the impossible question

[Guest]

Here is the impossible question - how can someone expect to win back someones heart and have them fall in love with you all over again if they won't talk to you or see you?

 

The answer is, of course, is that is impossible. You can't show them the changes you have made if they will not talk to you or see you. In my case, I have tried in ways unimaginable and put many things on hold to do so and she hasn't responded.

 

And I am not some rookie in life and love, I am a MAN of 45 years of age and I am well aware there is no way to open someone else heart to you - they do that. And I am NOT a great believer in this notion of if "meant to be" - that is foolish, and an excuse for not doing the work that it takes to be in a relationship.

 

The problem for me is this - she does feel the same way. Thru her silence and delays, she has shown that there is no need to act NOW because in the future, somehow she will magically come to the realization that I am the love of her life. I don't need that magic because I already know this and have tried reaching out. And the person that chooses to not do the same will simply continue to make mistakes because when u really think about it, if you know now, that in the future that might happen which is the wiser decision and choice to make?

 

I don't need to answer that do I?

[Guest]

Here is the impossible question - how can someone expect to win back someones heart and have them fall in love with you all over again if they won't talk to you or see you?

 

 

 

And I am not some rookie in life and love, I am a MAN of 45 years of age...

 

 

 

I don't know exactly what your situation is, but it sounds like you are trying to work at a relationship in which the other half is completely unresponsive and disinterested. My advice would be to move on.

 

 

 

I also want to point out that wisdom in love and life is often unrelated to age or gender. I don't know what your point is here. I'm in my 20s, and I'm female, but that doesn't mean I'm "some rookie" in love and life.

[Guest]

I don't know exactly what your situation is, but it sounds like you are trying to work at a relationship in which the other half is completely unresponsive and disinterested. My advice would be to move on.

 

 

 

I also want to point out that wisdom in love and life is often unrelated to age or gender. I don't know what your point is here. I'm in my 20s, and I'm female, but that doesn't mean I'm "some rookie" in love and life.

 

by a rookie i mean someone that continues to do something without knowing they are...like when your heart rules the mind - that is something one does when they have never had their heart broken - u only need that to happen once to be classified as a veteran - LOL

 

THERE IS ONE OTHER THING I WOULD LIKE TO ADD, let me tell the good folks in here, that we always here that to win a woman's heart a man must be x or do y, but in reality all these things really don't matter because u can be 6'2", or bold as a bullfighter, you can be mysteriously inventive and think about ways to attract a woman that no one else can, you can sacrifice everything and do so in a way that is a magificant gesture of courageous love, or you could be just an ordinary man that encompasses and shares every possible human emotion,

 

you could show her that u are someone with a deep understanding and appreciate of her world and do so with the slightest hint of being co-dependant, you can be a fantasy stud f-ck that she only wants for one night of passionate self-serving pleasure, you could be someone that can look into their eyes and see their entire life that she has lived and have her recognize that at the same time u are gazing soft and calming, you could be someone she has loved once and a man that took her to initmate places she has never been to before, you could be all of these things but in the end it still wouldn't matter - because its really about the secret that all women know and that is simply this -

 

they will always hold the power to decide YES or NO - not the man, just the woman and its been like this since the dawn of time. And women know this and use it but some treat that great power with respect and integrity because with great power comes great responsibility - and not everyone can handle both.

[Curmudgeon]

NOT a great believer in this notion of if "meant to be" - that is foolish, and an excuse for not doing the work that it takes to be in a relationship.

 

Actually, that's the best reason I can think of to do the hard work and see if it bears fruit.

 

Are you really asking something or just venting?