Wheresdalove Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 This is the scenario..I hav this lady..beautiful..spiritual...outgoing all tht..basikally everything i think i want in a woman We hav been friends for a while..then we decided to b lovers..the thing is as friends we shared alll our secrets n everything friends wud do.even knew all the women i slept wit n i knew all the men she slept with..SO I THOUGHT when we first started being a couple we had the time of our lives..undeniably n lov..i knew she was the one..wat more cud i ask for?she was my everything... 1 day we were talkn n she admittd to sleeping with peepl who she didnt tell me about b4...it was 1 person actually..cool..i cud handle tht..he was 10 yrs older than her n they workd togethr n i knew him..thts y she didnt tell me b4..it was jus a fling...i swallowd it..cool...i thought tht ain tht bad.. then BOOM..she says one more thing...I had a 3some b4...wit 2 guys... MY world came crashing down...YUCK..how cud she...i had this vision of her..i put her on a pedastal...now she tells me this? eww...i felt disgusted..mad..n depressd..my queen isnt a queen...mayb she isnt for me i thought...this really hurts she says she was really drunk n high..the 2 guys were her "friends" one she was dating the other was his bestfriend...her n the one she dated were having sex n the othr guy jus took it upon himsef to jump in... she sed she felt terrible since then n its somtn she regrets...she wantd to say stop but she sed as it was happening she felt helpless...n also a lil curious so she let it happen.. after that she cut off all contact wit them..n she cries when we talk bout it...i hate her for that...i feel like thoz 20mins or howeva long the 3som was took my "wife to be" away from me. we are still togethr but i dnt kno wat to do ne more...complicated situation...Im a club promotr n i kno a lot of peepl one day som1 will prolly xpose me i feel...iono..iono wat to do...shud i leave her? Link to post Share on other sites
Ladywithafan Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 What if if was you and two chicks? This was way before you so it really doesn't have anything to do with the two of you unless you feel like what you've done before will have any relevance.... Link to post Share on other sites
Zato Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 If she loves you, she cut contact, she regrets it.. then whats the big deal? Yeah she made a mistake and regrets it but you should not hold it against her. She loved you enough to tell you. Sounds like you got a great girl even though she has made mistake in the past. No matter what her past is - her future is spotless. Possibly with you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
fluffy0 Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 Maybe she is a little freaked out by the change from friendship to relationship, so she started telling you about her "bad" side to see how you would react, if you would still want to be with her. She opened up about something very personal to you, I wouldn't penalize her for it by holding what she said against her, because then she might not trust you again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Wheresdalove Posted December 14, 2006 Author Share Posted December 14, 2006 Yea i hear yall..thts wat i tried to do..but u dont understand the seriousness of the subject...Wat if she liked it? I get that notion evry now n then... when this happend she was nvolvd wit som1 else..even tho their relationship was rocky..they were togethr for 4 yrs... she has been so church going n so lookd at as "positvie female" then she does somthn like tht...so how can i b so sure of her? its overwhelming at times...especially when we have sex...i jus imagine her n a 3some... its like when u hav a wife.u want her to hav this purity...a womans body is sacred...after so many sex partners n sexual xperiences...thts purity is lost....who wants to marry som1 like tht? Link to post Share on other sites
My Fair Katie Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 who wants to marry som1 like tht? Women marry someone like that all the time. Heh. If you can't get over it you should end it and let her find someone who can love her completely. She deserves that. Link to post Share on other sites
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