Ok, she just stopped by

[stanchain]

Ok, it has been one whole month since we split. Today for the first time in like 3 weeks we saw one another. She came by without telling me and we sat and talked for like 2 hours. She talked about what went wrong and how come she actually left. She was sad because she felt like I would not give her another chance and things of that nature. She told me all about the guy she had been kicking it with and how she only sees him as a friend nothing more and such. She cried, told me that she still loves me and is still in love with me. was mad because she thought that I had moved on and was seeing somebody else. No I am more confused than I ever was. I mean was that only because she thought I was seeing somebody already? Or did she mean what she said and really want to give it a second chance? I mean everything she said sounded believable, I just dont want to get my hopes up when it could just be because she thought I had moved on. HELP NEED ADVICE

[jusified]

Give all this another month, see how she feels in that time.

Keep the contact to non or minimum and go on with your life. Evaluate on what you want and wheather shes right for you. If by the end you do still love her and want to be with her and actually think shes the right one then go for it.

 

I just think if you take her back now its all too easy and the relationship is in trouble anyways

[stanchain]

I told her that I do love her... and would like to try and make this work. But I think she should really think about and if she decides she wants to try... then some things have to change... like kicking it with that guy friend amongst other things. And that we would have to take it slw. start off by dating again and go from there

[jusified]

yea well becareful because old wounds are stll there.

 

My ex also wanted to email,hangout with other guys and felt like she had the rightto meet other guys alone and not have to see me upset about it, she meet up with ex a few times without telling me. She was craving for guy attention.

 

How old are you and your girl? I am 21 and my ex is 20.

 

I really do hope things work out for you, just becareful because sometimes the girls personality don't change over night, her agreeing to do alot of things is because she just want you back to fill the void.

[demilde]

Having other maile friends should not be an issue. It does not mean that they fancy eachother or want to sh@g eachother; it might be that they just like each others company as friends. And if you show that you are cool with this then that shows a great amount of trust; which will be well received. But then it cuts both ways.

[jusified]

yea thats true, I agree that its ok to have male friends and hang out and stuff. But I just asked to be told and some what made feel secure etc, Not everyone is secure about this and its up to the partner to communicate and make sur they feel ok. Imean in the end its your partners feelings that matter most.

 

But in all honesty, there is no need for a taken girl to meet another guy alone.

[stanchain]

Yeah, well we arent together anymore... so i mean she is free to do what she wants with who she wants. The thing that gets me is she spends all this time with him. But swears nothing is going on. And even asked me tonight not to have sex with any other females because she feels that if I do then I will never want to work things out with her. And i want to believe her. I mean she has always been in to older guys. I mean I am 29 she is 21... but this guy friend of hers is 17. she says he just acts to imature, but she kicks it with him because she hates sitting at home (never has liked sitting around her parents, plus a lot of fam issues with them). still every minute she spends with him is time she could be using to work on us is how I feel. but then again she just came out and said she would like another chance tonight... so I am not really sure what is goin on

[jusified]

dude, your 29 and I know you are wiser then that. I am only 21 and I can just advise you this (i know its hard to see it from your position).

 

Girls at that age don't know what they want or doing, guys that age are just horny (well not just that age).

 

She doesn't sound like a girl that would make you happy for the rest of you life.

 

With that said I suppose you wouldn't sleep with anyone this quick anyway, but if this girl wants another chance then ask her how mcuh does she love you and if she doe love you then it shouldn't be a tough choice to not see the ex that often.

[stanchain]

Ya know man... sometimes age doesnt play a big factor when it come sto emotion. I mean really it is a difficult situation for me because this is my FIRST real relationship. Oh I have slept with well over a hundred women in my day. But as far as something meaningful... not my style. So when it comes to this I know nothing. I cant just say ok... you still love me lets work on this... I want to.. but cant. just wont come out. 2 reasons...1 cause that is just too easy for her. If she wants this she needs to be the one to try to come back in. and 2 just incase she was just havin a moment of weakness.... and she decides she doesnt want to come hom eafter all. i am trying ot be a patient person... just hard when you love somebody

[demilde]

Maybe hanging out with this fella is a way being able to go out without getting hounded by lads trying to cop off with her. Just give everything time and everything will work out for the best; either with her or without her.

[jusified]

the other kid is 17, how serious can you take things from him if you meet him.

Best of luck stan, i think everyone knows its hard fo you.

[Guest]

Reading these threads have some insight to what has/is happening to others out there every day. We all experience the comical ways we react or read from others.

 

But, ME?! Oh NO! See it happens. I am on the do up and down side of things at the moment. I have tried to reconcile my life for the past 12 yrs. And I just ain't gettin it! Whatever I did/do I must of tried too hard. Something I always seem to do. Whatever needed to be done, count on me folks. For cries sake, somebody stop me... Any how whatever comes my way I have not confronted it enough, but somehow realise I have internally purshed the reall issues away to death.

 

Maybe it time for me to head on it straight away and see where the chips may fall. As you the book claim there are no real answers for just one of us. However, I have experienced the rejection for so long that I see I have not readily accepted that "hey, he just don't want anything to do with you! THat's why your a fu----- clown. Oh me, that hurts, why wouldnt it? Nobody likes to be the frown turned upside down for all to see.

 

I can be open hearted towards new people I meet, but let them get close to me and I have always managed to keep them at arms length. My need to have multiple associations just seemed like a waste. Wrong. I am like others lonely and the need to be like all others is often contemplated as well.

 

I m at a crossroads in life, the rejection I am at the receiving end of it and it doesn't appear likely to go my way. This saddens me to no end.

 

Perhaps reading and finding the why and have not will encounter the real deal in life. I am fortunate to have met someone who is very special to me and can honestly say fell in love. Our lives differ in many ways, but he brings out the most in me, but somehow I bring the bad in him. May have to do with the lack of committment due to my current status that really has been a thorn up my a--. It has been going gone for manh a yrs!

 

Hopefully I will work this out soon. Or I'll seek ourt other avenues to find the reason as to why they continued.

 

I feel alone and sad that I not have no one, but missed out on maybe the one?

 

Wish me Luck... I'll get back to you in 5 days!