venting

[goodfriendeva]

im just so annoyed.. my MIL calls a day before to invite us to their home for xmas dinner.. what else is new she always invites the day before or on the day and expects us to jump. i cant stand it when you know they had made the plans weeks in advance the whole family knows expect for us. my husband seen his mom 2weeks ago and she never mentioned a thing.. they even called to let us know they bought a new car but what forgot something like that.i think why i get all bent out of shape is because christmas is supposed to be with your loved ones. all it is for my family is to get together eat like pigs then go back to not talking to eachother for months. its so fake. everyone is fake with eachother..

 

i get so pissed at christmas and thanksgiving time. when those family members come around and expect all this love to be there.

 

my MIL has only seen my son a handful of time since hes been born(hes 7months old) and she lives 3 main streets away from me! she has only came get him once and it was because her husband had all his grandkids over and she "missed" my son. i never denied her to see him if i get a phone call id bring him over there.. all i want to do is cry..

 

sorry if its all over the places.. just venting:(

[Love Hurts]

Sounds as though some one does not care much for you.

Do yourself a favor. Stop going. Stop going at these disrespectful (24 hr. notice) invites.

This Christmas don’t show up.

You have been shown how important you and your child are.

You’re really not desired. So do them one better.

Do not take your self where you are merely tolerated.

 

You are better than that and smarter.

We can’t win them all………. and sometimes

we need to just ……disconnect…its better.

These are not your people. They are his people.

You stay with your people and he can stay with his.

 

Can you take the baby to your families for Christmas and let him to his people on Christmas? If your family lives out of state then I would be happier home alone.

I would rather stay home and enjoy myself as appose to grinning and bearing it for an evening around a group of people that merely tolerating me for a few hours.

Honesty is the best policy, begin by being honest with yourself, do the right thing.

 

Stay Away....Keep Out...Do Not Trespass.

 

Families do not always jell but they are at least respectful towards one another.

You were living life and breathing just fine on your own before you knew these people even existed. You can make it in this life without them.

The good news is ... people mellow out with age... you can check them out in ten or twenty years.

 

 

 

Make a great impression this Christmas: miss your appointment!

and a Very

Merry Christmas to You

[bbelmont83]

Hey Eva, you bailed on me earlier. I wanted to talk to you more about this.

 

Anyway, LoveHurts doesnt really know you or M. I know he loves and cares about you a lot. He might feel angry about it because everytime his family is brought up you dont have anything good to say. Thats not exactly your fault but could explain why he gets mad. Did you explain to him that youre very uncomfortable there? Probably because you feel as if you havent really gotten any warm welcome. That idea you mentioned to me sounded like a good one. Where yours and his family all get together. That sounds like a fair compromise to me. And it could be a good thing. Both families getting together. Sounds good to me. Maybe malcom can bring it up with his mom that you guys try that next year.

[CarolAnne]

This may not apply to them but I am one of those ppl who does EVERYTHING at the last minute, sadly my plans are usually made at the last minute too and I'm guilty of sending out last minute invites for sure.

 

I hadn't realized how it might offend other ppl and certainly never thought they would take it to mean they are a low priority, its just that's how I am with everything and figure ppl who know me wouldn't expect anything different

 

Maybe they are like that too?