mizzsmiley Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Well, it all started when i broke up with him 2 months ago. I broke up with him because he was acting really distant and uninterested for months before.. He wouldnt call me, or even come down to see me on his days off unless i begged. He lives like 2 hrs away. I knew he loved me to death..and would do anything for me. but for some reason things just werent the same. A couple of days after we broke up... This girl, one of his "friends" that has had a huge thing for him for years, and has harrassed me in the start of our relationship trying to break us up, sends me an email and tells me that he's been cheating on me with her. Throughout the year that we were together i questioned him all the time...do you have something going on with this girl? or have you in the past?!? why is she so interested in you like this?!?! he says no "i hate her she's ugly and i wouldnt ever touch her." He is such a nice guy, doesnt do drugs, smoke or drink. And never i never for a minute suspected he was cheating until i got the email. So i am Shocked and hurt after i recieved this email from this girl, and tried to confront him but he ignores my emails and calls. So i assumed, if he's not denying it then he did cheat. now 2 months later..i wanted to try to be his friend. When he came over we ended up having sex. i wanted to get back with him but only if he was honest with me. He told me he did not cheat on me, the girl is his friend and she is a hooker. And that she has been paying him to be her "pimp" Well, he said he wasnt actually her pimp that he was just like her personal security guard standing outside while she did her business making sure she was ok. And she paid him well for it, and he needed the extra money to support his family and to pay all his bills. BTW he is 24 yrs old and makes a lot of money in his regular job $50,000+ a year actually, so i dont understand why he had to do this on the side too. so he did it behind my back knowing i would get mad if i found out. OF Course i would be, what girl wouldnt right?!?!?! this was going on a month b4 we broke up til now. And that's why he had been so distant and "busy" all the time and couldnt come down to see me. And the reason why he didnt try to explain himself was because he didnt want me to somehow find out he was "working" for her. and he said he was lonely and depressed about our breakup...and had sex with her a couple of times. but not ever, before we broke up. he said that it was just sex nothing more, he didnt even kiss her. and still thinks she's disgusting, and only doing this for the money. soo now i am sooo very confused about what to do. should i get back with him?!? knowing that he didnt actually cheat and only had sex with her after we broke up? ii love him so much and he loves me and is willing to do watever it takes to regain my trust. i told him he needs to take a blood test to check for any STDs. he agrees. i cant stop thinking about them sleeping with each other, it disgusts me and makes me feel dirty for sleepin with him after knowing all of this. And get this...he tells me he really doesnt want to stop "working" for her because he can easily make $500 or more a day and will never have sex with her again. but he will stop if i ask him to. i feel bad because he really needs the extra money for his family..that part i know is true. am i just being naive and he's using his family as an excuse?!? is he lying to me? did he actually cheat on me..and is just lying to get me back?!? what should i do?! i cant ask my friends for advice because im kind of ashamed of it. and they already hate him, thinkin he cheated on me this whole time. please help. sorry about the long post. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Sometimes sleeping with a hooker isn't the worst thing that could happen. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 revenge is a dish best served cold. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mizzsmiley Posted December 10, 2006 Author Share Posted December 10, 2006 p.s. btw, im not trying to be conceited or anything but honestly i am a really beautiful girl, nice curves and everything. guys hit on me all the time but i always reject them because i am committed to my ex/bf. and this other girl she looks like a dog, seriously. UGLY as hell and has no body at all. If he really cheated then that really doesnt make sense at all to me. That's why i had doubts of him ever cheating at all. but there was the long distance factor, me not being available to him whenever he wanted. Are guys just in it for the p**sy? does it really not matter if you have a beautiful girl waiting for you at home?!?! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Are guys just in it for the p**sy? does it really not matter if you have a beautiful girl waiting for you at home?!?! Men prefer variety....regardless who's waiting at home Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Men prefer variety....regardless who's waiting at home And other men prefer variety with ONE woman. Link to post Share on other sites
TYASAFAHICSI Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Sounds like you are jealous. I am so beautiful but the woman he is with is a dog. Link to post Share on other sites
