Shrelana Posted December 15, 2006 Share Posted December 15, 2006 So, yea, interesting story. My mother's previous marriage yielded a son, which thanks to a decietful grandmother (her grandmother) was taken away by the state at the age of 16 months. A couple years later she met and married my dad. When my bro was 21ish, he contacted us. My parents pulled a lot of cockamainy crap w/ me emotionally when I was a child, and cause me to think I was crap to begin w/. Well, when big bro moved in, a lot of problems became very apparent in our family. Mom pretty much told him that she didn't want him near her family again, dad's been in contact w/ him for several years, and I recently regained contact with him...I've only recently learned to be my own person (thanks to the hard work of my fiance ). I'm really excited, and praying that my bro and I can have a good relationship. I keep finding myself anxiously looking at the computer to see if he's e-mailed me back. I'm so excited, because the more I look at what happened during that time, the more I see that he didn't cause any of the problems that had been happening....he merely showed us thos problems. He's also grown up a lot from what my dad says (if dad can be trusted), but there's still the fact that my folks were screwed up from the get go.... Goodness, it's never good when on your 16th birthday, you discover your dad's been having affairs for 17 years. Thanks to that, I actually don't remember much from before my 16th birthday... I know that I was emotionally abused. I remember being hit so hard from discipline that I'd almost fall down a flight of stairs, broken glasses a few times. For 2 years, I wondered...why didn't anyone at school ask about my bruised face? Goodness...the councilor pulled me into her office when I had a bruise on my elbow from a bow string...but she never asked why my face was bruised and swollen. It took me two years to realize that the question "why?" has no answer. If it had an answer, then it would mean that the abuse would be justified. It can never be justified, because if it were justified, that would somehow make it right... I'm so glad that my fiance introduced me to his family and let me in to a loving family that doesn't use manipulation and abuse to gain things..... Sorry, I guess this kinda went a little off topic....I do really hope that getting in touch w/ my brother will help me to deal with the abuse though. If nothing else, I will be in contact with my family.... Link to post Share on other sites
bbelmont83 Posted December 15, 2006 Share Posted December 15, 2006 Keeping in contact with the fam is always a good thing. I really hope it works out for you and your bro. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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