Confused19 Posted July 5, 2002 Share Posted July 5, 2002 Ok here goes.... I have been with my bf for over a year and my ex has been with his girl for over 2. I still really care for my ex alot and the last time we hung out he almost kissed me. He says he still really cares for me and thinks about me all the time. He says he misses the old days and talks about the way things used to be. And wishes he could turn back time... If he cares about me so much like I do him then why does he keep doing this to me? Why does he stay with her if he cares for me so much? Is he just playing games to try to get into my pants? Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted July 5, 2002 Share Posted July 5, 2002 I feel sorry for your boyfriend and your ex's girlfriend. If you still have feelings for your ex, what are you doing with your current boyfriend? Stop trying to figure out what your ex is feeling and try figuring out where your feelings and loyalties lie. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 5, 2002 Share Posted July 5, 2002 Sit back and try to recall why you and your ex broke up. Unless the two of you are insane, there had to be a good reason or many reasons. Once you start recalling the reason or reasons for the break up, just know that those problems and dynamics would still be there if you got back together. Chemistry, behavior and circumstances don't just change with the snap of a finger. As far as him wanting to get into your pants, what difference does it make? The real point here is that you broke up for a valid reason...again, if the two of you are sane, rational people....and that break up should remain in force. Remember, it takes a lot more than love and attraction to keep a relationship going. Undoubtedly there is still love and attraction there but the break up was for significant reasons beyond those. Forget this ex and concentrate on your current relationship. If you aren't happy with it, move on and find happiness and fulfillment elsewhere. Sit back and remember....................... Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 5, 2002 Share Posted July 5, 2002 it sounds like this guy is playing head games with you, and you're falling for them hook, line and sinker. And it's probably because you've got a boyfriend and he can't handle the thought of it. Because if he actually gave a rat's ass about either of you, he would not be doing this to you or his girlfriend. Only a class act jerk does that. Tony also has a point about remembering why the two of you broke up in the first place. Of course the grass is going to look greener on the other side of the fence, especially when you can't see the holes left behind by prairie dogs and golphers. Link to post Share on other sites
questionaire Posted July 8, 2002 Share Posted July 8, 2002 Originally posted by Confused19 Why does he stay with her if he cares for me so much? Is he just playing games to try to get into my pants? he obviously doesn't care you second question, he will be interested in your pants if you have something to offer him STAY AWAY FROM HIM Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted July 8, 2002 Share Posted July 8, 2002 OK here is your first light bulb moment....if you are actually listening and falling for the things he is saying to you, that's a sign you aren't happy with your current boyfriend. If you were, it wouldn't matter WHAT he said, it wouldn't distract you from your current relationship. This reminds me of a story my bf told me a while back. He was talking to one of his ex's...she's married, and they were just having conversation. And after talking to her for a few weeks he told her "Now I realize why we broke up!" You will too... Link to post Share on other sites
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