mygirlygirl Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Hello! What do you guys think - I met a guy in November, and have gone out about 6 times (he lives an hour away, we usually hang out on a weekend or a night during the week)...pretty much I have seen him once a week since we met. We talk on the phone probably 3 times a week; we are both taking it slow, but he does act like he likes me a lot. He asks me out on dates once a week; he calls or emails me every day, or at least every other day.. It is still brand new though. What is the "holiday" ettiquette . For example, he asked me a few weeks ago what i was doing on christmas and I told him that every year i spend it with my family at my parents; he said he always spends it at his mom's because he sees his nieces and nephews who live far away. I wasnt sure if he was trying to find out what i was doing to see if we could get together; but it was only our 2nd date when he asked; but today is christmas day, about 6 dates in and i am wondering what you guys think; i mean he hasnt asked to come by or anything, i know he is spending the weekend at his mothers house , about an hour away; I just thought maybe he'd call me to come by or something , but he hasnt. I got a text from him last night to say merry christmas. I Guess i thought a guy who really liked me would make plans with me at least for christmas night. im not really upset, just curious about what most guys would do at this time; it is only about a month and a half since i met him. How does it work at this time of year when you just start dating someone? Also , new years eve hasn't come up yet either :-(
Lauriebell82 Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 let him bring up whether or not he wants to see u. i've been with my bf for 4 months and he is at home (his parents live 5 hours away) so i'm not going to be with him for christmas and maybe even New Years. i guess thats a little different but spending the holidays with someone is a big deal for a relationship so dont pressure him just maybe drop a hint that u'd like to see him and see what happens.
Author mygirlygirl Posted December 25, 2006 Author Posted December 25, 2006 let him bring up whether or not he wants to see u. i've been with my bf for 4 months and he is at home (his parents live 5 hours away) so i'm not going to be with him for christmas and maybe even New Years. i guess thats a little different but spending the holidays with someone is a big deal for a relationship so dont pressure him just maybe drop a hint that u'd like to see him and see what happens. Laurie I am sorry you will not see your boyfriend :-( Does he live around you normally; I mean does he LIVE 5 hours away or just visiting 5 hours away and not coming home by new years? I guess I just wonder if it is because we just met about a month ago; and it is still new. I get the feeling that we both are afraid to smother the other one, but i guess i thought I'd get a phone call today; but i have barely heard from him in days. I get a text here and there. I know he has been doing a lot with his nieces and nephews - they are all between 6 mths and a few years old and when he arrives they are all over him lol. we both seem to be afraid to be too clingy, i am not at all, and because I am not (i have my own life outside of him and do a lot of things during the week w/ friends and my own hobbies) so i have not been pressuring him AT ALL; but just wonder how it goes this time of year lol. thanks so much laurie!
Guest Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 I'm in the same situation. I hate it, I always seem to start dating someone right before xmas and it makes it awkward because you never know what to do and what to buy for presents!! haha And yeah this year I just started dating my guy a couple weeks ago though. His family asked me to come over for xmas eve, so I did and it was a great time. I casually offered for him to come over here (Christmas day) and I'm not sure if he will. BTW We see each other probably 3 times a week. I would let him bring it up and don't stress about it. Holidays are quite a big deal so just play it cool this year =)
Art_Critic Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 You should bring up New Years Eve to him... Hint if you have to or come right out and ask him to take you somewhere. I have been with my GF almost 3 months and we were not together for Christmas.. Plans were already set and her Mom lives in another state. We had our Christmas on Friday and have talked everyday. New Years Eve we are going out as we set up plans already
Lauriebell82 Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 no he is visiting his parents 5 hours away and i'm afraid to ask him to come back for my bday (dec 30th) and new years. as of now he is probably staying and i cant understand why. but thats a totally different situation, but hey if u have any insight i would love to hear some. as for the phone call stuff. he probably is busy and maybe thinks ur spending time with your family and he doesnt want to interrupt u by calling u constantly. i havnt talked to my boyfriend a whole lot since he's been home cause he is spending time with family/friends, so dont take it personally. maybe ask him what he is doing for new years and see what he says. thats a good way to bring up the discussion.
