he said he'd love to see me, then he never called

[anna72]

Seven weeks ago, I called my ex (whom I haven't spoken to in 6 months) to say hello. He answered the phone. Unfortunately, I was on a boat and shortly thereafter the cell signal faded. Our conversation ended.

 

I emailed him the next day, saying that I hoped he was well and that I'd love to see him. Then, I put the ball in his court and asked him to call me. One week later, he emailed back. He said he was glad to hear from me, that he'd love to see me, and that he thinks about me very often. Then, he never called.

 

So, what was that all about? Was he just being 'nice'??

 

(A little background--the reason we haven't spoken in 6 months is that he was a jerk one day. We'd broken up and been 'friends' for some time. He'd been a jerk before and I just got sick of his BS. So I walked away. He called me once and I'd never called him back.... Until 7 weeks ago.)

 

Any thoughts on why he'd bother writing back or answering my phone call if he just didn't want to know me anymore? Is he repulsed by me because I contacted him? Is he getting revenge?

 

It's just such a weird situation. Any input would be appreciated.

[Guest]

i would march over there and say WTF stop fooling around - let's get happy.

 

i called a number of times and she never replied - when silence is the response it means they can't even tell u to get lost - and that must mean they really cannot stand u. that was hard for me to take but i have accepted it. nothing anyone can do when that happens.

[anna72]

Wow, that must've really been difficult to take. It's everyone's biggest fear--to face never seeing someone you love again.

 

If he never calls again, I guess I should be grateful that he was kind enough to be 'nice.'

[Guest]

letting that fear rule your life is worse

 

i don't fear never seeing my ex again - i don't understand how that would be a fear

 

if someone does that it will be a negative for them in the futrure

 

hey, my ex could walk up to me and tell me 'just didn't dig ya man'

 

and that would be ok

 

she's done that for 8 months now - after everything i've gone thru i can handle anything now

[Guest]

You have given him the opportunity to get in touch. He knows that you have no ill feelings for him and would like to meet. If despite all of that he hasn't phoned I would not phone or contact him again UNLESS he contacts you 1st. You have done more than enough. Try to keep busy and maintain NC regardless of birthdays, Xmas etc. Maintain your dignity by using NC on him.

[anna72]

Thanks for the feedback--yeah, I don't plan on contacting him again.

 

People are strange, though. Huh.

[Grrlish]

Seven weeks ago, I called my ex (whom I haven't spoken to in 6 months) to say hello. He answered the phone. Unfortunately, I was on a boat and shortly thereafter the cell signal faded. Our conversation ended.

 

I emailed him the next day, saying that I hoped he was well and that I'd love to see him. Then, I put the ball in his court and asked him to call me. One week later, he emailed back. He said he was glad to hear from me, that he'd love to see me, and that he thinks about me very often. Then, he never called.

 

So, what was that all about? Was he just being 'nice'??

 

(A little background--the reason we haven't spoken in 6 months is that he was a jerk one day. We'd broken up and been 'friends' for some time. He'd been a jerk before and I just got sick of his BS. So I walked away. He called me once and I'd never called him back.... Until 7 weeks ago.)

 

Any thoughts on why he'd bother writing back or answering my phone call if he just didn't want to know me anymore? Is he repulsed by me because I contacted him? Is he getting revenge?

 

It's just such a weird situation. Any input would be appreciated.

 

Hmm, let's see: You dumped him and haven't contacted him in six months.

 

You call him from and email him, and tell him you would like to see him. He responds and says that he would like to see you, too.

 

It was then your turn to contact him and ask him out.

 

He cracked the door open when you knocked but you pursue.

 

You dumped him, you initiated contact, you initiated the idea of seeing each other...then you tossed the whole thing into his lap.

 

If I were him, after being willing to open myself up and saying that yes, I'd like to see you even though you dumped me six months ago and saying so makes me feel vulnerable, and then you didn't respond with enthusiasm, I'd be hurt and angry.

 

Sorry, girl, but I think you have the situation a little backward.

[JLO22]

Well I see Grrlis is coming from. Even though you ask him to call you in the email and he did not. You should of called to make the plans.

 

I would not contact him anymore! If he want to see, talk, go out.,..... anything he know how to reach you!

 

P.S. If it's meant to be it will be! Even if you guys don't speak five years from know!

[ThatAin'tRight]

Hmm, let's see: You dumped him and haven't contacted him in six months.

 

You call him from and email him, and tell him you would like to see him. He responds and says that he would like to see you, too.

 

It was then your turn to contact him and ask him out.

 

He cracked the door open when you knocked but you pursue.

 

You dumped him, you initiated contact, you initiated the idea of seeing each other...then you tossed the whole thing into his lap.

 

If I were him, after being willing to open myself up and saying that yes, I'd like to see you even though you dumped me six months ago and saying so makes me feel vulnerable, and then you didn't respond with enthusiasm, I'd be hurt and angry.

 

Sorry, girl, but I think you have the situation a little backward.

 

 

exactly correct