2007 should be good for you!

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Hi All,

 

I had 2 sad good-bye this year. I broke up with a guy who I had dated over 7 years and a guy for 4 months (he broke up with me). I come from outside of the U.S. and it was my first time in the U.S. to spend time alone for X'mas and NYE... Some of you who are looking at this site today could be on the same place as myself (even though you are with your family or friends). Thus, I just wanted to send a message.

 

When I had a BF, I thought that I would be very sad, more than sad, to be alone like this. Although I denied it, I was afraid to be alone. But, I could do it on X'mas and can do it today. I look at a mirror and can still smile, meaning I am OK. I came to the U.S. by myself to go to school. I could not speak English well back then, so it was very hard to make friends. I left my family, friends, BF at the time, for my education and future career... It was hard to do it alone, but the experience certainly built inner confidence to me. Although I admit that it was not easy to be alone this year, I again feel that this helps me to build a confidence; hey, I can do this! A baby step, but I am moving. I will not be afraid to be alone and will not pick/stay with a wrong guy for this reason. My 2007 should be good!

 

The following quote/messages helped me get over my sadness and really think about who I am, what I want, who I want, what mistakes I made, and what I want to do next time I find a right guy. Some are written by authors in my country. I am translating.. Also, some are written by authors in English, but I have read in my language and I am back translating. So, they may not be perfect. If you know some below in English, please feel free to correct them! I am listing randomly, but hope some of these may help you get what you want and be happy next year!

 

“Love does not consist of two people looking at each other, but of two people looking in the same direction.” Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

“A true happy person is not the one in certain situations, rather the one who possesses certain mind set.” Hugh Downs

“The first most important things are to be independent, stand by yourself, and enjoy being alone. Two people who can do these can develop strong, healthy, and long-lasting relationship.” Anthony Nordy

“If you want to develop a special relationship, try not see and treat it too special. See him the way he is by looking at what he does. Allow him to be the way he is, which is the most special treatment you can provide for the person.” Anne Wilson

“Move to “I will be there for him” from “I want him to be there for me.” Move to “I want to love him” from “I want him to love me.” If you can truly love him, a chance of him leaving you will decrease. If you misunderstand the true love, he will eventually leave you. Moreover, once you truly love someone, you won’t get damaged when he leaves you. Damage exists when your desire is not fulfilled.”

“You get healed when you do something. You do not get healed when you are loved by someone.”