MM age just curious?

[freakygal78]

I'm sorry here but I can't believe someone has been c@#$-whipped by someone with political status. Jesus! Being pregnant in less than ideal circumstances is hard enough as it is let alone in a situation where he is married to someone else. Can you imagine her pain at finding out? Even if they are not in love anymore....it's a really messed up situation. And you all you can do is publicly announce what a great lay he is and how smug you are at carrying his child??? How does your kid explain to his schoolmates who daddy is? Are you thinking of anyone but yourself here??? I lost a child I wanted very much years ago while I was living with his father but wasn't married to him - the baby was unexpected but I grew to love him and want him - learning that all was not well and losing him was tough going. I have since avoided the possibility of impregnating myself since as it is a selfish cause if not carefully considered. I have all but sterilized myself utilising long-term contraception. You are going ahead with a pregnancy where there are so many confounding factors how can you be so happy? Do you think a man in the public eye will leave his dear wife because you have reproduced with him? I feel for your poor child and how cruel life may be to him / her because you acted impulsively and irresponsibly. I am just disappointed that your judgment seems clouded because you are so sexually infatuated with this male who seems less of substance and integrity and more of just an older man wanting a bit of ego-boosting from a younger female - why the hell would you advertise yourself on a dating site no less as younger than you are if you had a grain of integrity or genuine regard for a fellow human. Sounds pretty shallow to me.

[sadbuttrue]

i am 29, MM is 31. his W is also 29. i dont think he cheated because of a mid-life crisis, but he had been going through a rough time personally when we met and became friends. i do think that may have had a lot to do with his weakness at the time when we became more than friends.

[bellababygirl]

I'm sorry here but I can't believe someone has been c@#$-whipped by someone with political status. Jesus! Being pregnant in less than ideal circumstances is hard enough as it is let alone in a situation where he is married to someone else. Can you imagine her pain at finding out? Even if they are not in love anymore....it's a really messed up situation. And you all you can do is publicly announce what a great lay he is and how smug you are at carrying his child??? How does your kid explain to his schoolmates who daddy is? Are you thinking of anyone but yourself here??? I lost a child I wanted very much years ago while I was living with his father but wasn't married to him - the baby was unexpected but I grew to love him and want him - learning that all was not well and losing him was tough going. I have since avoided the possibility of impregnating myself since as it is a selfish cause if not carefully considered. I have all but sterilized myself utilising long-term contraception. You are going ahead with a pregnancy where there are so many confounding factors how can you be so happy? Do you think a man in the public eye will leave his dear wife because you have reproduced with him? I feel for your poor child and how cruel life may be to him / her because you acted impulsively and irresponsibly. I am just disappointed that your judgment seems clouded because you are so sexually infatuated with this male who seems less of substance and integrity and more of just an older man wanting a bit of ego-boosting from a younger female - why the hell would you advertise yourself on a dating site no less as younger than you are if you had a grain of integrity or genuine regard for a fellow human. Sounds pretty shallow to me.

 

Physical attraction is because so many have made comments on how they could never see themselves being with someone twice their age. Age has nothing to do with their ability.

 

I am sorry for your loss. A lot of what you have said above has been addressed in two other threads (Hidden Identity - Hurtful Actions) and (Pregnant by MM twice my age) - If you want the response to your questions above please go to those threads. I think you might find some really nice members who can offer you advice on your hurt from your loss as well.

 

 

Just FYI - I was on birth control when I became pregnant. We had discussed having children in a couple of years...but we wanted to have more time together for us before we had a child. So, it was not an irresponsible act that got us pregnant. Nothing is 100%

[lovelorcet]

So, it was not an irresponsible act that got us pregnant. Nothing is 100%

 

 

So this was a responsible act?

[whichwayisup]

We had discussed having children in a couple of years...but we wanted to have more time together for us before we had a child. So, it was not an irresponsible act that got us pregnant. Nothing is 100%

 

But don't you see how inappropriate it is for both of you to be planning to have children when he has a wife already??? He has led you on, but you've been there along side of him too, knowing that he has a wife, and children.

[freakygal78]

And leprechauns will dance around while pigs fly backwards - Christ almighty! I try every so often with men - mostly SGs nowadays but I never take for granted anything will last forever and ever amen anymore - least of all with kids when the foundation was less than ideal to start with - don't mean to sound bitter and 4 years later, the pain of losing my son has lessened but I guess I have resigned myself to be one of these independent single women who might have a guy around for companionship occasionally but as for hooking up with someone f/t - screw that for a fantasy - it's sh*te - was in the past, will continue to be because I can't trust men as far as I can throw them anymore (not because of MM but a bad marriage) - pretty ironic I fell for a MM then recently huh? Oldest guy I have been with (SG) was 15 years older but he was relatively young looking also (if you igored the vain selection of male skin care products in his bathroom!) lol.

 

As for contraception. I know I'd all but barricade myself with barbed wire contraceptive-wise with a single guy in a r'ship - would you not if not MORE do the same with a MM...there are other prophylactics available also - had to see a good friend go through an abortion because she 'accidentally on purpose' got pg on the pill to a guy she loved who was a devout Catholic no less.

 

It's happened now so I hope you find a suitable solution to your situation but as for pipe dreams and empty promises, I hope you don't end up being hurt.