sadie b Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 I am 25 he has just turned 47. Big concern of his. Link to post Share on other sites
ratingsguy Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 did you know your age gap is not that uncommon? Maybe in these forums, yes, but in general, I don't know if I'm convinced of that. In my line of work, I meet a lot of people and it's very seldom that the wife is older than the husband... let alone 15 years! Although, I'm sure it's more common than in days past. Link to post Share on other sites
blueyes77 Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 Im 29 and MM is 42 Link to post Share on other sites
what2donow Posted December 21, 2006 Share Posted December 21, 2006 I'm 40 and xMM's 45. Link to post Share on other sites
Marielle Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 MM is 31, I am 35...w is 26 or 27 (?) Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 I am older than dirt; the soooo very very EX MM is older than dirt. It seems as if "age" has little bearing on one's actions, though it certainly should.... Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted December 22, 2006 Share Posted December 22, 2006 I'm 44, he's 45, and his W is around 38 ish maybe a little older, I'm not sure. Link to post Share on other sites
redlynne Posted December 23, 2006 Share Posted December 23, 2006 i was 24 when started ,he was 25. i am now 30 hes 31 now. wife is 35 4 years older then him . Btw its been over since march after 5 years &his new Ow is 23 (or so he said last we spoke). Link to post Share on other sites
YoMomma Posted December 23, 2006 Share Posted December 23, 2006 Me 46 exMM 48 W and I are the same age, perhaps it WAS middle age crisis for him. Strange how he didn't need his little blue pills with me but he needed them with his W ! With me he could go all night, some times up to four times in an evening... the one and only thing I miss about him! Link to post Share on other sites
scaredinlove Posted December 23, 2006 Share Posted December 23, 2006 Wow, I thought I had everyone beat... I'm 31 and my MW is 46... I guess we tie when she turns 47 in a few months And here's to you, Mrs. Robinson... I beat you 32 myself -62 MM , Father complex? maybe? I am 37 now and he is 66yr Link to post Share on other sites
MustBeLove Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 My MM is 17 Years older. Link to post Share on other sites
lovelorcet Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 This thread is really driving home to me how many years people waste being the "other" person. It is really so sad, I can't imagine living so many years of my life like this... Link to post Share on other sites
freakygal78 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 I was 28, he was 40. I asked him how old he was then curiosity got the better of him and he asked me (all via email of course). Seems a common age gap - do most of them scream 'mid-life crisis'? Link to post Share on other sites
bellababygirl Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 He is turning 64 and I am 32...yes I know big age difference...but he is the most magnificent lover and has the hottest body...UNH! I just cant seem to get enough...but it might be the pregnancy hormones making me crave him nonstop...sorry...its late...insomnia kicked in and I am babbling... Link to post Share on other sites
bellababygirl Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 I beat you 32 myself -62 MM , Father complex? maybe? I am 37 now and he is 66yr At least your not pregnant...my MM is turning 64 and I am 32...but I cant believe how magnificent of a lover he is...well, and everything else too...but seriously I think sometimes he thinks I just want his body for sex...Smile! But, again...it could be my pregnancy driving my hormones into overdrive...nahh...I wanted him like this before too! Link to post Share on other sites
freakygal78 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Sorry if this comes across as vulgar - but do thoughts of your father being a similar age ever come into play? I just don't know how I'd go (and my father is 71) being with a lover that age and trying hard not to think of my father at the same time. Guess you don't know till you try really huh? No offense intended here whatsoever but my curiosity just got the better of me... Link to post Share on other sites
lovelorcet Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 At least your not pregnant...my MM is turning 64 and I am 32...but I cant believe how magnificent of a lover he is...well, and everything else too...but seriously I think sometimes he thinks I just want his body for sex...Smile! But, again...it could be my pregnancy driving my hormones into overdrive...nahh...I wanted him like this before too! How wonderful for you Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Sorry if this comes across as vulgar - but do thoughts of your father being a similar age ever come into play? I just don't know how I'd go (and my father is 71) being with a lover that age and trying hard not to think of my father at the same time. Guess you don't know till you try really huh? No offense intended here whatsoever but my curiosity just got the better of me... I know what you mean FreakyGal. When I was 20 I was seeing an MM of 49 (3 years older than my Dad!) Actually, he wasn't married when we started seeing each other, he got married on his 50th birthday just over a year later. Nice, huh? I always had an older man thing when I was in my 20s and at 23 started seeing a guy of 46 who I dated for three years. Now I am 35 and really don't know how I did it, but then I guess a man in his 60s has less of an appeal. My MM (the recent one, the one I 'loved', etc) was 38 (nearly 39) when we started our R and I was 34. I think his W was a couple of years younger than him. I'm not sure about AGE being an issue in regards to the whole cheating game although I do think the mid-life crisis thing exists to a certain extent. I think it actually has more to do with the longevity of the marriage, whether their are kids, ie certain changes seem to make people react in different ways. I know the main factor in the break-up with my ex-partner was having our son (BIG changes, shift in balance of our R, etc), although who's not to say that wouldn't have happened regardless as we'd got to that '7 year itch' stage! I don't know that my exMM was having a mid-life crisis. Boredom was a lot to do with it I think. The marriage had gone stale - his fault as much as hers - and of course there was the general lack of communication that one would need to rectify that. It wasn't like he started going ou, buying trendy new clothes, going clubbing, etc. He just met me and thought he had missed out on 'the one'. He didn't go out with the intention of 'pulling' although I guess if he doesn't try and sort out his failing marriage he might start doing so. Either that or maybe his W will! Jeez, I'm seriously rambling now! SORRY!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 I totally digressed there! Getting back to the older man/father figure thing, I think that in my early 20s I wanted to be 'looked after' although I'd never lacked a father figure. I was always a Daddy's girl so maybe that was it. However, now I look back and, yeah, I do think "Ugh, that could be my dad doing that with some girl half his age" and I have to say the thought makes me quite sick. Not bashing those who DO the older man thing. As I say, I've been there - and totally understand the appeal! I personally couldn't do the toy boy thing but only coz I wouldn't wanna get my kit off and expose my 35 year old post-baby bod in front of a seriously fit young man! Insecure I guess. Now maybe THAT'S why I went for the older man........... Link to post Share on other sites
