Update

[francis]

I joined Loveshack a year and a half ago, with the same old story of a break-up, a very confusing situation where he still kept in contact with me over long distance, I got the impression he was hanging on, even after dumping me and finding another girl. He persistently emailed me, wanted to continue contact, supported me financially and sent me gifts...we live in different continents.

 

So here I am today, half venting and half wanting insight from you guys.

 

I eventually told him that I had met someone else. He tried to contact me through messenger, and told me that he felt weird that I was with someone else.

 

A few weeks later I told him that I wished we could spend Christmas together. He told me he wished the same, wished it could happen too, and that he had a funny feeling that eventually it would happen. He told me that it would happen, and that it was only a matter of time that we could be together.

 

At this point, I had assumed that he and his girl had broken up. I offered to go visit him during my vacation from work after Christmas.

 

He then tells me that he is still together with her. He told me that he cannot just flip from one to the other, and that he needs time to sort his situation out first. He apologised and repeatedly told me that he needs to sort stuff out first.

 

I know my failings, and deep down, know that my desperation is not attractive. I guess I'm just caught up on foolish hope, conflicting with this sense of being an utter fool!

[notmakingsense]

You are still long distance, right? He could just want you to be on the side or as a backup in case things don't work out with this other woman.

 

You deserve better than this. Don't compromise your own values for him