Raindrop100 Posted December 17, 2006 Share Posted December 17, 2006 Hi I am in my thirties, female and still single. I came from a broken family. My mother divorced my father when I was two years old. I have a younger sister, who was separated from me and lived with my grandmother. My father and mother have not been keeping in touch since divorce. So, I hardly know how my father looks like and in fact, I don't really care. There were many ups and downs in my life, over the past thirty over years. My mother married to my stepfather when I was around five. He has five children from his first marriage then. His children were resentful to him and have not been paying him any visit since he got married with my mother. My family was poor but we have been living in peace and undisturbed till I reached twenty something. My stepfather's children started to come visiting him each year. Both my mother and myself believe they come for a reason, each time they come they ask about my stepfather's superannuation fund and land and some of his children have been rude to my mom. My stepfather has used up his superannuation fund on my tertiary education. Not much, around USD5,000. He was not the money-minded type but things have changed in recent years. He felt shameful if he ended up leaving nothing to his children when he passes away. My mom has another piece of land, which she bought using her own hard earned saving when she was young. Recently, my mom sold the land and received quite some money. Combining this sum of money and my saving, we should be able to pay off the housing loan. As for my stepfather, he was rather displeased that my mother did not open joint account with him to put this amount of money and has showed temper to my mom a few times. Both my parents did not buy medical insurance when young. So, in one way or another, I face a certain degree of pressure when come and think of their old age. My stepfather has been subtlely giving me pressure to fully support the family as he intend to retire soon. But he refused to sell the piece of land, which is a 99 years leasehold land. The longer he drags, the lesser the value of the land. I genuinely feel stressful to have to fully support two old folks when both of them did not buy medical insurance when young. I really hope my stepfather would sell his land to support himself and I will chip in money whenever I can. My career has not been stable and I have been changing quite a number of jobs for the past few years. I think life will be tougher in future as we face stiff global competition where investors prefer to move their plants elsewhere or take in foreign workforce at much cheaper price. Being pessimistic or not, my last relationships were broken up mainly due to my family background as my ex-boyfriend couldn't accept my humble family background. Sometimes I am thinking may be I should repay my stepfather USD5,000 for the education fee and therefafter, I am not liable to any of his other future expenditure. He has five children and they should be able to share the burden and take care of him during his old age. What do you guys think of my situation? Any better idea? I feel I am stuck. Link to post Share on other sites
fairy_dust Posted December 20, 2006 Share Posted December 20, 2006 What about you? what your life? Look families tend to put the obligation pressure on all of us. So you have to get out of the mindset that they keep piling up on your shoulders and be serious with yourself. If you feel you have nothing to owe your step father then don't pay him back, if he is talking to you about supporting the family well that's all your gonna look forward to is there ****!!!! How about you? Is it all just for them? Your young and you need to live and lead your own life. It's just too bad that even our relatives can be our worst enemy:-( Link to post Share on other sites
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