VeniceQueen Posted December 26, 2006 Share Posted December 26, 2006 My ex (who broke up with me a couple months ago) just called me almost two hours ago but I missed the call. He knew I might be expecting it because he told me through IM he wanted to call me. What do I do now? Call him back? Or let him do all the work this time? Should I wait and see if he calls back or try to catch him online and see waht he says? I'm kind of nervous. We've talked over IM quite a bit over the last couple of weeks (he always initiates) but it's been a while since we talked on the phone. Lately he's been almost reminiscing about us, teasing me about past things and remembering the good times, and it sounds like he misses me. But I'm not going to get my hopes up too high. I know I have to be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted December 26, 2006 Share Posted December 26, 2006 If he didn't leave a message, I'd just let him try again later. Otherwise, you end up looking too eager. Remember, he dumped you. Link to post Share on other sites
SoundedPlum Posted December 27, 2006 Share Posted December 27, 2006 Same situation! My ex-boyfriend called me last night, but I didn't pick up... and I worry if I don't call him back, he'll take it too personally, he won't call again, yada yada yada... so I keep wondering, "Should I call? Is it desperate? Too soon?"... my advice? Wait a day or two and call... OR see if he calls back. However, sometimes guys have too much pride (i.e. my ex) and are very conscious of how they come off. Yes.. be very, very, VERY careful! Just assume that what you guys have is 100% platonic, unless the whole reminiscing thing gets serious and you can feel it in your gut that he's trying to initiate a "let's get back" kinda deal. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted December 27, 2006 Share Posted December 27, 2006 Be patient guys, if they really want you, they'll come to you. Don't call them back unless a message is left asking you to do so. Even then- don't return the call right away. By not leaving a message, they are going to call again. The thinking behind not leaving a message is to avoid the rejection of leaving a message and not having the call returned. So remain patient. Good luck! D Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 27, 2006 Share Posted December 27, 2006 Be patient guys, if they really want you, they'll come to you. Don't call them back unless a message is left asking you to do so. Even then- don't return the call right away. By not leaving a message, they are going to call again. The thinking behind not leaving a message is to avoid the rejection of leaving a message and not having the call returned. So remain patient. Good luck! D Yep. If they dumped you, THEY should be doing all the pursuing. Don't be eager in the slightest. Continue on with your life as best you can. If they really love you, if they really want to be with you then nothing will stop them. The key here is to not be needy or clingy. And if they want to start again, you need to start from scratch. Be wary of booty calls. Link to post Share on other sites
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