How would a woman react to this

[Guest]

lets say u are totally in love with each other and want nothing more than totally happiness in every way with each other, and the man in the relationship, has a hard time, not admitting to himself, but telling the woman, that there are times where he would love to be 'spoiled' but he never says so and never does so because he puts her first [which puts him first] during intimate moments. and say, there is something that he really likes, and the way he decides to finally tell her is by a video he stumbled across [actually searched for - lol] in order to explain - and it kills him but he gets courageous one night and shows her - and within 5 seconds he stops it because of the silence - as the woman in this situation during those painstaking 30 seconds of pure agony for the man how would u react? [oral sex video]

 

1. feel like u are not meeting his needs and feel bad

2. make a comment like 'gee honesy, he's much larger than u'

3. remain silent with no emotion

4. watch the video with him while doing the nasty

5. start thinking your man is gross and start having an affair

6. call up an old girlfriend and tell her what just happened

7. turn off the video and gently tell him 'ahhh, i didn't know u liked that? me too! and spoil him until he never feels goofy again

 

ladies only please

[My Fair Katie]

As a "lady" (it's open to debate, but I am a female) I'd turn to the man and say, "You did not really need an instructional video to ask for a blow job did you?"

 

Then I'd say, "Is communication always gonna be such a big problem for us?"

 

And as a disclaimer, I've got no issues with porn or watching with my husband.

[Guest]

As a "lady" (it's open to debate, but I am a female) I'd turn to the man and say, "You did not really need an instructional video to ask for a blow job did you?"

 

Then I'd say, "Is communication always gonna be such a big problem for us?"

 

And as a disclaimer, I've got no issues with porn or watching with my husband.

 

gee, that would really make him feel like a turd! see, he's already not comfortable with telling u about something that places him first, and its sort of like the child in the classroom being made to feel even worse by the teacher

[Trialbyfire]

MFL has my attitude.

 

Might be worthwhile to say something like this next time "Do you know what I'd really like us to try?" or the next time you're providing her with some... turn around so that you're in a 69 position. If she's unwilling, she'll move or not reciprocate. If she does reciprocate, it should be easier next time to initiate.

[My Fair Katie]

gee, that would really make him feel like a turd! see, he's already not comfortable with telling u about something that places him first, and its sort of like the child in the classroom being made to feel even worse by the teacher

 

Oh well, then it sucks to be him, I guess. I don't have paitence for people that think showing me an "instructional" video is the way to ask for sexual favors.

 

Talk about treating someone like a child. "Now see Katie, see how when they 69 she slaps his c*ck against her face and enjoys it, that's what you need to learn to do." What's next? A John Madden yellow pen over the screen? No, you want me to slap a c*ck across my face you ask me in the heat of the moment when I'm less likely to say no and don't p*ssy-foot around.

 

Too many fish in the sea to be with one that is so sexually stunted he can't ask me to perform a task without scheming. Women want a man, not someone so wishy-washy.

 

Sorry I'm harsh, that's me. My husband has no qualms with it, he knows how to get what he wants.

[guin_girl]

Personally I think this would be a warning sign for the relationship with his lack of being able to openly communicate with his SO.

[WoWaddict]

lets say u are totally in love with each other and want nothing more than totally happiness in every way with each other, and the man in the relationship, has a hard time, not admitting to himself, but telling the woman, that there are times where he would love to be 'spoiled' but he never says so and never does so because he puts her first [which puts him first] during intimate moments. and say, there is something that he really likes, and the way he decides to finally tell her is by a video he stumbled across [actually searched for - lol] in order to explain - and it kills him but he gets courageous one night and shows her - and within 5 seconds he stops it because of the silence - as the woman in this situation during those painstaking 30 seconds of pure agony for the man how would u react? [oral sex video]

 

 

First of all, I would make sure he knew that I appreciated him going out of his way to find a way to bring this up without offending me (even if i was a little offended, which I don't think I would be, because I've been in a similar situation). I would let him know that it's ok to talk about things like that, because communication is important. The 30 seconds of silence would be me trying to figure out why he's showing me the video instead of asking lol.

 

I would feel a little bit bad that he didnt feel like he could talk to me about it, and that his needs weren't being met. But if he didn't communicate with me, there's no way I could know that. It's not a warning sign, as some previous posters have suggested, because there are plenty of genuinely shy people out there. I for one, am one of them. It's not that I don't love my bf to death, I just sometimes feel silly and embarassed talking about sex. He's been a real sweetheart about it, and helped me become more comfortable with it.

 

I would make sure to give him more attention in the future, because now that it's been brought up, I can be more aware of it.

 

Above all, I would do my best to make sure he didn't feel stupid or embarassed for having a hard time expressing his feelings and needs. That would just make it harder for him next time something comes up, and you want to build strong communication in a relationship, not deter it.

 

 

My bf wants me to do a strip tease for him. I can't dance and I would really feel silly, and I've told him that I would give it a shot if I had some practice beforehand. I was thinking about getting that Carmen Electra strip tease exercise video, and coincidentally he saw it in the Wal Mart dvd section (go figure-they wouldnt sell brokeback, but they sell that), and yes, it was in with the regular exercise videos. He suggested it as a way to help me be more comfortable.

Lol. I wasn't at all offended, and he was really shocked when i said 'ohmygod! I've been wanting to buy that!!'

[RecordProducer]

So you want oral sex, but she doesn't? Sorry, I can't identify with that.

 

But I'll tell you what I'd do if I were in your shoes: I'd tell her to close her eyes and open her mouth... then stick my penis inside her mouth... grab her hair... and pull it back and front, back and front... tell her to shut up and stop crying... until I'd cumm hard.

[norajane]

8 - none of the above. I'd have no idea why he's showing me the video.

 

Forget the video. Just ask her what she thinks of trying oral sex, both giving and receiving.

[shoesies05]

uh,

i dont think you should show a porno in the future to show her what u want when its that simple a thing. You want something?- u need to be able to talk to her about it.

as the woman in the situation- i dont really relate, but i probably would eel uncomforatable. And if she was silent, maybe its because she wasnt sure how she felt about it. In the future dont stop after 5 seconds...