silentalways Posted December 11, 2006 Share Posted December 11, 2006 just thought i would pass on some info i recently discovered about why that is important [for both] say u just start dating someone, chances are the last thing each one wants to hear about the ex [that's what happened in my last long term - for months the focus was on him - not ME grrrrrr! but i rode it out and the reward was sweet and delicious] but the opposite is actually true [don't believe these online advice rags] and i will tell u why. when u have info about that person and their past, u are better prepared to handle things, be aware of danger signs and repeat performances [read rebounders] for example - some maybe not feel the length of time between relationships is important - some people, if they think that they have superpowers believe nothing impacts them - but that's a lie i will give u a true personal experience - many years ago [recent really -lol] i thought the best way to move on from someone that was hurting me [wrong - did that myself] was to get the confidence back and dating is a great way to do that. but i try to be as honest as possible and i would never use someone for an ego boast - i would only start dating if i BELIEVED the ex was gone forever and i was ready and my last dating experience i thought i was until i realized that while i viewed,, admired this woman for her own unique qualities i immdeiately noticed that i was unconsciously doing things that were carbon copies of what i did with the ex - i never do that [relapse time - wooo hooo] and she was doing the same thing - so we both saw that and said 'OK, NOT GONNA HAPPEN AT ALL' - we both moved on and haven't spoken, emailed, called since then - that's a huge sign so, learn and show interest in your partner in every way and u will both have wonderful happy lives Link to post Share on other sites
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