Should I feel this way about porn?

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now and we live together. We have had a very healthy sex life (I believe for the most part) up until a little bit ago. I have never had a problem with porn, in fact, I used to watch it all the time, and my boyfriend and I would watch it together and it was exciting. He would watch it occassionally by himself but it wasn't a big deal. About a month ago I had an infection that wouldn't allow me to have sex. I would pleasure him other ways but due to medicine and other interferences I couldn't do it often. So he would watch porn to please himself - which was a good comprimise at the time. About a week ago we were able to have sex again and it was just as it was before. But now I wake up to him watching porn on the cpu, or lately I've found tons of porn dled and it makes me angry. I catch him all the time even a few hours after we have sex! I think he might be addicted now because he waits until I fall asleep to watch porn and get himself off, and if I wake up he frantically turns off the screen and tells me to go to sleep. He even yelled at me a few nights ago to go to sleep. And if he comes to bed I wake up to him jacking off right next to me!

 

I told him I had a problem with it this morning, but he reacted kind of pissy about it and told me to stop talking. I don't know if I should be mad, I've never had a problem with porn but now it disgusts me..I feel gross, and used, like I come second and I hate it. I know a lot of people on here have this problem..I need help!

[JadeStar]

My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now and we live together. We have had a very healthy sex life (I believe for the most part) up until a little bit ago. I have never had a problem with porn, in fact, I used to watch it all the time, and my boyfriend and I would watch it together and it was exciting. He would watch it occassionally by himself but it wasn't a big deal. About a month ago I had an infection that wouldn't allow me to have sex. I would pleasure him other ways but due to medicine and other interferences I couldn't do it often. So he would watch porn to please himself - which was a good comprimise at the time. About a week ago we were able to have sex again and it was just as it was before. But now I wake up to him watching porn on the cpu, or lately I've found tons of porn dled and it makes me angry. I catch him all the time even a few hours after we have sex! I think he might be addicted now because he waits until I fall asleep to watch porn and get himself off, and if I wake up he frantically turns off the screen and tells me to go to sleep. He even yelled at me a few nights ago to go to sleep. And if he comes to bed I wake up to him jacking off right next to me!

 

I told him I had a problem with it this morning, but he reacted kind of pissy about it and told me to stop talking. I don't know if I should be mad, I've never had a problem with porn but now it disgusts me..I feel gross, and used, like I come second and I hate it. I know a lot of people on here have this problem..I need help!

 

 

"he even yelled at me a few night ago to go to sleep".

 

'he told me to stop talking." He told you to stop talking while you were trying to commincate how you felt?

 

Ok, well I'm not a sex specialist that deals with porn addictions, but for him to act this way indicates that there is a possiblity he has a problem.

 

You can talk to him all day long till you are blue in the face how you feel about it, but until HE sees how much this bothers you, or he reconizes there may be a problem he has, then I doubt its going to change. So it might be up to you what you feel you need to do. Maybe talk with him again on the matter, if he is rude again or not willing to listen, then maybe you need to tell him, you hope him and his computer have a nice life together.