thickasabrick Posted December 31, 2006 Share Posted December 31, 2006 I'll try to make this quick. I've never done a "thread" before. I just can't find or talk to anyone who has this problem. I met her 10 years ago and knew she was the love of my life. I'm white.......she's asian. After 8 years of once-a-year "hi-howya-doins?" she asks me out to lunch. We have been inseparable since. At our first lunch I was totally bummed out she told me she was attracted to african americans. I did not ask for this information.....she volunteered it to me. To this day (2 years later) I am still trying to figure out why I needed to hear this. She continued to remind me of this after we had become physical and it reached the point of me having to say "stop telling me about this....you are being hurtful"........... I felt I needed to confront her with this because we were moving forward and if there was any truth to this I don't think it would be something I would be comfortable with. Sound reasonable??? Anyways, I let her know how uncomfortable this has made me feel. Her responses have been wishy-washy and ranging from "it's not true"...to "it doesn't mean I have to act on it"...to "it's not a physical attraction"....(can there be any other attraction??)....to psycho-analytical musings over her need to mislead others due to her previous sheltered world...to the other extreme "I hate them"....and on and on ad nauseum. I just seek the truth and feel she is not being forthcoming with me about what the real story is. I am a man and I can take the truth. I give her my soul and I place her above all things........I am not insecure about myself.....I just don't want to give my soul to someone and later get burned for an issue that has been a red flag since day one.......Sound reasonable??? Link to post Share on other sites
shoesies05 Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 just thought i'd point out that although she's generally attracted to another "type", isn't she with you? So, clearly she's attracted to you too and likes you! Now if she's like constantly telling you it like you're not enough for her it's a problem. But, i doubt it. I would always say to my bf whenever we saw a brad pitt movie... that he's "type". but jokingly, and i would also joke with him that angie is his. i wouldnt worry about this too much. Link to post Share on other sites
shoesies05 Posted January 1, 2007 Share Posted January 1, 2007 and yes there can be an attracting other than physically: it can be the attraction to the stereotypical african american and the way they act and see things in life, and the different culture. Link to post Share on other sites
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