Boss Acting Weird

[SurferGirlTx]

I work in a one-girl office and after almost a year I cannot figure out my weird boss. Sometimes he's friendly, other times he won't say a word and when I try to carry on a conversation he acts like he doesn't hear me.

 

I'm 44 and I speak my mind and don't hesitate to ask questions or clarify tasks. My boss plays games with me - he makes his handwriting hard to read so when I type of letters I have a hell of a time. He seems intent on always trying to catch me making errors (he tries but I am pretty much on top of things and I end up saying "No, I have your email in which you told me to do that".

 

Why do some people get off to playing games? I'm a honesty and loyal worker - I am there to work and get a paycheck - period. I am professional and do a great job. But this man - I swear - he's insistent on always trying to catch me at fault or demean me in some way.

 

I've stood up to him several times and proven that I won't put up with his games but after a few days he pulls the silent treatment or second guesses everything I do.

 

You'd think people would want loyal employees - if I was a boss I would NEVER treat my assistant the way I've been treated. I brought him a Christmas present today (some crystal martini glasses). He sat the gift in his office and didn't open it - he said he would take it home and open it later. What is up with that? I find that RUDE.

 

Every nice gesture I make towards this man seems to be shot down. I'm no longer going to be nice anymore - maybe I'll get further being a total bitch and do only what's asked of me and no more?

 

I've never been late, never missed a day of work and I do a damn good job for this man and go out of my way to his customers (who like me alot). He doesn't seem to value me.

 

It's only after I quit will he then realize I was a good employee.

 

How can I not be bitter when I bust my ass to work hard and produce as an employee and I am treated like I just don't matter. He's not better than me or anyone else - why do some bosses act holier than thou?

[JLO22]

Did he hire you?

 

I have been in this situation before. My supervisor and I had run ins all the time. We meet on a regular basis to discuss our relationship. It got so bad we had got into a real heated agrument. She still was very ****tie to me, only because I stood up to her and did not let her treat me any old way!!!

 

It came to the point were I just came in spoke to my supervisor and did what was exaclty in my job title..... Nothing else nothing more! When I was ask to do extra projects I politely said "NO"!

 

 

When she caught on to what I was doing she tried to come around talk and be my "friend"....... Like the old saying go "treat others the way you want to be treated" So I treated her like she was treating me! By the time she came to her correct mind I had a new job offer.

 

 

SO TRY THAT AND SEE IF THAT WORKS.......UPDATE ME<>

If all else GET A NEW JOB!

[Kittiecat]

It's only after I quit will he then realize I was a good employee.

 

How can I not be bitter when I bust my ass to work hard and produce as an employee and I am treated like I just don't matter. He's not better than me or anyone else - why do some bosses act holier than thou?

 

My office is full of guys like that. Sounds like a case of Napoleon complex. He was probably picked on in his youth and a part of him is still trapped in that phase of life, always wanting to prove to the world how clever he is.

[elijahBailey]

I think that buying him that gift would only bloat his ego. He's an a$$, period. Don't put up with that kind of crap. If you find it difficult to leave, tell yourself that, from now on, don't put in another ounce of effort to be nice to him.

 

Just do what you're supposed to do and stop there. Don't ask him about anything outside of work. I'm seen people like that. You can reverse that, really... All you need to do is to reciprocate what he dishes out to you. He acts cold, cool, you act cold. He doesn't wanna talk, cool, you act like he doesn't even exist. He asks you a question, give him a short and curt answer. Same for email. He can't fault you, as long as you aren't rude to him. If you handle it well, you'll earn his respect.

 

There are too many people like him around. People like him love to patronize those that are submissive to them, but once you stand up to them, they back off. I've seen them, believe me. They're just cowards who just aren't confident enough of themselves and need to belittle others to feed their pathetic egos.

[SurferGirlTx]

What gets me is some days he's happy and friendly and treats me as an equal then other days he's derrogatory towards me. Hot/cold, hot/cold - I am usually a very friendly and outgoing person but I now go into work and barely speak - I feel like a robot.

 

He hired me - I'm his only employee. I'm the "hired" work - he and his wife think they are rich and above everyone else - this guy brags and has a huge ego......... I can't relate to him at all as I'm a single widowed mom.

 

I'm going to pay off all my bills and get a financial cushion and quit - problem is I think no matter where I go I'll end up working for another ********* - they seem to be everywhere.

[GreenRose]

I'm sorry that you're going through this.. I say, take your time, get your resume out there, and find the right place to work. Don't worry about anything else. You aren't worth that.You owe it to yourself and your kids to be at your best. Hang in there, and good luck!

[stillafool]

I've been there too. Just do your job and don't engage him in any personal conversation. You say some days he treats you as an "equal"...forget it, these guys never see you as equal to him. Did they buy you a Christmas gift?