Moms.....ugh!!!!!!

[georgejungle]

I love MOM dearly, but she has always been one high strung,

''get stressed out'' kinda gal. She's always stressed, tired, always

late everywhere, takes on too much, then complains she's not

getting help, makes us feel bad, flies off the handle at times, is

very very very nitpicky, constantly has some problem to complain

about with her own Mom, my sister, my dad, etc. It's hard to tell

her she's being a certain way, because she's also SUPER sensitive

and gets her feelings hurt.

 

Now that i'm married, in my early 30's, i'm finding it hard to

feel comfy around her with my wife. She digs my wife, but

my wife is kinda scared of her, afraid to make a bad impression

needs to get mentally prepared to go over to my family's house,

i can't blame her, my mom ain't the most laid

back lady, even though she tries to act happy all

the time. As a youngster i would do anything and everything to

please her, for fear of her wrath rearing it's ugly head. Her behavior

for sure affected me in my adult life, i get stressed a lot, I don't

Yell nor am i mean, but it's a prob i've always tried to mellow out,

and i'm more laid back than she

 

Anyway, rather than turn this into a long drawn out couch

session, My main concern is making my wife feel comfy in the

presence of my mom which seems like an impossible thing and

not having to worry when a Family thing comes up.

My wife with my dad is smooooth sailing, because he's very

easy going, no drama, no stress, no prob etc.

But my mom is a different story. She can be so judgemental andso opinionated (yet again she will deny it) and it bugs the

crap out of me

 

I guess we all have moms with quirks and some of us dread

seeing our parents, so what am i complaining about, right?