Author mygirlygirl Posted December 25, 2006 Author Posted December 25, 2006 You should bring up New Years Eve to him... Hint if you have to or come right out and ask him to take you somewhere. I have been with my GF almost 3 months and we were not together for Christmas.. Plans were already set and her Mom lives in another state. We had our Christmas on Friday and have talked everyday. New Years Eve we are going out as we set up plans already Art Critic It sounds like you and your GF are so cute, that is sweet you had your christmas friday. WE havent done anything for xmas; wednesday he asked me out on a date to the movies and then we hung out at my apt for a little bit watching tv; he held me and kept kissing me on the forehead and hugging me tight (dont ask me why but a guy kissing me on the forehead is so sweet to me lol). Anyway, before he left he turned around and hugged me tight and kissed me; he called me friday night but I was out and didnt want to answer it while i was out with my friends. I called him back later on and got his voice mail (was pretty late by then). Anyway, I havent seen him since then; im not sure why im so antsy about the holidays ; and then everyone asks me "So where is your new boyfriend" ugh it drives me nuts!!! I think people think that because a guy is not up your butt all the time, then something is wrong; but I am trying not to pressure him and taking it very slow. thanks for your reply !
Author mygirlygirl Posted December 25, 2006 Author Posted December 25, 2006 no he is visiting his parents 5 hours away and i'm afraid to ask him to come back for my bday (dec 30th) and new years. as of now he is probably staying and i cant understand why. but thats a totally different situation, but hey if u have any insight i would love to hear some. as for the phone call stuff. he probably is busy and maybe thinks ur spending time with your family and he doesnt want to interrupt u by calling u constantly. i havnt talked to my boyfriend a whole lot since he's been home cause he is spending time with family/friends, so dont take it personally. maybe ask him what he is doing for new years and see what he says. thats a good way to bring up the discussion. Hi Laurie! Hmm, has your boyfriend brought up your birthday or the holidays? Now I can tell you what i would do if i were you. I always think I know the answers for other peoples problems but dont take the advice myself! Anyway, if i were you, and he doesnt call you by Wednesday to make plans for new years eve or your birthday, then I would tell him when he DOES call that you made other plans. Be nice about it and just say "oh I assumed your plans were made for the weekend so I made other plans". Easier said than done though, right? Anyway, I think I read "why men love bitches" too many times; and i guess that is why im waiting for him to call me. I mean i did text him back last night when he said merry christmas, but i Feel like he should call ME (im old fashioned i guess)
Guest Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 i guess that's it! i've been on here for an hour. we made plans to meet tonite [her idea]. i left msn im open, posted in here, cell phone on, cleared the evening. we have spoken constantly [resolving her issues regarding me, not mine about things] - we were both totally clear about what we need tonite, especially after her 'gestures' for me to be the one that called or came over. we are both totally clear about her reaction to that and how that has impacted me and influenced any future - and, i guess by the non-reply, i have my answer. i'll stick around here for one more hour and then pack it in - i really do have other options and i know she does as well.
Author mygirlygirl Posted December 26, 2006 Author Posted December 26, 2006 i guess that's it! i've been on here for an hour. we made plans to meet tonite [her idea]. i left msn im open, posted in here, cell phone on, cleared the evening. we have spoken constantly [resolving her issues regarding me, not mine about things] - we were both totally clear about what we need tonite, especially after her 'gestures' for me to be the one that called or came over. we are both totally clear about her reaction to that and how that has impacted me and influenced any future - and, i guess by the non-reply, i have my answer. i'll stick around here for one more hour and then pack it in - i really do have other options and i know she does as well. Guest Not sure what this post has to do with the initial thread? i think you are on the wrong thread
silentcharon Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 Ahhh. I know christmas's already gone past, but let me tell you what happened with me. I just started dating someone new as well- I was not sure about holiday rules when it came to dating someone new this time of the year. He mentioned that he got me a gift (which I was NOT expecting at all, as we just started dating two weeks ago!), and we agreed to meet for a night to exchange gifts. I honestly wasn't going to get him anything, maybe a card and a bottle of wine, that was it, but because he got me a gift, that gave me the go to get him one! We didn't celebrate christmas with either one of our families, rather, we used the time to meet one another's family. It was a quite enjoyable weekend- I had a wonderful time meeting his family. He got me an extravagant gift too, in which I probably will be making a post on :bunny:
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