how do you have a good relationship w/ the MIL again?

[ambigous one]

whats the best way to win back and MIL and stepson, when your SO has sabotaged the relationship because of his controlling/manipulative ways? Even though I know he is in the wrong, it will be up to me to fix this and I am just really not sure how to go about doing it. They totally support him 100%. They have no idea what my side of the story is. We have had major problems since Aug. and mainly it is due to family and him attempting to isolate me from them. I just want to make the best of things and try to unite of all once again for the sake of every one's sanity. To give you some background I am 27 he is 43 and we have been together nearly 8 yrs.

[silentalways]

the key is shifting focus - as soon as your partner starts telling about some random trival thing about her oh so important job [yawn] - let her get at least a sentence worth of words out - then keep interrupting her and eventually the 'opening' will present itself and that's when u start talking about the REAL IMPORTANT STUFF like u meant to get up and go to work again today but you are so close to yer person record for using up leave time that you stayed home - because records are important u know

 

and if she tries interrupting - just start stomping around like a grumpy monkey with a small banana

 

 

i know i am poking fun at some serious issues but it can't all be doom and gloom

 

ok that's enuff self to ex gf acknolegdemet of a few things i am working on