Author blind_otter Posted December 27, 2006 Author Share Posted December 27, 2006 Fair Katie, maybe you're right. My mother did acquiesce to the demands. I don't know exactly what it is about me that they dislike, other than the fact that I live my life for me, unapologetically. My mother used to be a brick sh*thouse, excuse the language. But she used to kick ass and take names. Since Dad died she's withered up and my older sister actually talked mom into giving her my mother's car. She gave my mother her POS with no a/c to drive around and my mother actually agreed to this ridiculous deal. I'm a leper because I didn't manage to marry and reproduce as was expected of me. And I live in sin as well, har har har. No one mentions the fact that my sisters both lived with their husbands for a while before marrying. I am exasperated but what can I do? I was hurt, I didn't want to show it, so I subsumed my hurt into this weird rage directed at my sister. Maybe I'm still secretly upset that she slapped me across the face while we were playing Risk 13 years ago. I have a laundry list of things to be angry about, why am I picking this one to make my day sh*tty? I can't imagine having a direct conversation with anyone in my family. The only one I could manage it was with Dad. I know for a fact that he is rolling around in his grave right now because the family is falling apart, that was his worst nightmare when he was dying. I will try that email trick, Johan. I'll report back after I figuratively (not literally) let her have it. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted December 27, 2006 Share Posted December 27, 2006 I dunno, dude. Being excluded from Christmas isn't that petty, IMO. I'm just saying. Well, that's true but neither here nor there. I don't know the history behind all of that. I was mostly responding to the original post RE: the deathbed promise you heard about your sister making. Also, remember that game telephone? There is a reason hearsay isn't allowed as testimony in court. By the time you get the story there are probably some changes in the facts whether or not they are intentional. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted December 27, 2006 Share Posted December 27, 2006 I have a laundry list of things to be angry about, why am I picking this one to make my day sh*tty? This says volumes to me. All that anger will only eat you up alive and end up being self destructive. There's a new year coming. Let it go... Stop worrying about what other people do and think. Don't stress about what you or they did in the past. Take care of your own happiness and eventually the rest will work itself out in some way. Good luck and all the best Link to post Share on other sites
Author blind_otter Posted December 28, 2006 Author Share Posted December 28, 2006 Well I talked to her on the phone last night and she sounded very tense and manic....her manner of speaking was odd. Loud and pressured, as if she had so much to say that she could barely get the words out -- but it was about nothing. Nonsense. Maybe I was just tired, but the conversation made very little sense to me. I'm going to go over and see her tonight because, to be honest, I was a little concerned. I was angry before, but now it seems odd. The way she was behaving and speaking, that is. Maybe she was really nervous or something. I kept trying to use that "soothing" tone of voice with her but finally had to cut the conversation short because it was a little too much for me, the loud speaking and pressured speech. Weird. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 28, 2006 Share Posted December 28, 2006 Am I being a bitch? Should I just let it go and pretend that I don't know she's a big, fat, fake, phoney? yes you are.....there are times to be honest and a deathbead is not one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 is it because you miss your sis? is this why it bothers you so much? if it did not matter to you what she said then you would feel no need in confronting her about it. I think you miss her and want to be a part of her life which is so understandable!!!! she is after all your sister. why dont you tell her you love her and want to have her in your life and then you can say that you knew about the promise and did she really mean it and work it out between the both of you, Link to post Share on other sites
CaterpillarGirl Posted January 7, 2007 Share Posted January 7, 2007 Not necessarily endorsing this, but it would be kinda funny if weird little notes popped up around her house/work/car that said something like: "You promised me on my deathbed..." That'd make her sit up! Here's a bunny for you, otter. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blind_otter Posted January 8, 2007 Author Share Posted January 8, 2007 is it because you miss your sis? is this why it bothers you so much? if it did not matter to you what she said then you would feel no need in confronting her about it. I think you miss her and want to be a part of her life which is so understandable!!!! she is after all your sister. why dont you tell her you love her and want to have her in your life and then you can say that you knew about the promise and did she really mean it and work it out between the both of you, I do miss her. We used to be close but we are all very different people now. I like your suggestion of being up front about the whole mess, but I'm not sure if she would respond to that well. I suppose there's no harm in trying to open the doors of communication. But to be honest, I don't know how comfortable I would feel being more open with her. I seem to hold everyone at arm's length lately. Sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
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