ohmy3 Posted December 30, 2006 Share Posted December 30, 2006 i want to much Intimacy from my husband... like every night of the week (not all the time) like the bad week every month but i love him a lot even after 10 1/2 yrs. marriage and 2 kids that are growing and not so needy i have now in the last 1-2 yrs. been trying to be able to go back to focus more on us and i love sex w/ him-- he just said last night then tried to take it back after he seen it made me sad it's better when it isn't every night.......... like when we had engaged in sex a few nights before and skipped 1 night that he was more into it which is true i have the marks all over my neck (LOL....) but i just do not know what i am suppose to tell myself i have been a lo more needy for him over the past 6 months i mean like hug him more tell him i love him more do things i never ever thought i would do in the bedroom all my ideas but i guess i have thought they were things he wanted and just to shy to ask i just do not know what to do i am the 1 whom is the aggressor in the relationship and 99% of the time approach him for sex and he always appeases me but isn't to in to to often . i try everything i can poss. do to get him into it like i said things i never have let anyone do to me or doing to him and well i do not know maybe I am m being to needy and want sex and sex acts to much w/ him that i have bored him please help............ we have a good marriage................. but he has also told me i am trying to hard to do things for him more than i ever used to and that he loves me and doing more things for him won't make him love me anymore than he already dose? i keep telling him i love him so much and would do and let him do anything w/ me! and it seems like i am talkign another lanuage than he is.................. i am good in the looks dept. so i wondered if ia m jsut boaring now although when we talked about this issue he says no and he love everytime we have sex but we both seems to be more into it (me more than him most the time) when it is not so often and i feel like alot of times he just has sex w/ me anymore out of gulit as he said so now your mad then he will make a move and that makes me feel bad to i just do not know what at all to think there is not a thing i haven't done sexaul well between us to please him....... what am i doing wrong? am i going to sooner or later total turn him off form wanting sex to often? were 33 an 35 and healthly! and this is so how i find so much pleaseure & connection between us sex and hugs and kisss sometimes when i will go to kiss him be he well don't seem to intrested like not turn away but a quick peck an jsut reallt seems into it when it is liek pitch black in our room welll thats when he seems more INTO it! yes we have talked and talked about it and well then he will seem to want to be into mode like outta gulit ????????????? Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted December 30, 2006 Share Posted December 30, 2006 I think its great after 10 years of marriage and 2 kids later you still feel the same about your husband and still want sex like you do. Alot of people don't have that. However, maybe he feels smothered or feels its to much, if its ALL the time. He can't intiate something you are have already beat him to the punch for. I say back off from initating so much. Maybe give him some time to come to you. JMO. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
BentSpine Posted January 27, 2007 Share Posted January 27, 2007 it's better when it isn't every night.......... like when we had engaged in sex a few nights before and skipped 1 night that he was more into it which is true i have the marks all over my neck (LOL....) I agree with your hubby it's better when circumstances have posponed intimacy for a day or two. But never have I voluntarily wanted to skip a day just to make it feel better afterwards. It's not THAT much better. Besides, skipping a day will make me more exited and make me shoot off a little too quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted January 27, 2007 Share Posted January 27, 2007 I think its great after 10 years of marriage and 2 kids later you still feel the same about your husband and still want sex like you do. Alot of people don't have that. However, maybe he feels smothered or feels its to much, if its ALL the time. He can't intiate something you are have already beat him to the punch for. I say back off from initating so much. Maybe give him some time to come to you. JMO. Jade Yeah I would agree. Don't make this all one sided. Link to post Share on other sites
umbo Posted January 27, 2007 Share Posted January 27, 2007 Hey congratulations 10 years of marriage and after two kids your are still hot vivacious and effervescent. Wow I am so jealous. Your husband says and demonstrates he loves you. I wonder how much is your husband working and how does he feel about himself now that he is headed to forty? I am currently using Dr. Ellen's Light her fire for my marriage and I am getting amazing results. But Please don't get frustrated and seek fulfillment lust excitement outside of your marriage. YOu sound like you have one of the better marriages in this forum. YOu can pursue your hobbies or interests to occupy your energy. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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