xxbaddgurl83xx Posted December 20, 2006 Share Posted December 20, 2006 I have found out recently courtesy of myspace.com, that my 17 year old brother has been getting high with his girlfriend. Before my brother started dating this girl a year ago he was completely straight edge. He was totally against drinking and any drugs. My assumption is that his girlfriend smokes weed so he picked it up from her. I know he's young and is probably just experiencing things, I did it myself when I was his age but this just comes by as a huge shock to me because he was always so against stuff like that. I don't want to come across as a snitch but I'm wondering if I should mention something to my mom about it? Any suggestions?! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted December 20, 2006 Share Posted December 20, 2006 I would talk to him about it directly. He is your brother, after all, and if you're worried you should bring it up with him. Now if that conversation doesn't go well, I might consider telling mom...but to be honest that will probably start a sh*tstorm and your brother might resent the interference. Link to post Share on other sites
crzyblndstar Posted December 20, 2006 Share Posted December 20, 2006 I think you should talk to him about it first and see what he has to say about it. I don't condone doing drugs but I also know that most kids try it at one time or another. If he won't talk to you about it then you might want to lead your mom to his myspace page that way you are not coming out and directly telling her. I know it is practically the same thing but then you may not be labeled the snitch. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 When you smoked weed, did he tell your mom about it? Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 I would talk to him about it directly. He is your brother, after all, and if you're worried you should bring it up with him. Now if that conversation doesn't go well, I might consider telling mom...but to be honest that will probably start a sh*tstorm and your brother might resent the interference. Great advice from BO there. When you smoked weed, did he tell your mom about it? Also a very good point. Put yourself in his shoes, how would you have liked it if he'd snitched on you?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author xxbaddgurl83xx Posted December 21, 2006 Author Share Posted December 21, 2006 He didn't have to, my mother is like a human drug detector! She can tell if anyone is drunk or on drugs which surprises me if she doesn't know about my brother. Even though I only did it probably a hand full of times she would still notice! I don't think I'm going to say anything to her about it but I will bring up the topic to him. He is in the process of looking for a job and I will just explain to him that if he smokes weed it will make it really hard for him to find a job. I'm sure this is probably just a phase that he is going though. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 He is in the process of looking for a job and I will just explain to him that if he smokes weed it will make it really hard for him to find a job. this is prolly the best way to get a conversation going. As much as you may be against his behavior, the decision to do drugs, drink, screw around, etc., is ultimately up to him. However, being a voice of wisdom can weigh heavily in the decision to keep his act clean IF you can get the message across without sounding judgmental or interfering ... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 Your goal is to help him, to make him realize where this is heading possibly, and preferably quit smoking pot, right? Do what you think is best to achieve this goal, not what you think is fair or right or convenient for him or you. Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 Never smoked marijuana myself...but from what I hear from others it really isn't a big deal nor has negative effects...unless taken in excess Link to post Share on other sites
Grrlish Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 Never smoked marijuana myself...but from what I hear from others it really isn't a big deal nor has negative effects...unless taken in excess I used to smoke A LOT of pot when I was a kid. There are plenty of negative effects of pot for some (and I would say most) people, although the type and severity differ. Some people aren't really negatively affected at all but I don't think that these folks are in the majority. I know that a lot of people won't agree with this but...having done numerous types and large quantities of drugs in my early adult life...I will say that smoking pot often does lead to trying other drugs. A lot of people see pot as you do...as no big deal and relatively harmless...so this is often the first thing they try. It's a slippery slope. I know, I slide waaay down that slope...and saw a lot of others slide all the way to the bottom. Baddgurl, talk to him yourself. Yes, if he's applying for jobs, these days many companies ask for a drug test before hiring or will ask you to sign a paper allowing them to randomly test you. How awful to not get a job you want because you wanted to get stoned. How stupid to not get a job you want because you wanted to get stoned. How embarrassing, as well. Hate to say it but I'd probably go so far as to tell him that if you find out he's still smoking pot, you WILL tell your mom - because you love him and care about him. You're more worried about him thinking you're a snitch than doing what's in his best interest? Even if you wind up telling your mom and he gets in trouble, but he quits smoking...he'll forgive you later when he's not a pothead. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 You should tell him you saw it there.. and lecture him about making that kind of info public. http://jobsearch.about.com/b/a/217342.htm I don't think I would tattle unless he was getting into harder drugs, or getting into some kind of trouble. Maybe you mom already knows. Link to post Share on other sites
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