Guest Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 I wasn't sure where to post this, but without me being a member it wont let me post but so many places. My wife and I have been married for almost 9 years now. We don't have any kids. She has no problem getting pregnant, but just keeps miss carrying. The doctors say its nothing she is doing or anything like that, but for some reason she has had many miscarriages. They have run test after tests on her over the past few years, and have found nothing wrong. No reason for why she shouldn't be able to carry one. She has had a total of about 7 over the past 5 years. We were married for at least 4 before we even started to try to have kids. She seems to miscarry anywhere from around 8 weeks to 13 weeks, somewhere along those times, except one time was right at about 6 weeks. It has been very stressful not only for her but me as well. It seems each time she has a miscarriage it gets easier for her to deal with them, maybe since she has had a few, I dunno. Don't get me wrong, its painful when she does, but she just seems to have a better handle on her feelings. How many miscarriages are to many before one says, maybe its just not in the cards for us to have a kid? I mean I can understand 2 or 3 but 7? To me is alot. Or at least I would think so. Is it a health risk or can something really be wrong or go wrong if she keeps having that many miscarriages? Looks to me like it would be hard on her body. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 I don't know how many is too many, but they're often caused by an abnormally developing fetus (not enough chromosomes, I think). Miscarriages are fairly common, though often are undetected because they happen so early in the pregnancy that a woman doesn't even know she's pregnant. If they can't find anything wrong with your wife, have they talk with you? Maybe you could get your sperm tested for abnormalities? Do you smoke - I've heard that a husband's smoking can lead to elevated risk of miscarriage? Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 I would tend to wonder what her OB is thinking not testing her more extensively because 7 is actually a lot. Maybe you guys should see a fertility specialist? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 I don't know how many is too many, but they're often caused by an abnormally developing fetus (not enough chromosomes, I think). Miscarriages are fairly common, though often are undetected because they happen so early in the pregnancy that a woman doesn't even know she's pregnant. If they can't find anything wrong with your wife, have they talk with you? Maybe you could get your sperm tested for abnormalities? Do you smoke - I've heard that a husband's smoking can lead to elevated risk of miscarriage? NO, I don't smoke. My brother smokes like a freight train and he has 3 kids. LOL, but guess it just depends. I have not been checked out yet but after this last miscarriage which was back in October, I am going to mention it to them. They have not said anything to me about it. It would be good to get myself tested as well just to rule anything out going on with me as well. This is really emotionally draining for us, and especially when we see people who have kids that probably have no business with kids to begin with. Saw a man in the store the other day acting real ugly to his kid, I couldn't help but think, you know what man, you need your foul mouth a$$ kicked. Be glad you can even have any. Link to post Share on other sites
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