died) and we just clicked. there was always a communication problem(he's very "to himself) but we managed. we were very close. well about a week before thanksgiving he starts acting funny. staying gone, not calling, not answering my calls and lying about it. to make a long story short we broke up. (his choice). fine, i've had enough. he has alot of stuff here so he asked me when he could get it. i told him he couldn't get it until he payed me the $700.00 he owed me. well he came over and payed it back. there wasn't much said at that time. he knew i was mad about everything ( leaving like he did, especially after i gave him a second chance). i did the nc thing for real. i did not call him at all. he called me once, and i asked him what happened, and he said that he wasn't in love with me anymore. fine. i left it at that. (i mean, what is there really to say after that). he called again to ask when he could come and get his stuff. i decided that i didn't want to be here to watch him pack up his stuff and go (he's got about three carloads of stuff here) so i told him to come and get it tonight after 7:00p. i already knew i was going to be gone at my girfriend's birthday party, so i figured that would be alot easier on both of us. ok...i get home and his stuff is still here. there is a message on my voicemail, him saying that he was here but i wasn't. (yeah, no ****). so i call him and ask him why he didn't get his stuff, he said "because i thought you changed the locks". well i did say that i would when he owed me money, but after he payed me back, i had no reason to. it all just seems like some kind of game on his part. (why wouldn't just get out of your car, when you see i'm not home, and check to see if your key worked). i know this is long, even though i tried to keep it short, but what do you think is going on in his head. i was fully prepared to let it go. because i have been doin so good with nc. i was really prepared to come home tonight and see his things gone and then i could move on. please help. because i feel like i'm going to have to through it all over again. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 I think you are doing everything right, avoiding him, not being there when he wants to get his stuff, just otherwise tring to move on. I would suggest that you go to the mall or movies or something in the next day or so and let him know he can pick up his stuff, if he doesn't pick it up that time, ask a friend of the two of yorus if you could buy them dinner (people love free food ;D) if they drop off his stuff for you. Either way keep on what you are goind Link to post Share on other sites
Author ninga317 Posted December 10, 2006 Author Share Posted December 10, 2006 thanks tikigods for replying, it's really hard, because i had my heart:( set on moving on, as this would be the next step. now it just seems like i have to do it all over again. we live in a very close neighborhood and he has made friends with all of the neighbors, that's why i told him that he could move his stuff out at night. (i didn't want to be embarassed, being that he had made friends with them). when i called him tonight to find out why he didn't get his stuff, i said to him " do you think this is easy for me, why do you think that i planned on being away while you packed up your stuff any took it away". i didn't want to watch it, i didn't want to see him, and i didn't trust myself, that i wouldn't break down. i have being strong, and thanks to this website, i understand and embrase the wholes nc. because it works no matter what: if the person wants to be with you, it will make them miss you. if the person doesn't want to be with you, then it's a relief to them and they will never contact you> just my thoughts on it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ninga317 Posted December 10, 2006 Author Share Posted December 10, 2006 sorry, my last two sentences in the paragraph didn't make much sense, as my two cats ran all over my keyboard (they're maniacs!). Link to post Share on other sites
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