bellababygirl Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Sorry if this comes across as vulgar - but do thoughts of your father being a similar age ever come into play? I just don't know how I'd go (and my father is 71) being with a lover that age and trying hard not to think of my father at the same time. Guess you don't know till you try really huh? No offense intended here whatsoever but my curiosity just got the better of me... Only met my father once...he is only in his early fifties. My MM told me he was 41 when we met...it wasn't until the birth control failed pregnancy that I found out he was almost 64! He looked younger than forty! Seriously, a good looking man with charm, charisma, and all the extras...I am completely happy when we are together. His age doesn't even come to mind when we are together. People say I look young for my age...always saying I look like I am in my mid-twenties...but no one looks at us oddly when we are out together. So, I do not suppose I have experienced a situation where I have been made to feel different from other couples. Well, except or when my OBGYN told me there are more precautions that need to be watched with our baby since his age... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 My MM told me he was 41 when we met...it wasn't until the birth control failed pregnancy that I found out he was almost 64! SO he went online to dating sites, lied saying he was 41, single and had no kids.........You find out he's 64, married, famous AND has children... I know, I know, you're happy, but I guess I don't understand how you could actually trust him so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 32, me 30. His wife 37. Coming up to 1 year now... Just on the note of the older man thing, there's a study that has been done (i think here in the UK) that says something about it women having a genetic disposition to be attracted to men around their fathers age (i.e. if you had a young father when you were 12-16 you would like young men). I'll try and find a link for it. Saying that, my dad had me when he was 56 (I know, good going eh?) so he would have been 69-72 when I was 12 -16 and I've never really got the attraction in an older man, especially not a 72 year old. Link to post Share on other sites
bellababygirl Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 SO he went online to dating sites, lied saying he was 41, single and had no kids.........You find out he's 64, married, famous AND has children... I know, I know, you're happy, but I guess I don't understand how you could actually trust him so much. I think with his celebrity status and political importance that he probably would find it hard to find someone who enjoyed him for him and not his celebrity or the size of his wallet. It was funny, he use to ask me if I was ashamed to be seen with him because I always ordered room service and never insisted he take me out. It was funny to me because I just preferred to stay naked. I could eat out anytime...but our time together was not as frequent as we would have liked so I prefrerred to make the most of it. He once told me I was "low maintence" I didnt know at that time (or even now) if I should have been insulted by that comment. I told him that. He just said that he meant I take great pleasure in the simplest of things. I never placed much emphasis on material accomplishemts or ones educational level...I beleive everyone in the world has something to offer...I really try to be open and look for the best in people. Yes, it may get me taken advantage of...but I can still get up and look myself in the mirror knowing I did not let a bad experience with a person who doesnt have a good heart change mine. My guy lied...yes, lied a lot, but he is making better choices now. We havent got to discuss certain subjects in depth yet, but it has been noted that we will talk everything through. He actually seems excited that we are having a son. At some point you have to give someone enough rope to make a change. Whether they hang themself with it or not only their decisions/actions will tell. I will say, he is very tender and I could see myself staying with him as long as time on the earth permits. As far as his marriage...I dont know...I never ask him about it. I dont prode for information, good or bad, I just figure if you have been with someone for 3 decades and had children then there will always be some type of love and concern there. Well, at least I hope that is true. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 but he is making better choices now The only real and honest choice he has is to come clean with his wife about you and the baby. You really have NO idea what his wife feels for him. What a painful situation for her though when she finds out her husband, a respectful and upstanding man, good heart for the community turns out to be a liar and a cheater. Her pain and his other kids pain will be first once it comes out. Please keep your eyes open........ Link to post Share on other sites
bellababygirl Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 The only real and honest choice he has is to come clean with his wife about you and the baby. You really have NO idea what his wife feels for him. What a painful situation for her though when she finds out her husband, a respectful and upstanding man, good heart for the community turns out to be a liar and a cheater. Her pain and his other kids pain will be first once it comes out. Please keep your eyes open........ I dont want anyone to hurt...if he tells his wife I would still want it to be discreetly as to damage control any public stress on her and others that would be effected. It is a difficult situation...but yes, one that has to be dealt with...and done so with consideration for all effected... Link to post Share on other sites
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