Creepy, Homeless Uncle

[BenThereDunThat]

I am so upset right now. My mom, who is deceased, had a wayward younger brother. Their parents died when he was a teenager and he has hated the world ever since. My mom and her sister would take turns taking him in, but he would ultimately get asked to leave for drugs or some other stupid thing.

 

He was not speaking to my mom for 4 years before she died. The day of the funeral, he showed up at my door and looked me straight in the eye and said "at least you had her longer than I had my mother." And not in a nice tone. Then he proceeded to ask me for a ride to the funeral home. I told him no. I did not want him around when we had our private viewing time. Frankly, I didn't want him there at all after the way he treated my mother. All because she told him he needed to quit coming to her and my dad for handouts.

 

At one time he owned 4 homes, 3 of which he rented out. He had a good paying job at a large aerospace company. He systematically lost everything one by one. The job he lost because he was bugging some poor receptionist to go out with him, stalking her. Also, he threatened to turn higher ups in for some made-up tax evasion nonsense.

 

I live alone. At one point he showed up at my door, all greasy, stinky, asking if he could move in with me. Oh yeah, this was after he told me he started smoking crack.

 

I said no. Then I got married and he never came around again. Well, now that I'm alone again, who shows up at my door asking for a handout? I had $4 on me and I gave it to him. Mostly just to get rid of him. Honestly, that was the last of my cash until payday the following week.

 

I am barely keeping my head above water myself. I just had to spend $800 on brakes - more money I didn't have. I'm in debt to begin with because of my loser ex-husband.

 

I foolishly told Uncle Bill that my sister is having Christmas Eve. Well, he calls her. Proceeds to tell her how he came by my house and got $4 off of me and could she PLEASE talk to me and tell me to take him in, he's on the street.

 

I'm sorry, but I don't care. I am not close to him, never was. In fact, I remember hating it when he tickled me when I was a kid. I've never really cared for him and that pretty much turned to hate when my mom died.

 

Now I have to deal with him crying on my shoulder at Christmas Eve, begging me to move in. I'm sorry, but I can't afford a dependent. Especially not a 50 year old drug addict.

 

The man can't keep a job, car, anything to save his soul.

 

WHY should this be my problem???

 

Sorry for the long post.

[burning 4 revenge]

Is that him in your avatar?

[BenThereDunThat]

Is that him in your avatar?

 

:lmao: NO, but just for fun let's pretend it's him. Although the guy in the picture is cleaner than my uncle.

[Porn_Guy]

yea he sounds pretty creepy! maybe he's mentally ill

[Pyro]

I am so upset right now. My mom, who is deceased, had a wayward younger brother. Their parents died when he was a teenager and he has hated the world ever since. My mom and her sister would take turns taking him in, but he would ultimately get asked to leave for drugs or some other stupid thing.

 

He was not speaking to my mom for 4 years before she died. The day of the funeral, he showed up at my door and looked me straight in the eye and said "at least you had her longer than I had my mother." And not in a nice tone. Then he proceeded to ask me for a ride to the funeral home. I told him no. I did not want him around when we had our private viewing time. Frankly, I didn't want him there at all after the way he treated my mother. All because she told him he needed to quit coming to her and my dad for handouts.

 

At one time he owned 4 homes, 3 of which he rented out. He had a good paying job at a large aerospace company. He systematically lost everything one by one. The job he lost because he was bugging some poor receptionist to go out with him, stalking her. Also, he threatened to turn higher ups in for some made-up tax evasion nonsense.

 

I live alone. At one point he showed up at my door, all greasy, stinky, asking if he could move in with me. Oh yeah, this was after he told me he started smoking crack.

 

I said no. Then I got married and he never came around again. Well, now that I'm alone again, who shows up at my door asking for a handout? I had $4 on me and I gave it to him. Mostly just to get rid of him. Honestly, that was the last of my cash until payday the following week.

 

I am barely keeping my head above water myself. I just had to spend $800 on brakes - more money I didn't have. I'm in debt to begin with because of my loser ex-husband.

 

I foolishly told Uncle Bill that my sister is having Christmas Eve. Well, he calls her. Proceeds to tell her how he came by my house and got $4 off of me and could she PLEASE talk to me and tell me to take him in, he's on the street.

 

I'm sorry, but I don't care. I am not close to him, never was. In fact, I remember hating it when he tickled me when I was a kid. I've never really cared for him and that pretty much turned to hate when my mom died.

