BaileyBailz Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Hi there, Im new to this site...I saw it when I was looking for tips on what to do about my girlfriend. I have been dating her for 3 years and she dumped me because she doesnt love me anymore. We both had been distant and there was no spark between us. I am an idiot for not noticing sooner but maybe that saying about not knowing what u have until its gone is true...I was just wondering if anyone had any tips on how to get her back. Most websites say to make her jealous by dating other people but i dont want to do that. She says I should date other people ...is that code? If you have any tips...it would be greatly appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BaileyBailz Posted December 10, 2006 Author Share Posted December 10, 2006 Did i not do it right or something? I see that a lot of people have looked but not replied...If i made a mistake im sorry - im new to the board!...please help tho...i need some ideas... Link to post Share on other sites
Haliburton92 Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Sounds like she's already distanced herself from you emotionally. If this is the case it's not like no contact is gonna work to get her back. I would do the things that made her fall for you in the first place. If you can get a date with her, make it a pleasant one. If she discusses the relationship (you should never bring up the past), just agree with whatever she says - don't put yourself at odds. Link to post Share on other sites
Winfield Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Sounds like she's already distanced herself from you emotionally. If this is the case it's not like no contact is gonna work to get her back. I would do the things that made her fall for you in the first place. If you can get a date with her, make it a pleasant one. If she discusses the relationship (you should never bring up the past), just agree with whatever she says - don't put yourself at odds. ^^ I agree with this post to a point, but not the part I've highlighted in bold... Why should he agree with his (ex) girlfriend if he does not agree with what she's saying? Putting on such a fascade would work in the short term in luring her back perhaps, but telling someone what they want to hear (but not meaning it) does not work for either party in the long run - it leads to resentment and totally undermines the logic of an honest, trusting relationship. If you get the feeling that things were not quite right long before you broke up, the chances are that the damage was done some time ago. Sometimes relationships just "burn out" naturally, which is a shame (I know the feeling - it's happened to me too)... But don't you think it's best for the long run that your (ex) girlfriend was honest enough to express her true feelings, and decide to call the relationship a "day" as she simply felt that the relationship had "ran its race"? Sure, it feels miserable when you break up with someone...but it's better than years of resentment, misery and arguing (which, in such a scenario, I feel would be more than likely to happen in the long run)! Link to post Share on other sites
heartbroken1234 Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 It's very obvious that you are going to be hurting. Anytime you lose something that was such a big part of your life, it hurts. I mean, for 3 years you were with her, the fact that you were both distance and w/ out a spark is beyond the point. I hate to say it but you are going to hurt. Allow yourself this time to hurt and let it all out. What to do? I'm a huge believer in following your heart. Lots of people will tell you to date other people to try and make your ex jealous. Which it could very likely work. But at the same time, I'm in the same situation and feel as if I truly love my ex, I would not want to be with others. At the same time though, there is no harm in dating. You have to remember, she broke up with you, not the other way around. I think it was very bold of her to tell you she just didn't love you anymore. You have to at least respect that. My ex has not given me the desency to say that to me. And the kicker with mine, is that she has a boyfriend. With time tho, like now, for me... It's getting to the point where I'm truly being comfortable with her being with him, almost like I"m happy for her. So as many people will say no contact, I'm going to have to agree to the above response. You have to just be who you are, follow your heart, and show her the person she fell in love with! Hang in there though man! Time will make things easier. There is a great thread on this site to the stages of a break up and stuff. All of this stuff is opinionated and it is nice to see what people say and think. But in the end, the only thing that matters is how YOU feel and what ur heart makes you do. Just stay true to yourself and your heart! Link to post Share on other sites
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