I am tired of being single.....

[IpAncA]

Hi

 

It has been 5 years plus since I have been single. Not liking it at all anymore.

 

Does not look like MM can leave anytime soon, truly in love with him but know that the longer I stay in love the more alone I will be in a sense.

 

Feel so disconnected to the love thing even though I have someone that I know that I am crazy about.....

 

I do not want to loose the connection that I have with him but Ok... I will admit it I want someone in my life that I can be in a realationship with( not sharing him with another) what the heck does a girl have to do to get this ey?

 

He's not leaving like you said so don't you think that it's time to find someone else who WANTS to be with you?

 

Just take one day at a time like you said and one day you'll be be glad that you didn't end up with him.

 

Cheer up! The new year is just around the corner and a great way to start over. :D

 

BTW I'm glad that you changed your number.

[Curmudgeon]

No, Precillia, you don't have a disease. But you do have a life condition that will be off-putting to any man of character and integrity who may become interested in you.

 

My wife had HUGE trust and abandonment issues when we married and I was aware of most of them. They're why she stayed single and uninvolved for 18 years until I was able to persuade her to take a risk, that being me. Had we not been friends for five years first I doubt she would have.

 

Giving up an important relationship is never easy but sometimes it simply must be done to make way for the greater good.

[hardknocks]

Here is my tale of wo. I spent NY eve alone.. again.

Somehow, someway, not planned.. it just happened, I fell deeply in love with a MW and she with me. I knew better. She pleaded with me, telling me her marriage was over and loveless. That they were too young to get married and he was cheating on her.

She made a strong case, and beacause I loved her I bought every word.

That was THREE years ago. I never thought - EVER - I would EVER be involved in something like this - I have morales and have had great GF's, I have a great job and make lots of money - I could find somebody else.

But - I loved her. The heart doesn't understand labels.. like 'married'.. unfortunately - The heart wants what the heart wants.

 

So, I feel your pain. I have been there.

 

I've told her to make up her mind. Make a decision. Leave me alone. Don't call me. Don't anything me. A million times. But somehow, someway, she says something - makes some excuse and we start again.

 

I will say it again. I loved her.

 

Holidays alone. Birthdays alone. Nights, weekends.. alone and waiting. I couldn't even call her when I wanted her - for fear..

 

It's no way to live.. I finally after THREE years - changed my phone number, email and moved. She could find me - but it won't be easy. I had to do it. To stop myself.

 

The years went by like seconds. Now I feel I have lost them to a lost cause. I thought.. we would be happy one day - she promised me.. everything. I believed her.

 

But I don't anymore. I used to say I went through it for love.

But love shouldn't be torture.

The truth is, in those situation - your feelings don't matter - the situation is what matters - and until your situation changes - your feelings are irrelevant.

 

There is so much pain with cheating - for EVERYBODY. I know it's hard.. but there is only one way..

 

there is only ONE way - stop talking to the MM - if he loves you like he says he will come for you one day - but don't wait. TIME is just as valuable as love.

 

Sometimes the hand you hold on to... is the hand that holds you down.

Don't hold the hand of somebody that will just keep you stuck.. it's time to let go one final and last time.

god bless and good luck.