 

Now I have to deal with him crying on my shoulder at Christmas Eve, begging me to move in. I'm sorry, but I can't afford a dependent. Especially not a 50 year old drug addict.

 

The man can't keep a job, car, anything to save his soul.

 

WHY should this be my problem???

 

Sorry for the long post.

 

I would tell you to consider it if he were being nice to you, but he is not, so you are not obliged to let him move in.

[goodfriendeva]

you guys dont have shelters where your at?? no he isnt your problem.. but i agree maybe he is mentally ill.. after his mother dying and all and still going through alot of stuff.. i dont think it would be safe for him to live with you esp since your the only one else in the house kwim?

[BenThereDunThat]

I'm sure he is mentally ill. But he's got this chip on his shoulder and has had it his whole life. The world owes him a living. Another reason he lost his job was because he was constantly faking back problems and collecting disability.

 

I don't know if we have any shelters here in the suburbs, he'd probably have to go into the city. Which would take him away from the last few people he has left to sponge off of.

 

He was working for a friend of his. How he managed to screw that up, I don't know. He just can't keep a job. I don't think he even wants to. He's just basically dropped out.

 

The reason I'm the one he's bugging is because 1. I live within walking distance of the supposed gas station he's sleeping at (another friend) and 2. because I'm the only one who's by myself. He doesn't bug my sister because she has a husband. He never once came around while I was married.

 

My mom and her sister did everything they could for him. He repaid them by dealing drugs out of their homes - mind you, we were all little kids. I remember one time while he was living with us, he got mad at my mom and vandalized our stereo. They've loaned him money, paid for utilities, my dad would fix his car for free. This has been going on for years.

 

My mom and aunt finally said enough. You're a grown man, time to buck up and get with it. Well, that pissed him off so he cut them out. Then he was going to my dad's work for handouts, because he has a soft heart. Well, dad has since retired so that avenue is closed.

 

Oh yeah, he was in the army for a while. Got kicked out.

 

Frankly, the man scares me. He shows up at my house late, when all my lights are off. I now have to keep my porch light off and my next door neighbor knows he has to call before he comes over so I know it's him.

 

Oh yeah, and another thing!! Before I got married and first moved into my house, was when he first started coming around looking like a total bum. I had just gotten my hair cut REAL short. Do you know he had the nerve to tell me that my hair looked TERRIBLE?? I told him I was leaving to go out for the night and he said good, you could use a drink.

[Pyro]

Aside from everything else, if he is a crackhead, do not let him in the house. Unfortunately, I knew a couple of them back in the day and all I heard about was how they would sell their own possessions and even steal stuff from their friends and sell it for money. I really don't think that he can be trusted in your house.

[BenThereDunThat]

Definitely not letting him in the house. The last time he came over I wouldn't even open the door all the way.

 

I don't have much but I'm sure he'd take everything I do own and sell it off. When my mom died, my dad gave him some of his father's things that she had inherited. Those are long gone.

 

My dad is too nice for his own good. He's the reason my uncle even knows where I live. He had gone by my dad's work, for money of course, and in conversation my dad said oh, BTDT just bought her own house, right over by where you used to live! I hadn't even seen the man in years.

 

Didn't take him a week before he started coming around. When my dad found out he felt bad for telling him. Too late now!!

[Pyro]

If you start to feel threatened, just tell him that you will call the cops if he keeps coming around.

[Lostgurl]

wow this guy sounds like a REAL piece of work. I agree, with Riddler. If he comes around again, call the cops. You can't HELP a crack head. He's the only one that can help himself...

If you let him into your home, he will betray you with out a second thought about it. Any kind of drug addict will do anything to get their fix.

[MOMMIE]

Girl, you have me laughing...isn't it just like family to come over for a hand-out and then tell you "your hair cut is ugly";) ...I feel for your Uncle because something is obviously not right with him....but there are some people that you just can't do for...the longer you give him money, the more he will ask for it...and I hate to think what could happen if you let him move in with you...that could be very dangerous...I hate to say it, but maybe if he did get himself arrested he could sober up, and maybe get the medical attention he needs...I feel for you, because I can tell that even though you don't care for him, you still don't wish the worse for him, and that's nice.....BUT...you have to look out for yourself too....who would help you if you needed if??....He wouldn't break into your house now that he knows where you live would he? Just be careful...