cantgetright Posted July 21, 2002 Share Posted July 21, 2002 I was just looking over this site and it seems like a great site for advice so hopefully someone can help me out here. Heres the situation..... I've been dating this girl for over a year now and within the last 4 months we've been "broken up" but still hanging out together. We broke up because she said i wouldnt give her space and that she needed to be single and independent. We still continued to hang out and she tells me she loves me but she just doesnt want a committed relationship with me. THis caused problems because we had no real boundries in our "relationship" and it seemed like she was using me as a convience. I coudnt take the "i love u", then the next day "why are you calling me were not together," anymore so i broke it off. She called two days later and we decided to be "friends" again and plan a weekend vacation to see what happens. The week before we go she has her friends over and passes out in her bed with this guy she said she thought she had feelings for. Then we go on our vacation and things are great, we have a blast, she talks about how we should just get married, and we get back and she gets mad for kissing her on the check when i said hi to her........ sorry for so long, its been an ongoing thing with many twists and turns. i really love her and want this to work out b/c the year we were together it was very good. should i shut her out completely or wait until shes ready? please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 21, 2002 Share Posted July 21, 2002 You should do both. Shut her out completely and then wait until shes ready. This lady is very confused about what she wants. If you back off and shut her out of your life for a while, that'll give her time to realize it's you that she wants. Don't expect anything too quick, though. She is a nut case right now and it may take quite a while for her to get her act together. Whatever you do, don't stick around and subject yourself to her indecisiveness. That would be just plain cruel to yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
velvet Posted July 22, 2002 Share Posted July 22, 2002 You shouldn't have gone on vacation with her. You shouldn't put yourself through this. Shes acting selfish and only wanting what she wants. Shes unsure about having a r/s with you yet she keeps you on the side until she needs you. Self love, there are so many selfish people these days. Don't tolerate her. Look out for your feelings and next time she wants to play games with you ask her she needs to make a choice. One way or the other and than live with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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