Guest Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 It's said men's libido peaks at the age of 18. But it seems to me so many men in their 30's, 40's still having great libido. A serious question: what about a man who has not had enough sexual satisfaction during his youth, perhaps he didn't meet the right woman, his wife not attractive to him, or whatever. What if he meets a woman he's very attracted to when he's in his 50's? Will all his subdued libido from early years come off so that he'll have unusually stronger libido than other men of his age? Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 That was certainly my experience at 50 and I'm still doing alright at 60 with the same woman I married at 50. However, I think it's a very individual issue so no one person's experience will be quite like someone else's. Link to post Share on other sites
garvis Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 Interesting question. I did not have sex until I was 21. In fact (as hard as it is to believe) I had never even masturbated before that time. I'm in my mid 30s now and my libido is still strong. Certainly much stronger than it was before the age of 21. I cannot imagine that it will decline at any time in the near future. Link to post Share on other sites
loggrad98 Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 36 and libido going STRONG! Luckily my wife's is as well and it all works out (for the most part). I also did not have sex until I was almost 22. My wife had 1 other partner before me and I think that lack of experience between the 2 of us helped play into a now 15 year honeymoon. I have had issues with my libido due to medication (chemotherapy has a way of killing it for a while...same with some antidepressants and blood pressure medicine) but even then the desire was there, just not the ability. If I anticipated my libido dropping off before I was well toward my 70's or beyond I think I would prefer to check out early. Thank God for viagra, huh? Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 If I anticipated my libido dropping off before I was well toward my 70's or beyond I think I would prefer to check out early. Thank God for viagra, huh?yeah, i know man, i know Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 Well, my own experience is that there is some drop-off after age 50. Less morning wood, takes longer to get ready for Round 2, etc. However, this is more than offset by the fact that, since it takes longer for me to get there (no 3 minute trip like when I was 18), I have a better chance of taking my partner with me. It's the 2 E's - experience and endurance... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
StayClose Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 I think it has more to do with the stage of a relationship one is in. Most men in their 40s and 50s have been with the same woman for 10-20 years, and sex drive usually slows down for both partners after that amount of time. But it seems that both men & women in that age range who are single or having affairs find that their libido comes back in force when there's a new partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang Sally Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 I find this thread quite interesting. Sort of like, "Is there a libido savings account plan?" So that if you miss out on it when you're younger, will you be able to make withdrawals from the account if you find a partner who turns you on later. I'm not a male, and not in my fifties, so certainly can't give any response based on personal experience, but I would think if, as a 50-something male, you have found a woman who you recognize is turning you on, that you must have some libido left in ya, no? The very idea that you seem to be turning on to someone tells you that you are still in the game, right? Or are you worried that you are turned on, but might not have the same magnitude of response, shall we say, as you would have had earlier in life? How old is the lady in question? Same age, older, or younger? Just asking because that would probably affect what she would be expecting, libidinously speaking.... Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang Sally Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 I just realized that my post above assumes the OP is male. That may not be the case, but nevertheless, I was trying to look at this from the male perspective.... Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 Who in God's name wants to have sex after fifty? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 Who in God's name wants to have sex after fifty? Uhm...well, my husband for one. Wants it everyday too! Link to post Share on other sites
garvis Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 My grandfather is in his mid 80s. My grandmother tells me that she has to fight him off because he always wants sex. I'm serious. Link to post Share on other sites
IWalkAlone Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 Who in God's name wants to have sex after fifty? Someone who's over 50 Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 My observation seems to indicate that some men, who never had enough satisfactory sex life but nonetheless remained faithful to their wives, by the age of 50's may have already given it up, just enjoying the other parts of life and not wanting to even think about sex, then one day they met someone whose unusual attractiveness awakens their desires, totally uncalled for and unexpected. They then realize their life can be much happier Is this the case sometimes? Link to post Share on other sites
Grrlish Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 My boyfriend is 45. His sex drive is the same as the 24 and 32 year olds that I dated in the last couple of years. And he's better at it. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 My H is 30 and according to him, hasn't gone down. If it has then WOW because he could do it 5-6 days a week and no problem. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 Hugh Hefner filed for divorce after Viagra became available. Now look at him, with those three hotties on that television show. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 That's a bit simplistic. Some of us lose the desire of who we're with after many years, likely because of the added pressures of maintaining a home, raising children, paying bills, etc. All those can cause romance to go right out the window. Sometimes a wife will concentrate primarily or almost exclusively on the children and the husband becomes almost an afterthought which can decidedly have a desultory affect on the libido. In either or both of those cases the man and the woman can both remain faithful but sex becomes periodic, routine and less than stimulating and dwindles. There are probably as many reasons as there are married men whose sex lives have ebbed. In my case, the ex and I divorced when I was 48, I lived like a monk for two years and just happened to be 50 when my wife and I got together. I can honestly say that the past 10 years have been the happiest of my adulthood. Of course, we're also empty nesters and that could certainly be a factor. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted December 23, 2006 Share Posted December 23, 2006 "Low libido" is a polite way of saying that your current woman just doesn't really do it for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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