HennyPenny Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 If it were me? I wouldn't gamble a healthy vagina at the risk of acquiring any boogety beasties because he plooks crack whores when he gets depressed. Call me shallow, but I'd rather be alone than risk having tag warts hanging from my genitals. Besides, you sound like you could do much better than the kind of guy who would dip his wick into such a dirty ball of wax. There are better guys out there. Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Short answer is no you shouldn't take him back. Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 Mizz, If your ex was such a great guy he wouldn't be a pimp to a hooker. And I'd feel pretty grossed out to know a guy I was sleeping with slept with a sleezebag too. I don't think I could sleep with him again. I don't think this guy is a keeper. He's making some poor decisions for yourself and putting you at risk. Link to post Share on other sites
rp107 Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 it sounds like u have not found the right person yet... sorry to say but IMO I would definatly not keep up with him... It's hard to let go, so I am finding out, but u have to... If he luved u in the first place he never would have gone and found a hooker, damn... that's crazy gurl... thier is a guy out thier who will see u for u. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 i am a really beautiful girl, nice curves and everything. guys hit on me all the time *** this other girl she looks like a dog, seriously. UGLY as hell and has no body at all. Looks aren't everything. Link to post Share on other sites
drea2379 Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 I honestly can't believe you're considering going back to him. You had said you were too ashamed to talk to anyone you know about it.....think about that. If he had nothing to hide he wouldn't have ignored your emails and calls. I know that break ups are hard especially in the beginning, you need to give yourself a chance to meet someone that truely appreciates you. Remember, there is only one kind of love, but there are a thousand imitations. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
heartbroken1234 Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 No, personally I'm very sorry, but I would say DO NOT GET BACK WITH HIM!!! I would be more likely to say yes if he quits his job thats making him "extra money". Yeah right, the girl is a hooker and he probably sleeps with her every night, I'm sorry... Also, don't get me wrong, he could be a great guy, I've obviously never met either of you, BUT... as a few people have said above, he isn't that good a guy and doesn't show very good character being someone's "pimp". Good money or not, does not make it right. What you're saying and allowing him to believe is that as long as he's making money, who cares how he's doing it. This might come across kind of mean, but Mizz, you know what else can make people lots of money? Selling drugs, Hitman (murderers), Mafia Members, the actual hookers themselves... You get my drift! Yeah, all those jobs get you lots of money, BUT DOES NOT MAKE IT RIGHT! And you can really judge someone's character if they are willing to do that, no matter how much money they are making. Maybe you should consider loving someone for there personality, character, morals, etc, rather than worry bout if he's making money and what he's making it for. No offense, but HE IS A BAD PERSON FOR WHAT HE IS DOING, end of story! Now, people can change and I truly hope the best for you. But at the same time, I feel like it is possible for you to do much better maybe. There are so many people out there in the world, and if someone treats you like he is when ur apart and does what he's doing, I'm 100% positive there are guys out there that would never do that type fo thing towards you! Anyways, my last statement... I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU ARE EVEN CONSIDERING! Love is a very powerful thing, I know, but sometimes you just have to realize how it is and open your eyes up. Do you really love him? Are you just jealous? Do you honestly think he'll stay interested this time and not become distant? Don't forget, YOU dumped him... Link to post Share on other sites
silentalways Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 that not so bad. people should forgive more. i always do. let me explain: one year ago my gf broke ended our 12 year relationship and i didn't know the reasons until lasty night during her 5 orgasms she finally said 'i'll you why - just stop give me the massive wave orgasms [i whispered - no way sweetie] and then we laughed and she rolled off me to the side and she talked and told me everything and i listen and was so glad she had finally found a way to do that - i saw getting so relaxed like a weight was off her. and then we started up again. and she said 'hey, this is like the early days when did u get that mojo working again because, babe, u well - and i said 'remember our talk about that? remember how u pointed out to me how special this for us and that cocaine use and sex [at the same time is like skinny dipped in ice water] ahhhhhhhh...yes the cocaine she gets up and walks to the edge of the bed puts on her clothes now i am really worried should i have told her about that again bring up bad vibes right after 6 hours of hummina Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 If it were me? I wouldn't gamble a healthy vagina at the risk of acquiring any boogety beasties because he plooks crack whores when he gets depressed. Call me shallow, but I'd rather be alone than risk having tag warts hanging from my genitals. Besides, you sound like you could do much better than the kind of guy who would dip his wick into such a dirty ball of wax. There are better guys out there. Couldn't have said it better myself! I love how you write! boogety beasties... I'll have to use that one. Should you take him back? WHY WOULD YOU WANT HIM BACK? If he needs money for his family, there are other more respectible part time jobs he could acquire. What he's doing is nasty. Link to post Share on other sites
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