This is what I said in a Christmas card I sent to my exGF Should I expect a response

[Lowcountryman]

This is what I sent my ex-girlfriend in a Christmas card. I'm not sure if she has received it yet but should I expect any response to this?

 

*****

 

I just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I also wanted to apologize for the way I've handled things the past 4 months. I'm sorry for all the stupid text messages, the emails and the occasional call, I know I haven't handled things right. This past year has been full of wonderful highs and depressing lows for me, all at the same time. Whether intentional or not, you've taught me some very valuable lessons about life and relationships. These are lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. I never once thought that anyone would touch my heart and life and have the impact that you've had on me. I know that I'm a better man and person now for knowing you than I ever was before you. You are truly the most beautiful person inside and out that I have ever known. You deserve someone special and I know whoever you end up with will be a very lucky man. I hope all your dreams and wishes come true this New Years.

 

Love

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[notmakingsense]

Who broke up with who, and what happened? At the end of your note, you are more or less telling her that you think she'll end up with someone else.

[Lowcountryman]

She broke up w/me in August. I'd tried many unsuccessful attempts to reconcile and asked too many times for a second chance. It was kinda my way of saying' I'm leaving you alone now.'

[alphamale]

Whether intentional or not, you've taught me some very valuable lessons about life and relationships.

you should not have even sent this Xmas card & note in the first place.

[notmakingsense]

Agree with Alpha... and you probably won't get a response, especially if she hasn't been responsive for the last 4 months.

 

Don't take this the wrong way... I'm only about to say this so hopefully you can learn from this, but your note makes you look weak and confirms in your ex's mind that you haven't moved on yet.

 

Definitely follow through on leaving her alone. Ironically, depending on what happened, it is leaving her alone that has the most chance of getting any kind of response.

[freckles3131]

yep. makes it look like you haven't moved on at all....it will push her further away, I'm afraid. And....I would not expect a response, sorry to say.

[westernxer]

I hope all your dreams and wishes come true this New Years.

 

Love[/i]

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You forgot to close it with "P.S. I hope those dreams and wishes include me."

 

Anyway, breaking up is hard, but you really need to move on.

[hrtbroken99]

This is what I sent my ex-girlfriend in a Christmas card. I'm not sure if she has received it yet but should I expect any response to this?

 

*****

 

I just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I also wanted to apologize for the way I've handled things the past 4 months. I'm sorry for all the stupid text messages, the emails and the occasional call, I know I haven't handled things right. This past year has been full of wonderful highs and depressing lows for me, all at the same time. Whether intentional or not, you've taught me some very valuable lessons about life and relationships. These are lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. I never once thought that anyone would touch my heart and life and have the impact that you've had on me. I know that I'm a better man and person now for knowing you than I ever was before you. You are truly the most beautiful person inside and out that I have ever known. You deserve someone special and I know whoever you end up with will be a very lucky man. I hope all your dreams and wishes come true this New Years.

 

Love

******

 

reading that brought tears to my eyes

that was really sweet what you wrote

most people would say not to send it

I don't have a yes or no but if you send something and don't expect anything in return then maybe you can send

although no contact is the way to go-but sometimes that can be so hard

[Guest]

i wish u were my ex. we broke up in august too. i tried contact but get nothign the last 4 months and prolly never will. the last time i tried was to tell him i wanna be friends and I DO. all this drama isnt worth the friendship but i guess he doesnt want it. i dont know. im jus hurt so badly icant even imagine myself with another person.

[demilde]

You deserve someone special and I know whoever you end up with will be a very lucky man.

 

anyone watch Bruce Almighty? OK I know its only Hollywood, and that you may have to kneel in front of a truck but....

[luvtoto]

IMO, I took the *sugar-coated* letter as a means to suck up to her or manipulatively make her feel guilty for not being your girlfriend anymore.

 

Don't make your issues, her issues.

[SoundedPlum]

anyone watch Bruce Almighty? OK I know its only Hollywood, and that you may have to kneel in front of a truck but....

 

HAHA! I watched it yesterday and kept trying to relate it to my own situation and what I could do to get my ex back!

[Art_Critic]

The shame about it is that you didn't send a Christmas card in the traditional sense..

Those just say Merry Christmas and Happy New Year..

 

Your card was an emotional gasp trying to manipulate her into contacting you and you used the Christmas holiday to hide behind.

 

If you were going to send a card it should've just said Merry Christmas. Because it didn't she will see it for what it was and throw it out.

Don't sweat it though.. We have all done it, I have as well.. You gotta do what ya gotta do to get over her.

[luvtoto]

If you were going to send a card it should've just said Merry Christmas. Because it didn't she will see it for what it was and throw it out.

Yes, I agree with A_C. I would just see the letter as a suck up attempt with strings attached. I would be annoyed by it, If I received it. Driving me further away.

 

If you really wanted to just say Merry Christmas, then just say Merry Christmas.

[Rooster_DAR]

I managed successfully to stay away from any type of contact with my EX, I am being alone with myself on the holidays, to me it's a true test of my will to get to know myself and be comfortable with being alone.

 

Cheers!

[dr strangelove]

Ok

 

one time a while before the ex I have mentioned in my posts here.

 

I was interested in someone, it was kind of platonic bordering on romantic. And after one episode she stopped talking to me, once a week I called her brief message just hello and probably call me if you like and possibly I will try you back next week etc.

 

I think it took about 4 weeks, I called her one day on a weekend and no answer.. and I didnt leave a message. I was pretty distraught and I remember saying ok please if she will just talk to me again I wont screw this up. And within a few minutes she called back.. hurray.

 

In any case I guess I played it a bit too distant, alot of times she would call and want me to meet I wouldnt even pick up the phone.

Its kind of no wonder it never got any further.

 

Well one day she invited me to a music fest, and I think I said I couldnt make it. Then a few days later I did show up..late. She was talking to some other guys and not really making me feel welcome so I just got up and left.

 

Then she did not take any of my calls, for months on end. I kind of knew where she lived so I sent her some packages..saying I missed her friendship etc..

 

I sent one big package for xmas. I called a few times a month. Then I met someone and got busy with that. after 3 months we broke up and I called the girl just to say hi and within a few days she showed up at my place.

 

I talked with her on the phone she said something about just being friends, I asked her about the stuff she still had it. Then I asked her if she wanted to hang out, she said sure.

Then for some reason I lost all interest, I think it was when I saw her and I ha no butterflies in my tummy, I knew she was half interested despite what she said because she wanted to hang out...

 

In any case the moral of the story is sometimes you can get somewhere by pursuing other routes besides NC.

 

I think he should try something more romantic personally.

 

I have never went to the lengths I did with that girl with my ex..

 

I have to admit to considering it lately though as I recieved some information of late... but no comment on that.