Rusty Posted August 5, 2002 Share Posted August 5, 2002 Hi ppl, I've written in quite some time ago regarding me n my gf. She cant forget her ex when shes with me, and shes even been going to his ex's house to stay overnight. Its not the first time already... I know she likes me, but not as deep as she likes her ex. coz it was him who dumped her in the first place. Nows he's back in the picture, and i'm goin out of the picture really soon.... I'm feeling very bad inside now. My gf said somethings which hurt me a lot. We have been seeing each other almost everyday, but yesterday, she went to his house to stay overnight again, when i called her, she told me we should stop seeing each other for the time being, coz she's patched back with him already. I felt really devastated, coz jus couple of days ago, she just said she loved me, now she's doin this..how can she change in such a short time, and after meeting him jus for a day?? She told me many times she needs time, and that she can't bear to let go of both sides. I've been very nice to her, always showing care and concern. Many people told me to give up, coz it's really not worth it. I know you all are going to say that too, but I really don't want to lose her... I'm really sad n confused, coz i really committed a lot in this relationship.. Is there anything i can do to get her back?..hope to hear something positive from u all...thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Donna Posted August 5, 2002 Share Posted August 5, 2002 I am sorry that you are going through this, but i must say that to continue investing into this relationship is only going to make you sadder and sadder.... I would recommend you stop seeing this woman totally, she is flip flopping back and forth between you and her ex, and she is using you for her emotional tampon... He is her ex for a reason, and those reasons are still there, and when they crop up, guess who she comes to cry on? You sound like a very nice guy, maybe a little too nice, but you have to cut this off...Nobody wants to hurt, unfortunately it is something that you are going to have to go through to grow... Again, i am very sorry for your pain, but sometimes you have to pull a tooth to get relief, and i think you need to end this relationship as fast as possible... Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 5, 2002 Share Posted August 5, 2002 Not only is there nothing you can do to get her back, you should be wanting to know how many ways there are to get as far away from her as possible. She is playing you like a fiddle and YOU are allowing yourself to be a fool. With every breath you take around her, she is having less and less respect for you. No woman on the planet has respect for a man who keeps going after her once she has announced she is going to spend the night with another man and wanting to resume a relationship with him. SHE HAS GIVEN YOU SUFFICIENT NOTICE FOR YOU TO GET OUT OF HER LIFE....SO DO IT!!! If there ever may even be a slight chance of the two of you getting back together, you are screwing it up totally by being a lovesick wimp. Women don't like that. Hey, don't take my word for it...I'm just a stranger here. Go talk to people you know well and ask them. Stop calling her, stop emailing her, stop visiting her, cease every kind of contact and just put her out of your life. By having anything to do with her at all, you're only making a fool of yourself and prolonging your pain. I know...I've been right where you are. You've got to get strong. This love stuff might feel good but it ain't for wimps and wussies. You've got to take total and complete control of it. So move on and don't look back. Personally, I don't see how you could ever want to have another minute to do with a girfriend who started going and spending the night with another guy (ex or not) right in the middle of her relationship with you. You ought to be mad as hell at her and not want anything to do with her ever again in this lifetime. Get some respect for yourself, man...because, if you don't, nobody else will I promise you. This lady's respect for you is going down by the day (if she has any remaining at all by now) as long as you continue your quest to get her back. She's wondering the same thing I am. Why in heavens name would you want a girl back who has dumped on you like she has and who is madly in love with another guy despite all the time she has been with you?????????????????????? Let this be a lesson. Don't date girls recently out of long term relationships. Question them. If they aren't over an ex, don't even touch them. You were a rebound to her and nothing more. Face the music and jump start your life again. And be strong and quit this foolishness...NOW!!! You make men look bad!!! This has happened to many a few times...I know the drill real well. All the above is coming straight from a guy who's got it down pat, has the T-Shirt and the diploma! Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted August 5, 2002 Share Posted August 5, 2002 Originally posted by Rusty but I really don't want to lose her... You already DID lose her. And it really doesn't sound like you ever had her. Just get away from her, she's playing your emotions and hurting you. You have no control over what she thinks or feels and you can't change it. The ONLY thing you can do is move on. Just think....there is someone out there just waiting for you, and she'll be really good to you. Link to post Share on other sites
jimthzz Posted August 5, 2002 Share Posted August 5, 2002 I feel your pain. unless your in it just for some random sex, it's time to move on. She's playing you and her ex. Nothing like a gal who keeps her irons in the fire to warm the cockles of your heart! Link to post Share on other sites
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